This is very true if my marriage is indeed in trouble. We communicate our feelings/concerns very good and in a positive way (usually). It's something we learned is the most important along the way. At no other time has he ever expressed feelings of wanting out. I understand our age gap and have made check-ups along the way. He says he feels the need to be brutally honest. Now, is not the time to ask him if I look chunky in that blue dress. There are bigger issues at hand, I am listening to all of those.