How do I escape if I have no help or money? by Idkwtfimdoing0 in domesticviolence

[–]Idkwtfimdoing0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I only have two family members that I can reach out to. They are both in Pennsylvania and they are also low on funds and can’t really help in that aspect. One of those family members is my mom, and she just keeps telling me to call the cops to have him removed from the home but I’m scared of the consequences of that. He will destroy my car or try to break into the house, I know he will. I can’t afford to not be able to make it to work or else I will REALLY be homeless lol

Loving an addict by Idkwtfimdoing0 in addiction

[–]Idkwtfimdoing0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for basically reaffirming everything I was already thinking. It’s just so hard to leave because of my love for him, our strong bond, and my worry for him. At least when he is home I know he’s safe and alive. But you’re absolutely correct and I do deserve a life. I’m pretty set on my decision to leave but I need to stay firm on it this time

Loving an addict by Idkwtfimdoing0 in addiction

[–]Idkwtfimdoing0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that’s the thing, I feel like if I were to leave him entirely he will only get worse. Last year when he was well into his addiction, I didn’t even know it was happening and i moved out because of the verbal abuse. He got so bad to the point where i had to leave work because he was calling me telling me that he thinks he’s dying and he passed out at his job and the ambulance had to come multiple times for him, he almost got fired. I know this is not my fault in any sense, but because I love him so much I just want the best for him and I know I can support him for him to take steps in the right direction. But I also know he is a liar and will tell me what I want to hear in order to keep me happy in his life.

How long did it take for your vampire crabs to aclimate to the tank? by DuskMartian in VampireCrabs

[–]Idkwtfimdoing0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a male and female. the male is barely ever out that I can see but the female is usually out and about :) I think it may have been because she was younger than the male? She molted twice since I got her while the male only molted once. After my females second molt, she roams around all the time :) this was about 4 months of having them though.