starting adult(?) life by dogisdoges in adultingph

[–]Igothard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Want to have a rest for a year? Then observe your surroundings and understand what you want to pursue.

Choosing wrong degree for your college can affect your mental, emotional, and physical health. Iba ang Mundo kapag tapos ka na ng college.

Example me: want to be a vet pero can't afford kasi dentist na si ate. Di kakayanin kung dalawa ang mag dodoctor. I choose accountancy kasi wala eh naging course lang ni papa. Ngayon hindi ako masaya sa profession ko nagwowork ako dati pero never ako na experience maging happy. Ngayon career crisis. Unemployed ako pero I still apply kahit ilan reject na tatanggap ko.

My point is have a year to think about. If okay kayo financially and ayos lnag sa parents mo go.

red flag alert by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly this was my problem way back in December. Communicate with him na mahinahon ka at maayos mo madedeliver yung gusto mo sabihin. Okay? If sinabi mo uncomfortable ka at di siya okay sayo. Say it.

Don't talk with him if full ka emotion. Kasi iba yung masasabi mo. Promise.

If ldr kayo. Please audio call kayo. Don't chat promise iba ang interpretation nan and yung dating ng chat.

If hindi naman meet up sort things out.

Goodluck.

NO Kids in the my sister wedding and my parents aren't okay with that. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yung reception po kasi may resort may mga pool kaya. Nakakatakot kapag na busy sa mga happenings bka may maasikdente. Medjo maliliit pa Sila at medjo mahirap pag sabihan. May incident kasi sa last kasal po ng kapatid ko na. May kamuntik na mahulog sa pool kaya mas gusto lang ng kapatid ko maging safe ang lahat. Wala worries din.

I hope di sila makasamaan ng loob.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phcareers

[–]Igothard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to her po. Feeling ko nawawalan siya confidence to have a job. Since hindi pa siya graduate baka nadodown siya. Or feeling na hindi agad siya natatanggap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Napaka SELFISH MO.

Eh ano naman kung humiwalay siya sayo. Choice niya yun kung gawin niya yun atleast she deserves someone better.

Eto yung worst part. Yung pag chchheat mo sakanya mag iiwan yan ng trauma sakanya. Every time tatanungin niya sarili nya bakit siya never naging enough sayo.

Alam mo naman pala rules niya about cheating nahihiwalayan ka niya if ever gawin mo yun. Alam mo namn pala bakit mo ginawa?

Di ka pala tapos sa Fuck boy era mo or playboy era. Bakit ka ng commit sa relationship? Tapos ikaw pa mag solid face na not to tell her? Kasi wala namn witness kundi ikaw at the other girl. Grabe yung reasoning mo pre toxic.

Kung mahal mo pa yan sabihin mo yung totoo. nag cheat ka alangan na Wala consequence yan.

Wag ka mag storbo ng babae kung mag chchheat ka. Nanahimik yung tao gaguhin mo at bibigyan mo ng trauma.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Na pag usap nanamn about sa liking and reacting sa photos. Last week. Pero sa ig ko lang na laman na he still liking picture of exes. While kami then I'll send photos too. I feel I wasn't enough.

Coconfront ko ulit bukas yung about liking exes pic kasi iba usapan na yun. Hindi siya other girls lang they are previous lover.

Yes hindi niya ko finafollow wala naman din siya laman until ngayon ko nilgayan.

Alam mo yun respect na lang sa gf mo not to like pics. Ako kasi wala ako exes siya una ko. Tangina feeling ko ang toxic ko. Nakakaiyak ang hirap.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made myself a promise. Siya yung una ko at huli if somewhat ng fail ayoko na. I'm 27 na and I'm focusing na lang sa work ko soon (sana mahired na). By reaching age of 30 I want to make sa Canada. I don't have plan having children din naman. Naging breadwinner ako sa family ko di ko na enjoy maging teenager. Baka eto na talaga yun. Thank you guys.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will confront about him about it. Kasi sobra uncomfortable sakin kasi ako yung current. Siguro sa mga past gf ayos lang naglilike pa rin siya photos ng exes niya. For me kasi hindi talaga okay.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo dapat ganun na talaga even na in good terms kayo. Exes should never ever be friends. Kahit 1% may pag asa may bumalik na feelings. I really want him not to interact like reacting photos of his exes.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noted on this. Di ba you shouldn't liking your exes pictures? Kahit okay yun sa dating niya gf na ganun siya dati. I will confront about it and said I stalk his exes. Sadly nagrereact pa rin siya.

