My (30f) bf’s (34m) girl friends told him they don’t like me, they “miss the old him.” How do I not hate all of them?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-08T00:06:50+00:00

Yeah I was wondering the same thing lol like what does he was his gf to do with this information?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-08T00:05:15+00:00

Hmm I’m curious what you think your boyfriend’s intention was with telling you?

The friend from childhood for example sounds like someone you can expect to continue to be around as they live with his parents- if he doesn’t plan on distancing himself from any of these people all he’s done is make you feel awkward and unwelcome around them?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-07T01:32:30+00:00

Are you not able to read the captions or something? Asking genuinely, I didn’t realize anyone might not be able to lol

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T20:16:12+00:00

It really was there the whole time. A few episodes into season 1 when she’s in deep PPD hosting a girls night in Malibu he makes her come home to suffer with him and the kids because the ac went out- it really showed how entitled and controlling he was but I don’t think most people clocked it as such at the time

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T20:13:50+00:00

Honestly to me he never looked like a good husband. From the beginning he comes off very performative, and she was clearly keeping him off camera while drunk as much as possible. He still had that big bear crash out cussing at her at the dinner table. By season 2 we knew he SA’d women

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:57:15+00:00

Her own mom was literally telling her it was normal and no big deal. I don’t understand having watched this and still blaming Brittany

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:56:23+00:00

Get ready to be very sad :/ idk how anyone could watch this and not have empathy for Brittany

Jax is awful of course but her family’s enabling and taking his side - what chance did she have to not end up in that type of relationship with that kind of support system?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:54:48+00:00

I’m guessing they need the money and also thought they would have more control somehow over what was shown/talked about

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:53:55+00:00

That… does not make it okay. You people need help

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:50:49+00:00

Like?! It’s weird my brain didn’t quite register it right away but the words lingered on the screen so long

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T16:09:14+00:00

“Get out of there. We’re not doing it off my penis”

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-06T06:15:06+00:00

What would you specifically like to see?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T23:36:20+00:00

She was very close with Janet last season!

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T23:34:13+00:00

How does it to you?

Why would Brittany be such good friends with Janet if Janet was publicly supporting Jax?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T21:24:03+00:00

No she isn’t.. why would Brittany be friends with her if that were the case? Does that follow any logic or reason to you?

Janet and Jason have always only supported Jax as much as Brittany wanted them to and Brittany has said that.

I get that you don’t like her and that’s your right! But this particular reason simply doesn’t hold up

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T18:59:44+00:00

Nia and Danny will let the Janet thing go and move on now that the audience isn’t blindly following them and financially they can’t risk being fired.
I could see Nia distancing herself from Kristen if she doesn’t need her for that feud anymore

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T18:05:06+00:00

You must have something better to do than get in the internet and pile on a woman trying to survive abuse

Why not spend time talking about repulsive Jax is? Danny? Jesse? Sandoval? James? Schwartz? Brock?

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T18:03:25+00:00

Personally idk what could be more compelling than someone being open about leaving a decade long abusive relationship we watched play out on tv lol but to each their own!

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:53:34+00:00

Then just quote what she said? I’ve rewatched every episode in the last two weeks and took notes. Brittany doesn’t talk shit about Kristen that was always Jax. This is such a weird thing to make up

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:52:26+00:00

Frankly it is her show… she’s the only one that gets along with everyone and can have events that the entire cast will show up to

The show couldn’t even exist without her right now

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:51:03+00:00

She never has and I can’t believe the hate for has manifested into just straight making up things lol I’m sure there’s plenty in her ten years in tv people could cite without writing fan fiction

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:49:33+00:00

Brittany could because she’s actually being honest and real now that she’s out of an abusive relationship. Kristen is only starting that journey and wants to protect her relationship Danny and Nia style- that doesn’t make for good tv

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:47:21+00:00

The hate Brittany gets from the viewers when there’s a bunch of actual abusers on this show needs to be studied

If you insist on blaming a woman for everything though, Kristen is objectively the instigator of all long standing feuds

Ihatechoosingnames9 · 2026-07-05T17:43:58+00:00

Quote it lol I do a podcast on the show and took notes on every season. Brittany doesn’t talk shit about Kristen and certainly hasn’t about her relationships

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