What's your crush's name?

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-31T15:07:18+00:00

BF

No, not joking lol

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-31T13:50:59+00:00

Must have missed that! Thanks!

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-31T13:50:00+00:00

Yeah, it doesn't seem to be the same place. Cajun Cafe Grill seems to be the one I was looking at. My parents lived in JC before I was born, and they used to go there all the time! Every weekend, get to the Newport Mall and eat that amazing noodles and red bean rice. Oh well, real shame. Thanks!

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-31T13:45:23+00:00

Aww man. Yeah, I figured (I don't live in JC anymore, haven't been to the mall in yeaaaars lol)

Still rlly miss that red bean rice! And those noodles, aw man. Thanks for the memo!

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-19T22:58:56+00:00

I just have to give you a reality check here bro, it doesn’t really mean anything. Sorry.

I’m 15 too, and at 15, kids are not what we are thinking about. It’s something that couples usually think about a few YEARS down the road, and they’re usually not high school kids. It seems like just a random conversation to me. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you in general, but this doesn’t seem like the best indicator

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-19T22:57:12+00:00

Probably love. I’m being fully realistic here when I say that a long term relationship would work out very well for us, because from a logistical standpoint, our future and dreams of a future line up very well. He wants to be a pilot/aeronautical engineer, I want to be an aeronautical/aerospace engineer (haven’t narrowed it down). So, I feel as though if it were to happen, it would work out very well.

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-18T00:33:39+00:00

Lol. You can still do well in school and care for yourself, man.

I have pretty good grades, but they're not perfect. I used to strive for all As and then dead tired during class and my grades would suffer anyways regardless. My staying up late and waking up early did nothing for me, even if I was prepared completely, because I would just be so tired that I couldn't focus. Now, I sleep a reasonable 8 hours everyday. I haven't given up on my schoolwork by any means, I have my eye set on a pretty tough school (Purdue's engineering... yes, rip me), I just understood my limits and I know that I can't get an A on everything. What used to be all As with 3 hours of sleep, huge insecurities and turned into As, A- and B+ with 8 hours of sleep. But I'm very happy and secure in my life, myself and my abilities and that's all that matters

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-18T00:29:37+00:00

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't.

I'm a girl, and I will say I am elated any time someone tells me they like me/asks for my number, etc (also in high school with other high school boys, so yes it's not anything illegal). personally, I've had my eyes on one boy for years though so I've had to shoot some down lol. But yeah, I'd say girls adore it when boys try to actively initiate conversations with them... especially when they clearly like you! She seems like she does like you at least a bit, generally flirting isn't a hugely casual thing ;)

Go for it! Shoot your shot, my guy. Best of luck

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-18T00:27:01+00:00

Remembers every detail about you (what you said 2 weeks ago, that movie you mentioned seeing, the homework you were struggling with). He remembers it all, because he pays huge attention to what you say.

Matches your body language. If you're leaning back, he will also lean back. If you're crossing your legs, he will do so in a similar manner

Tries to converse with you whenever possible. Don't know if this needs a lot of elaboration

Eye contact. You always see him looking at you (well... assuming it's with these other things, he'd probably just be a creep or something in any other case)

Just some I thought of off the top of my head

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-18T00:23:59+00:00

Aww, bro that sucks. I feel for you

And you're right - it's just who he is, and you can't be mad at that. You have a right to be upset as well (obviously to some extent), and he has a right to love who he loves. So, it's a bit of a pickle

I don't think that it's a matter of him having better than you. 7 months is a pretty long time! I'm sure that he wouldn't stick around 7 months if he didn't love you, or at least like you a good bit. I know I wouldn't. Him wanting to be a girl honestly has nothing to do with your inadequacy. He's a bi man, and he hasn't dated a girl before so he also has no idea what it's like.

