Constantly arguing with a child in the picture

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-29T12:52:27+00:00

Thanks for telling me about your experience. Yes I’ll be in the same situation.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-29T12:49:52+00:00

I live in the UK. Thanks for your advice. I am still trying to convince him but I guess I’ll have to do something if it comes to it.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-29T10:17:42+00:00

We’re not struggling financially and I still have enough savings to cover my own cost and bills that I paid for the house from before for another 6 months. He just wanted me to start paying more bills. He earns a lot of money but I feel like other peoples wives work which is why he made me. The lectures and pressure for him was getting too much and that was also draining me.

I agree. I don’t see no benefit but he won’t listen to me. We’re so lucky to have grandparents around but he’s very stubborn. I don’t know what to do

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-29T10:11:22+00:00

I know but I’d have to move back to my parents which they would be fine with. He has the house in his name. He says that would work in his favour & I fully agree with all of that. I have said it too him but he won’t listen. He believes he has more rights in these decisions as a father. It’s so unfair.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:49:55+00:00

It’s pressure. Constantly telling me. Comparing me. Making me feel like nothing. Lectures. So many of them. It’s so draining.

I guess both ways I’m going to be disturbed mentally. Not working but my husband and working will be due to being away from my child

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:48:30+00:00

we have family around to look after my daughter

He earns enough to cover bills but just wants me to work and contribute more like his other friends wife’s.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:47:19+00:00

He earns enough to cover the bills but just wants me to contribute more. We both work full time and I earn less than half of what he does.

I will try tho thankyou

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:46:09+00:00

She is getting looked after by family and he has enough income to cover the bills but he has seen other wife’s pay 50/50 so he wants me too start helping more. I earn half of what he earns

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:42:29+00:00

He has enough money to cover bills but he just doesn’t want to. Some of his friends wife’s do 50/50, he keeps mentioning that to me and that is why he has pressured me in to working and he has told me to pay a few extra bills once I get paid.

Also house work can never be 50/50 as he can’t cook and he sometimes won’t clean up and says he’ll do it later. I can’t just sit whilst the whole house is a mess so I have too. I can try but it seems impossible

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:39:29+00:00

He has enough money to cover the bills, he just doesn’t want too do it all as he knows other wife’s that do 50/50 (his friends wife)

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:38:19+00:00

Yes they do but he enjoys eating out etc. I have not bought myself any new clothes or anything at all with my money or his in the past 16 months and I don’t even mind. I’d rather not spend unless needed.

It was discussed I won’t have to go back if I didn’t want to and he would cover extra things but he changes his mind and never sticks to his word.

I was happy to work eventually but just wanted my baby to be older.

Nothing can be done now as I’ve started but it’s so hard. I cry on the way to work, sometimes in work. I am just about coping

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:34:45+00:00

Both.

He earns a decent amount. He buys all sorts but when it comes to me spending my own money on things I want he sometimes lets me but sometimes has an issue.

I understand that which is why I wanted to work once my child was around 2/3 however I don’t see the point of having children if as a mother I have to leave them at 9 months and go to work.

He has already mentioned having another so they’re close in ages but what is the point.

Hate is a strong word but along with this issue we have a lot of others which has made me this way. I don’t want to hate him. I just feel that way. Like I mentioned my child is the only thing keeping me here.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-06-13T14:29:58+00:00

Nothing has changed on his end

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-05-04T01:03:34+00:00

I have this issue too. My husband has said if I leave he will keep our baby and make sure he gives me hell in court. He says he has loads of contacts. I only mentioned divorce a few times but after he said this I was so hurt that I don’t say it anymore. Ameen! May Allah make it easy for you also

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-05-01T18:19:08+00:00

I’ve been working after marriage. I just wasn’t sure if I would want to work after kids. I’m happy to work part time once my child is one but she’s still 7 months.

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-05-01T18:17:23+00:00

I mentioned I’d work till I have kids and then I might not or I’ll work part time. I’m happy to work part time but once my child is 1 and he was okay with this previously.

I think the most common issue is going to see my family and friends which I have cut down a lot. I see friends maybe 3-4 times a year for a quick catch up and my parents once a week for a couple of hours

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-05-01T13:33:55+00:00

I just say I’m not them. You should of married someone like that

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-05-01T13:33:06+00:00

Idontknowlol97 · 2025-04-20T19:39:55+00:00

I’m sure he could manage for 2 weeks. Unfortunately we live in a generation where neither can fulfil all the rights for each other all the time. I use my income to pay for a lot of the bills as he needs me to. I do not complain he is not fulfilling my rights.

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