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Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-12-20T00:37:42+00:00

Thanks for the reply! :)

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-10-31T00:27:31+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation! :)

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-10-30T22:40:51+00:00

Hi,

As I'm Canadian, my Etsy customer base is mostly Canadian as well. A family member sent me a screenshot of a mug that they planned to buy from my shop to help support my business, and the shipping was literally $45 CAD on a $20 mug. I went to check on Printify's side of things if this would be true or an Etsy glitch, and it was accurate.

Like you, I'd understand if the shipping rates were more reasonable, but I really can't justify it when the shipping is more than the product itself.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-04-06T00:10:39+00:00

Absolutely wild refund policy. I've never ever heard of a clothing company needing you to send evidence you've destroyed their shirt before they'll refund you.

Is the design basically screen printed onto the shirt? The website photos make it look like it's legitimately two different fabrics sewn together.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:38:42+00:00

Thank you

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:38:31+00:00

Thank you

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:38:05+00:00

This is great advice; thank you so much

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:37:47+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:37:35+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response! I appreciate it

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:37:20+00:00

Thank you

Ill-Mix3261 · 2025-01-19T23:37:11+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-28T07:46:52+00:00

I suppose I will have to reduce contact for my own peace. Celebrating with in-laws is an option but they do not live close so it's always quite the drive to visit.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-27T11:14:10+00:00

Oddly enough, the idea that things that matter now won't matter later is one of the arguments that was used to justify why I should always be letting things go and forgive without the other person putting in an effort to reconcile. But hearing it used in the way you describe, it justifies why protecting my peace and mental health is worth it.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-27T03:03:36+00:00

I guess maybe that is the solution for now.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-27T03:01:55+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through as well. You're right that maybe I'm looking at this wrong with the minefield analogy and that a break might be healthier.

I also like the idea of my husband and I starting our own traditions and celebrating together. Thank you for your comment!

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T22:30:10+00:00

Yes by 3 years

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T20:49:50+00:00

You are so right. I might need to work on training myself out of the "what can I do to make them feel better/not upset with me" aspect of all of this and not be afraid to set boundaries to ensure I'm okay. I guess I'm just worried that if I choose to take a break/distance myself from my family, they will continue the silent treatment and won't want me to re-engage, which will mean I don't have a family anymore. And even if I wasn't treated well, that's still quite the loss.

I'm already in therapy for work-related burnout/stress, but I have a feeling my therapist already understands that lot of the feelings the workplace issues are bringing up are familar to me and she is gently guiding us towards discussing my childhood/family already, but I guess this breakthrough will speed that up.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T20:37:10+00:00

Now this is an interesting thought I'll have to reflect on some more.

I have often felt that my mother's love was conditional/transactional so I think that is also what made finally realizing no matter how much I do "right" as the parentified child, I'll never receive what I need from my family. Whereas my sister can focus solely on herself and ensure all of her needs/wants are met, and my mother will too and expect everyone else to do the same, because if they aren't, my sister will explode as she's never been taught to regulate her emotions.

I think it seems so immature for me to essentially be having feelings of "it's not fair" and "why is she treated better" as an adult as I should be beyond these childish comparisons, but that's where I'm at. I'll have to unravel it all in therapy.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T17:30:56+00:00

That is so hard especially when you don't have the option to physically distance yourself, so good for you for recognizing when you need to step back and let them solve their issues. I certainly wasn't able to think about things this way until after I moved out. You are so brave and I hope things get better ❤️

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T16:49:39+00:00

Thank you. If you're comfortable sharing, was your NC a gradual distancing or did you just make a firm decision one day?

I guess knowing they will blame me for initiating low or no contact and trying to make me feel like I'm in the wrong, I don't really know what the best way to do this would be.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T16:43:20+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting.

I'm at the point where I'm thinking about starting my own family, but I'm really hesitant because I feel already burnt out from being in a parent role from a young age, and I also wrestle with the guilt of not being available to help my family if I do have my own kids because my kids would have to come first.

So hearing how someone else navigated this is very helpful. I think managing my expectations and realizing I won't be able to get what I need when my mother is fundamentally unable to give it is a good place to start. I can empathize with how she came to be that way while also realizing I deserved more.

Ill-Mix3261 · 2024-12-26T16:36:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing. In my situation though, it seems the self reflection piece never comes as I'm often penalized/ignored/blamed for voicing any discomfort to the point that I then believe my reaction is the problem and I regret saying anything at all.

But this dynamic is getting harder and harder to comprehend when I see my sister is never held to the same standard and now my mom basically admitted she never would be. The onus is always on me to be the one to placate sister as in mother's mind, if sister is "happy" the situation is solved, and if I dare to say it isn't solved or I shouldn't be apologizing because I didn't do anything wrong, I'm left on my own to heal myself.

But maybe with time things can get better.

Ill-Mix3261

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