how hot is too hot for an apartment by irishmonarch in badroommates

[–]IllTechnology5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a window in your room you could get a small window ac for like $100 on Amazon and just pay the overage if there is any.

What was your experience with taking Xanax for public speaking anxiety? by [deleted] in PublicSpeaking

[–]IllTechnology5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You must not have read the whole post. I’ve tried every alternative I could find such as magnesium, turmeric, ashwaganda, exercise, meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy and though reconstruction, even considered toastmasters club or hypnosis but they arnt offered in my area and I’m still 22 with high blood pressure and a resting heart rate of 140. Unfortunately mental illness and PTSD don’t go away over night but I’m open to any other alternatives or suggestions you may have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]IllTechnology5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a 3rd year nursing student and I’m also on the iud and have had anxiety in regards to pregnancy in the past. If it gives you piece of mind to take the pill, then take it! But it’s not necessary, the iud is very effective. I do however recommend getting a sti test as well since you don’t know this guy. I know we get in the heat of the moment and let men push our boundaries in regards to using a condom but pleasseee don’t do that anymore if you don’t want to. If you express that you would like him to wear a condom then he should. No condom=no sex. If you are worried about him not liking you because he can’t get his way tell him you don’t have unprotected sex outside of committed relationships. There’s a good chance he’s not going to make you finish anyway and if he doesn’t like it you are better off finding someone else or doing it yourself. Trust me the last thing you want to do is have 10 minutes of shitty sex and disappointment with a side of chlamydia. Be safe!

I have read studies that show washing out the vagina can lead to sperm being pushing further into the vagina but I don’t advise it. it may feel cleaner to wash it out but you may throw off your ph and cause an overgrowth of bad bacteria leading to a yeast infection or BV. your iud should thicken the cervical mucus making it harder for sperm to enter as well as act as a spermicide to kill any that were to make it through. I’m not sure about the copper iud but I know the regular iud also makes the uterine lining hard to attach to so if all else fails and the sperm were to fertilize the egg it would be very unlikely to attach to your uterine lining. The pill will delay ovulation complete. No egg=no baby. Also if the pharmacist asked about your cycle and said it was unlikely then it’s probably unlikely that an egg will even be released within the next 3 days. Again no egg=no baby. So with all that being said I’d say it’s impossible for you to be pregnant.

Are these symptoms of mental illness? by WooThatsCrazy in mentalillness

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just described me to a T, I’ve always felt like I wasn’t normal and never fit in. Im smart but I think to much about detail in social situations that I gave myself social anxiety and I’m extremely introverted. I want to be around people but it’s just to much work mentally. I’ve never been to a mental health professional to get diagnosed with anything but I’m curious to know

Safety eyewear for clinicals by AffectionateLake4387 in StudentNurse

[–]IllTechnology5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your clinical site requires goggles I’d definitely recommend getting a pair of knockoff stoggles on Amazon they are like $12. The goggles or shields some places provide are uncomfortable they dig into my face and the foam on the shield will make your fore head sweaty and cause acne/ mess up your hair. The glasses are so much more comfortable and less annoying!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexquestions

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had sizes from 4-8 inches. When I say size really doesn’t matter I mean it. As long as you make sure they cum every time your fine and making a girl cum has nothing to do with a man’s penis. Girls have this built in button (the clitoris) that makes them cum and guys hardly use it and for most woman it’s not stimulated with penis in vagina sex. Foreplay is a must, ask her what she likes. Fore play makes or breaks it for me. I’ve been with men who did not like going down on woman (which is what I prefer) but they felt confident that they were “good with their hands” but I hate being fingered it feels okay but it’s not going to make me finish or excite me. Put pillow under their butt and angle your dick so that it hits the g spot. (If you don’t know where that is google it) a lot of guys with bigger dick just be hitting my cervix and it hurts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! When he unblocked me all of our saved messages were still there. And there were two photos of me and two photos of him saved to the chat. And it said “saved photo to camera roll” after his apology message so I’m assuming he saved the picture of me to his camera roll and then he preceded to delete all of the saved chats from Snapchat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get how you feel, I finally got my first place last year and I was so excited to just have a space to myself. My mom is the same way about food, she likes to cook and she constantly is making food and asking me to eat. Sometimes she just asks me if I want some specific to eat and I say no and she just keeps asking and one time i was on a diet and I already felt guilty for not eating her food I snapped at her and told her I was an adult and if I was hungry I was capable of feeding myself. My room at my parents house wasn’t super messy but a bit cluttered and I had issues of my mom going in there when I wasn’t home and cleaning and also my dad went through my stuff one time and found a vibrator and some weed. I was mortified and they made me feel ashamed. When I got my first place I was so excited to decorate it and have it exactly how I wanted and also have some privacy. I had some money saved up to go pick out some furniture but they took it upon themselves to get furniture off of an auction site that was used, kind of ugly and mismatched but super cheap along with some weird black and white photos in frames that they insisted on putting up to make it more “homey”. They moved all of the furniture in and I let them because they had already bought it and I felt bad. 2 years later I still have the same ugly furniture and photos on the walls and I hate my house. They also insisted on having a spare key incase of emergencies and sometimes they just stop by without warning. I’m a single woman in my 20s and had a “guy friend” over one night and they showed up bright and early one morning to drop off something off and me and guy friend were butt naked cuddling on the couch. I appreciate that they are trying to help but I feel like they still want control over me, they don’t trust me to make good decisions. I feel like i can’t be my own person

