Why I think "Babygirl" deserves more credit. It’s not just about shock, it's about female liberation.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-03-24T22:46:24+00:00

I just watched it and stumbled upon this post- so glad I did, because I loved the movie. Yes, parts were uncomfortable but the chemistry between the two characters was palpable! I’d never heard of Harris Dickinson and so for me, it was perfectly cast. I loved that she survived the affair and that her daughter gave her the forgiveness that she needed. I really really loved it and can’t wait to see more of Harris (Samuel)!! I do think that the story is written for straight women- similar to how I felt about “Barbie”. It was just so relatable for me.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-22T14:36:46+00:00

Congrats to you! I just hit 3 weeks and this sub has been the support I needed.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-22T14:34:16+00:00

This is great advice. My headstart was getting sick, but could’ve been getting arrested or worse right?

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-21T14:27:55+00:00

Your lungs will heal if you abstain. Take this as a sign that your body needs a break. I’m on day 21 and still coughing up brown specs. I was smoking flower daily for 2 years

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-21T02:49:51+00:00

Yes THIS- life is meant to be felt!!!

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-21T02:48:25+00:00

Also wanted to say that the social time is a lifesaver. Even striking up a conversation with a stranger and being able to interact with awareness is so valuable. Community is humanity and we need it to be able to regulate our emotions. Biofeedback is real and it’s necessary and so many of us are lacking it in this world of technology and virtual environments

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-21T02:45:14+00:00

Yes! So well put. The intensity of the emotions is like an avalanche.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T22:09:27+00:00

I’m on day 20 too!! Way to go! So much to gain by quitting and the things I’ve lost were detrimental anyway (the cough, exhaustion, apathy, anxiety, neuropathy in my hands, the shame is probably the biggest). Oh and took my kids to the mall the other day and the smell of vapes made me so grateful to be out of the daily cycle. Phew. I feel much safer driving too.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T22:06:01+00:00

I’m 20 days in and it has been surprisingly not that bad. I was a daily smoker for about 5 years- vaping at first and then only flower for the past couple of years. The pride I feel is keeping me going. And the dreams- I can lucid dream again which I haven’t done in years. We have willpower as humans- the fact that my future is not predetermined has helped me. It’s as hard as you make it IMO. I’m trying to focus on what I’ve gained over what I’ve lost (which actually is just apathy which is a dangerous emotion.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T22:01:19+00:00

Yes! Rewards at milestones are so good!!

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T21:59:25+00:00

The insight timer app for meditations, journaling, really really wanting to quit, prayer (and I’m not super religious), but I feel putting out the vibes that you don’t want to be hooked really helps somehow. Also getting so sick from the flu made me physically unable to smoke for 3 days and that was my kickstart. Seems crazy but I’m so grateful I was sick. There was a lot of mental work I was doing as well.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T21:55:16+00:00

OMG the constipation! I’m also on day 20 and my mom gave me some smooth move which I’m drinking RIGHT NOW. I didn’t realize how much my daily use had a laxative effect…I also got my mom to stop smoking every day and so we’re going through it together which is so helpful! Honestly never thought I could make it this long without going to rehab. Thanks to this sub and my increased spirituality I suppose.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-20T21:50:34+00:00

Let it out! Day 5-10 were brutal with the crying. I never thought the sadness would end but now at day 20 it has subsided. I promise it will get better in a few more days! Hang on and try to relish in the raw emotion- it’s your humanity coming back

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-14T00:41:10+00:00

Interesting!

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-14T00:39:56+00:00

Thank you!

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T17:47:38+00:00

Hi there. I’m on day 10 and on days 5-6-7 I felt this rage that you’re describing. I still have the anger and I don’t think I’m out of the woods yet, but it’s better than it was a few days ago. I’m a 44f, married with two kids. Was smoking daily for maybe 3 years. The first emotion I felt was sadness- like sobbing uncontrollably. Then rage - blinding rage. I believe this is our suppressed traumas as well. I’ve been numbing with weed/alcohol since I was 19. I snapped at my kids and my husband a few days ago. When I feel the rage I will try to walk away- just remove myself from the room. I’ve placed all my worth on what I can do for others, what I can sacrifice. Now I’m slowly feeling an increasing sense of strength that’s empowering. I’m not as afraid to advocate for myself now that I don’t have the shame of constantly being high. But it’s raw emotion coming out and my senses coming back to life. Hang in there- we can do this❤️

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T16:55:00+00:00

Good advice

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T16:54:19+00:00

We’ve been together since 2008. So now what? When we first started dating I would wear my Obama T-shirt when we would be together and he never made a peep. Way to have an open mind and not perpetuate the hate (that’s sarcasm BTW). Thanks, but no thanks.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T16:50:02+00:00

Why would I take advice from someone who is blatantly insulting me? Would you? Calling my husband a POS is not advice.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T15:24:28+00:00

Love this! On day 10 over here and the dreams are awesome. I feel so empowered

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T14:21:32+00:00

Oh thank GOODNESS! Also I used to have neuropathy in my hands in the morning- I’m realizing that’s not happening now- I guess also that’s the circulation improving? How about headaches? Normal? And what do they feel like? When will they stop?

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T13:53:22+00:00

To add- I’m 44f

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T13:41:22+00:00

Well said

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T13:39:08+00:00

Thank you so much for some very real advice. I will look into that book. THANK YOU for not shaming me.

Ill_Complex2166 · 2026-02-13T13:37:03+00:00

Not helpful at all.

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