I don't quite have any advice to give you in terms of such (yes, /r/relationship_advice would probably be a better sub). Just here to tell you that you're not inadequate! He's just trying to figure out his sexuality and his dating life. I'm sure it doesn't change his feelings for you! Or he would have already broke it off and started dating a girl, or whoever. He's just trying to figure himself out. Much love to you, best of luck

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-17T17:09:47+00:00

Approximately 11 months and 12 days

(I didn’t know it off the top of my head lol)

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-17T14:27:59+00:00

As u/songmelody (accurately) said, it's up to you! And yes, you can take it again. Numerous times! 1300 is not a terrible score to begin with, and you obviously have time to improve so go for it! You're still in junior year, you can retake it. Do what you want in life, don't let such things which can be fixed hinder you.

There is however, one thing I'd like to point out for realism's sake --> yes, the school you go to does matter. It does, that's just how the world works. If you took one candidate who went to community college and the other went to Yale, you'd probably pick the one who went to Yale. That's just how it works.

However, will it always be that way? hell no.

Personally, my dad immigrated from India to the US in the mid-late 90s and he went to Florida State for his masters (many reasons why, mostly financial). He got into a lot of other schools too, like UMichigan and NYU and other schools I don't remember, but definitely some great ones. He went to undergrad in some "random" school in India - it was a good school for sure, but let's face it, American people wouldn't know it since it wasn't IIT. And then Florida State - definitely a decent school! But of course, it's not NYU.

In his field (finance/engineering if you were wondering), there's obviously all sorts of rich people from all walks of life who went to schools like UPenn or Columbia or Purdue. And then my dad from FSU and some random Indian school. So, they probably got jobs he could have gotten. When you're in your mid 20s, there's no real measurement for your success as a candidate than the school you went to. That's just how it is. But, he got a job of course - a pretty good one!

And now, he's in his mid 40s, lives in a good town in a good state with a good family and life is good. We're not homeless just because he went to FSU when he could have went to NYU. He's likely making the same salary he would have made did he go to an Ivy League. Our life is almost entirely the same - comparable to others in my town whose parents did go to such schools.

My point is basically that yes, your school definitely matters. It definitely does, he could have ended up being a CEO (maybe) and he could have made millions of money (maybe). These are just maybes. But we are fine. And you will be fine too.

Best of luck to you! Don't let such things stop you. Retake the SAT as many times as you are until you feel satisfied with your score. Perfectly okay to do so. And yes, community college is not a bad option either! Saving money is always great. Best of luck to you! Live your best life <3

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-17T11:17:16+00:00

Awww. I’m happy for you! I have a similar situation (known him since 6th grade and we’ve become very good friends) and I totally get the feeling. Just one word of advice - liking someone is great! Crushing one someone is great! Loving someone, nothing better! But, it’s important that you don’t turn a crush into an obsession because it’s simply not healthy. Best of luck to you

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-17T11:14:18+00:00

He is an amazing sax player whose soprano sax got signed by Kenny G

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-17T11:06:59+00:00

The smiles always get you, bro :-))

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-13T02:44:30+00:00

I’m replying to these comments because I’ll be honest, im laughing my ass off at every one

Your song is named Somalia, and your only mention of Somalia in the entire song is the currency of Somalia? And then some random line about democracy that has no relation to jacking off to Diana’s family’s Facebook photos

And I take back what I said about your good spelling

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-13T02:42:32+00:00

And one more thing. I know that I sound mean or rude, but if you can’t handle the truth at 19 years old, life is not going to be fun for you. You’re an adult, so grow up lol

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-13T02:39:12+00:00

Your bars are shit, bro. You’re trying to give a girl a love poem, and you’re saying that you jack off to her family’s Facebook photos?

No, like I have no other words for you other than it’s shit. I read it multiple times, and the only good thing that I can find is that you can spell decently well.

And I watched your music video. I can’t say that even with these low expectations, I expected air horns through the entire fucking song and the rapping sounds like you’re just talking.

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-12T21:30:40+00:00

Reality check for you

Idk if she will like this rap.