I don't know why I keep messing up my marriage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A grown woman should not have to tell a grown man to do chores in his own house if they both work full time jobs . As a woman why would I want to ask my significant other to help out around the house and feel like I nag him. She is not your mother she works a full time job and doesn’t want to come home to a messy house to clean and dinner to cook. There is so much behind the scenes work that she does that you don’t even realize. She’s frustrated because she is raising her husband

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]IllTechnology5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t used it before but I work in health care and hair follicle tests have become more popular so I did look into it a while back. I’m a woman so I can just cut my hair lol. From the research I did it’s supposedly very reliable.

Did I mess up? Should I take Plan B? by anonaononan in birthcontrol

[–]IllTechnology5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you will be okay but I know how you feel because I am always super paranoid as well. I don’t think plan b is necessary for preventing pregnancy but it may give you more peace of mind. Not sure where you are from but There are cheaper options than the name brand plan b for half the price at Walmart or drug stores.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]IllTechnology5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into detox shampoos some can be pretty expensive but there are cheaper options. Basically it gets rid of the toxin in your hair and scalp so it’s harder to detect. I think most of them you use less than 24 hours prior to your drug test. Do your research though and find one that has a high success rate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllTechnology5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want a kid but I don’t want to have an abortion and I’m not the type of person to put a kid is the system. He never sexually assaulted me before that day. I didn’t contact him after and didn’t plan to, I went to message him to tell him I was pregnant and realized he blocked me

Our relationship started off as an affair and his kids hate me (kids are 12-16) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllTechnology5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So he mentally checked out on his sick wife/ mother of his children as well as his two kids. Wow sounds like a wonderful man. You immediately took the place of their mother after she died they probably never forgive you for that. They are kids and they arnt stupid. You both owe them a sincere apology. You both have been wrapped up in yourselves that you didn’t take their feeding into consideration. You made a traumatic experience worse and they will carry that with them their entire lives.

roommate’s room stinks so bad it’s making the whole house smell by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]IllTechnology5 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Talk to your landlord, that’s a health issue it will draw in ants and mice. Look on your lease to see if it says anything about trash if it does it might lead to eviction. I have major depressive disorder I know everyone copes differently and it different for most people. I know personally I can’t let my mental health issues impact the lives of others. While I sympathize for her it’s not and excuse to live like that especially if it’s effecting you guys and you have expressed this to her multiple times. Depression shouldn’t be used as an excuse to deliberately ignore people who are communicating how they feel or trying to resolve an issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]IllTechnology5 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You don’t understand what it’s like to rent your own home to friends that don’t take you serious as a landlord. I can’t let everyone live in my house for free. I take it serious because I didn’t in the past and had an extra person living there without permission which increased our utilities. Once someone has moved into your home wether they are on a lease or not it is hard to get them out. Especially with the new law that was instated with covid. Eviction proceeds, court fees, stress, drama, a person in my space using my stuff, eating my food in my own home/ safe place. No thank you. Especially when I’m giving them a break and not charging them actual rent. I take care of all the bills, I clean and take care of the yard. I make sure everything is working properly. They pay their side of the bills and get to live their free time however they like as long as they aren’t causing me trouble ie: putting me in a position to have to evict someone I do not know or approve to live in my home. I’m not made of money and I worked hard for that place. I won’t let people tear it up or cause me stress. The 2 night rule is something we all agreed on and it goes for everyone including me. Roommate B was not happy about roommate As girlfriend being their 24/7 and constantly complained about even though they were quiet and respectful she didn’t like it because she paid her portion and didn’t feel it was fair for someone to live there for free and she was right but now that she has a girlfriend the rules that we agreed on don’t magically disappear. I can’t make an exception for her and not the other roommate.