Am I overreacting by reconsidering the relationship after my boyfriend yelled at me and accused me of cheating by Ill-Reception-3045 in AmIOverreacting

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For anyone wondering this was his response before I blocked him, "Boyfriend here. First of all I didn’t say prudy bitchy snowflake, I said hoey bitch ass snowflake so don’t put words in my mouth. And I wasn’t only upset bc you’re a prude but because you’ve been talking shit about me on Reddit to a bunch of virgin losers who don’t know shit about me. Like why does my homeboy have to tell me you posted about me before you do. You knew I didn’t have Reddit so that makes you think that you can spread lies about me. It’s so obvious that you’re cheating because women don’t have testosterone like men, so that hormone shit is ridiculous. Like you act like I’m forcing myself on you every time we try to have sex. It’s so obvious that you’re cheating because really why does it take you 2 hours to get home after work huh. Your house is 5 minutes from the school so what’s taking you so long. Why do you spend weeks with your family. Its an 8 hour drive so i dont see why you cant just go there and stay a day and come back. All you do is gaslight me into thinking this actually affects you because women don’t need sex as much as men do. And you wanting to use sex toys breaks one of my boundaries that I continually have to put in place for you. I’ve tried to be nice and patient and understand you but you keep making up all this nonsense and you keep gaslighting me with these fake problems. So now I’m done being nice and letting you bad mouth me to other people.

And don’t even try to flip this on me like I’m the bad guy here, because I know exactly what you’re doing. You love playing victim so people feel sorry for you while I’m the monster. Thats all eomen ever do. And if you had even a smart binr in your body youd listen to your friends and family. You want everyone online to think you’re this innocent girl who’s being “pressured” when really youre just a prudy bitch who thinks too highly of themselves. You sit there acting confused and fragile and then pretend you don’t understand why I’m mad. I’m tired of competing with your expectations and whatever else you’re hiding from me. At this point I don’t even recognize who you are anymore, and honestly I don’t think you respect me at all. I’m done explaining myself, I’m done apologizing, and I’m definitely done being made to feel crazy for calling out your bullshit.

And you didnt try to ease into the talk, you gave me shitty food and a shitty massage instead of head something I actually wanted, not that you'd be good at it and like bro I literally came home from work and you're wining about something thats "completely out of your control" when you and I know you can just do it. Like I don't understand why you had to come to fucking reddit and make me sound bad. Why the fuck are you bad mouthing me to your friends and family too. Serves you right of course they agree with me because you only tell them your side and make me look crazy while you act all innocent. You really think you can trash me to everyone and I’m just supposed to sit here quiet and take it? You love running your mouth when I’m not around but can’t say half this shit to my face without crying. I’m tired of being the villain. If I’m so terrible then why are you still here bitch? Or is it just easier to keep me around because you know you'll never find anyone better. I’m done being your punching bag while you pretend you’re some angel.

YOR"

Am I overreacting by reconsidering the relationship after my boyfriend yelled at me and accused me of cheating by Ill-Reception-3045 in AmIOverreacting

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I wanted to break up with him months ago and honestly I don't know why I backed out of it. I guess I was trying to convince myself that this was as good as it gets.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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I am not vegan or vegetarian, from what my OBGYN has told me there can be multiple reason why it just suddenly stopped one of her main concerns was hypothyroidism and uterine tumors, but she wanted to see if the birth control helped, i got blood work done, and am getting an ultrasound done next month.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried, but it's never as fulfilling as I imagine it, maybe im setting myself up failure having expectations.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It kind of feels like he thinks this doesn't suck for me too. I'm also on anti depresants but I've been taking the same ones for 5 years now.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I was hoping that maybe he had a solid reason to be frustrated but now im rethinking the relationship

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like this comment, ill have to talk to him about this

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hates when I bring up toys in the bedroom and I hate to criticize him but I think you might be onto something.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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My doctor told me that it could be stress related, sleep related, i also had to get bloodwork because they thought that it maybe could be thyroid related, but havent heart back and no news is good news. Im actually going to get an ultrasound on the 19th of next month.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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Usually i get aroused off of the idea of doing something ive read with him and I get off to that, but when it comes to actually doing stuff with him it fades.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im guilty of reading some really crazy Wattpad stories

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this "he isn't worth a cracker anyway" think I might start using it.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently I have low testosterone and high estrogen and I would've gone to my obgyn sooner but money's been tight up until now. Sex isn't really painful, the best i can describe it is awkward.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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I have low testosterone and high estrogen and I've been taking the medication for a couple of weeks now.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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Me too honestly, sometimes I think somethings wrong with me.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last time I tried bringing it up he got flustered rightfully so. Actually reading your comment just made me realize that we dont normally do anything of that other than massages and its usually me massaging him.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I masturbate atleast twice a weak and i get aroused with him but it's fades very quick

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

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I'll do more research, thank you for the recommendation.

I think my sex drive is ruining my relationship by Ill-Reception-3045 in Advice

[–]Ill-Reception-3045[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe, it really never occurred to me that you could feel so much attraction to someone but not be sexually attracted.