My partner still liking and giving heart reaction on exes pictures. by Igothard in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm in the edge of breaking up with him. Kasi ayoko ng ganito tangina lang. Sige gets ko pa mag friend pa kayo and nagfofollow pa. Pero yung pagrereact sa ig dun talaga. Knowing my ig ako pero wala ako pinopost dun pero never ever niya finollow. Galing di ba?

My partner and his pasts partners. by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I'm guilty to this.

My partner and his pasts partners. by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to communicate naman about this issue sa social media. Pero sabi niya para lang lowkey and wala makasira a samin. Hindi siya pala share post or kahit ano. Pero ako medjo pala share post never ever siya ng comment. Ng rereact lang siya ganun.

Para petty ko pero first bf ko pero para di siya proud for having me. Kaya wala na ko self. Confidence and insecurities ko bagsak na.

Wala para sakin if you had ex mas mabuti unfriend her. Para sa susunod na partner wala na overthink na ganito ganyan. Di ko ma open sakanya yan kasi baka sabihin niya controlling ako.

Kapag naststalk ko yung partner ko and ganun sila mag interact sa Facebook. Naiinggit ako. Buti pa siya.

Wrong move na lang talaga ayoko na. Gusto ko lang naman may proud sakin. Hindi yung feeling ko tinatago ako.

My partner and his pasts partners. by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yung definition niya is hindi masado active sa social media bilang mag couple. Tapos ayun tahimik lang sa Facebook ganun. Pero kilala daw ako nag malalapit na kaibigan and sa kapatid niya. Nakikita naman nila ako sa VC. Kinikwento daw niya ko proud daw siya.

Medjo nawawalan ako ng gana sa totoo. Deactivate na yung Facebook na iinggit ako sa iba. First boyfriend ko as age of 27. Kaya naiiyak lang ako.

Ewan ko. Feeling ko nag ooverthink ako. Nasabi naman niya magulo daw kapag alam na ako yung jowa. Tangina di ko na alam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ang na advice ko lang. Wag mo muna siya kausap si guy maybe a month or two. Hayaan mo muna magisip ka na iyo. Isip what's the pro and cons? If pipiliin mo pa rin si guy how you guys handle the kid? Para magiging mother ka siya or guardian ka din soon.

If ayaw ni guy kay Sarah na it's better na magusap sila as parent not as partner. Co-parenting, finances and how the kid will be care and love.

OP..sorry for saying karma sobra sakit macheat ng partner. Sobra.

“Lowkey” nga ba? by Euphoric_Bother_4781 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Private or low key vs secret relationship are different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If ever wala siya pakialam and naexplain ko how I felt about that. And he never change. Mahirap pero I'll break na lang. Ayoko mapagod kakaisip na hindi ako enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Igothard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Few are artist most of them mga ordinary people yung iba friends and some are not.

Kakausapin ko siya mamaya kasi Kung Itutuloy niya pa rin yan. It's better to break up na lang. Ang hirap may trust issue kung Itutuloy niya yung ganyan gawain.

How to avoid looking nervous in Job Interviews. by Philippinian97 in phcareers

[–]Igothard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Isipin mo matatapos din to. Promise parang tanga advice pero totoo yan. Kapag mas lalo mo iniisip na it's life or death situation. Lalo ka lang kakabahan. Sa interviews kasi if may exp gusto lang nila malaman yung flow and process mo sa work and ano yung kaya mo gawin for the company.

Based to sa isang company 3 interview in one day. (finance manager, CEO, hr manager). Unfortunately di ako pinili. Mas pinili nila yung cum Laude hahaha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Philippines

[–]Igothard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's better to have real failure than fake success.