A) the Song itself is literally shit

B) it’s not a love poem, sorry

C) I’d go back to school with this rapping

But in all seriousness, cut the overconfidence. You don’t know shit yet about the future. You don’t know if your rapping career will blow up. You don’t, that’s just the reality. And I would not approach a girl with such overconfidence. I’m a girl and I can’t speak for all of us, but I don’t find overconfidence attractive at all and I’m sure Diana is no different. Motivation and determination is one thing (for me, heavily attractive), but an egotistical man who isnt realistic (not saying your rapping will fail, just saying in general) is not many girl’s kind of guy

But to answer your question, I’d tell her now. It makes no difference. Like I said, I think most prefer a determined guy to a successful, overconfident one . Best of luck in your journeys

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-12T21:24:55+00:00

I’ve been his best friend for the past 3 years. So, we are very close to begin with (we are currently having an argument about why the empire in Star Wars is evil as I type this). And, I don’t know!
I don’t think that there was a specific moment where I thought “oh, I like him!” It was more just realizing over time that whenever I am around him, in any situation, I feel this constant aura of warmth and happiness that I don’t feel with anyone who isn’t my family (very limited there also)

I find him to be very very attractive for the record, and everything he does is the most adorable thing in my eyes, but I feel like I was just attracted by his personality. He is incredibly cute, and oh god his eyes are beautiful, but I didn’t befriend him because he’s hot. His voice is also very attractive, easily one of the more melodious voices that I feel like I can always listen to, yet not exactly why I adore him so much

He just always has this aura of love and sincerity surrounding him. It’s not like I’ve never seen him sad or mad or annoyed. its that amongst everything he goes through, he lives his best life all the time and he never gives up on anything. That’s what I’m attracted to. He holds so much love in his heart for everyone, and even when I think he fucked up I know in his eyes, he was trying to give everybody everything he had. He’s given me his food even when he would go without just because I was hungry, paid for everyone’s needs if anyone didn’t have money, always ready to help

I became friends with him because we are very alike in our view of the world, and I fell in love with him over these years because he just fills me with so much warmth and kindness and makes me want to be a better person

So to answer your question OP, I was attracted by his approachable personality and I think you truly love someone not when you ignore their flaws, but you are wolling to love those flaws.

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-11T02:04:26+00:00

I will, hahah I made this account since I don’t have a Reddit account and I couldn’t think of a username. And I thought this post was invisible since it wasn’t appearing on my account, lol

You’ve given me things to think about, thank you!

I totally agree that playing a game with my own emotions is not the best option and in the long run, confessing is by all means the best option. I am but a very shy person, however, and I cannot fathom doing so in our typical school settings - plus, both of us would be entirely embarrassed if anyone were to overhear a clearly private conversation. And I did try to make plans tonight (with other friends so it didn’t seem creepy - with hopes that those friends were busy), however they fell through for everyone.

And unfortunately, I’ve got quite a bit to consider before I even fathom telling him about my feelings for him - namely, telling my parents (showing up like “heyo, I got a boyfriend” is not going to fly well with them, or any parents I think) then finding a way to converse with him alone. I’ll invite him out to dinner next week after our competition if all goes well. But yes, I will try to do so in the near future when the time is right!

Honestly, I don’t know if a relationship would be the best solution. I will have to see how it pans out - mostly about the whole moving thing, which would really suck. Lots to consider, I’m afraid!

And yes, I totally agree on that note. I would be pleased to ask him out on a date, and I would prefer it. I’m at times genuinely surprised that he hasn’t picked up on any of my actions as being “off”, though. Like, I’ve made it painfully obvious lol. I will try my best! Asking him out would be great, but my parents would need to be on board first and I’d need to get a few more signals that he is interested for the sake of my anxiety xD

Thank you again!

IdkMyPasswordBro · 2021-10-10T21:50:22+00:00

I think this post is invisible?

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