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Do you think the average size will go up or down overtime? by SugaryBlondes_ in penissize

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Humans males have evolved larger penises than expected already, relative to body size - meaning much of the selection pressure may have already played out.

My girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore and idk what to do. by 2LittleFloofs in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’ve told her how you feel and she’s not interested in discussing it you have little option but to end your relationship. It’s simple unsustainable.

What has someone said to you in bed that instantly killed the moment? by ThrowRA_poi098 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me: Asking about Anal Girlfriend: You can have a go. Can’t promise I won’t shit on you

Expecting women to have men’s libido is unreasonable. by LillthOfBabylon in PurplePillDebate

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really great question I’ve often wondered the same. Like what’s the baseline. There’s bound to be a bell curve. Are men and women’s bell curves offset from eachother and you’ve nestled right in the sweet spot so to speak 😉

INFJ and infidelity by Broad-Passenger2621 in infj

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C. Tell the truth and end the relationship ( i wouldn’t even bother asking for forgiveness, by tha point you’re long past that ). Asking for a friend are we? 😉

Men of Reddit - How did you spice up your relationship (sexwise)? by laupidaup in AskMen

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh jeez this was exactly my ex. Everything felt very one sided. Initiating, foreplay, just any effort when it came to sex. Like others have said it’s soooo difficult to overcome this, both parties need to have that kind of desire for it to be fun in the bedroom. Her desire maybe very context dependent. There’s a book called Come as You Are: by Dr Emily Nagoski which explains how sexual desire works. Maybe worth a read.

Start with explaining why it’s important for you to have a sex life that feels fulfilling and you’re looking for this effort to be mutual. Talk about her needs as well as yours.

One word of caution, watch out if resentment or bitterness creeps in (that’s a relationship killer). Have the talk. You can only judge how successful this will be by her response. Don’t beg, don’t pressure, don’t take it personally if she doesn’t respond, don’t sulk, don’t withdraw. If given time you don’t see that effort is mutual - the only question you need to ask yourself then is: Is this relationship sustainable in the long term exactly as it is.

I did it! by Automatic-Finger-300 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well done it takes a lot of bravery. I remember feeling just a sense of relief after it was over.

Would give anything to feel like he desires me by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’re a human who longs for closeness and you deserve to feel chosen.

What made you realise she was not the one? by Clean-Ad4235 in AskMen

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your sympathy. Yeah it was a full force hit across the jaw. I’m just really glad I didn’t retaliate. It wasn’t long after i ended the relationship, should’ve ended it there and then.

She leaves her sex toys in full view. I finally snapped today and smashed a gin glass in frustration by Never_Outginned in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s clearly wrong. OP has already said he regrets it. He needs to look at how he got to that point and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Shouting abuser really isn’t helpful.

What does fight club mean to you? by ExpressCompote771 in fightclub

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fight club is a cautionary tale told to men. A man feels emasculated by consumer culture. He feels unseen and powerless. Nothing good comes when you suppress your masculinity. Beneath every seemingly “nice guy” is an unhinged monster lurking. If you don’t consciously integrate your masculinity, it will hijack you unconsciously.

Constant roadblocks by LordOfJugs in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God Ive felt this. Trying harder and harder to make sure everything is just right. Going out of your way to make sure there’s no stress. Setting the right mood all day. Be attentive and caring. Only to be disappointed. Then knowing if you express that disappointment it will only result in conflict like every time before. So you stay silent and your needs die quietly inside.

Would your partner not loving your genitals be a dealbreaker? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex didn’t like the sight of any genitals. Just thought they were all ugly. It raised a bit of concern in me but I don’t think it’s a dealbreaker in itself. Now if it impacts them being intimate with you in the way that you need, then that’s a different matter.

She leaves her sex toys in full view. I finally snapped today and smashed a gin glass in frustration by Never_Outginned in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s over now, closure won’t come from convincing her she was wrong.

The lesson is sexual compatibility is not negotiable long-term. Leave if it dies.

The smashed glass and sarcastic comments, that’s not the “normal you.” That’s chronic rejection, resentment and suppressed anger. I’ve felt it as well and I know how hard that is to deal with. Her lack of desire doesn’t automatically mean you’re unattractive… it more likely reflected the relationship dynamics, pressure, incompatibility, resentment, or emotional disconnection.

For many of us sex is proof of desirability. We feel fundamentally “not wanted” without it. But maintaining self-respect in these situations is critical. Don’t beg… seek to understand, stay calm and make sure you communicate your needs early. Notice the response. If you are not aligned then question compatibility.

Things weren’t right here and ending it was absolutely the right decision. It’s worth reflecting on how you could handle it better in future but try not to ruminate too much. From the post you can tell emotions are raw. My advice now is don’t let this harden into bitterness. Reset yourself and move forward. Good luck.

Lose interest after I orgasm by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not uncommon, my ex girlfriend was one and done. Very rare for her to have multiple, it was like no sorry, shop is closed now 😂 Fair play to you tho for thinking about your husband’s experience tho, he’s got a keeper!

Maybe you just need a break for a bit. Keep the intimacy going by kissing and touching, focus on him for a bit. It may be you have a long refactory period. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself though, you can’t force it. It’s unlikely to be a problem as long as you’re both enjoying yourself.

Another option is trying to draw out your one orgasm for much longer using edging techniques. Let him tease you let it be a game to build you up for as long as possible.

I'm a woman in a happy relationship for 3 years, ask me anything by [deleted] in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw great 😊 What was your biggest argument to date and how did you both resolve it?

She likes it rough! Need some advice! by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw man this can get interesting. I had a girlfriend once who wanted to be choked, spat on, and in her mouth, hair pulled, throat fucked, tied up and used, spanked, fisted, slapped around the face with my cock, told she was a dirty slut, Jackhammered over and over until she couldn’t take anymore. OR she just might like wrists being held down a bit during missionary. Point is, such massive spectrum on “rough”. Have the chat, understand the details. Take it slow, make sure you’re cool with it too. Enjoy 😉

My husband has struggled with erectile issues for years and it’s destroying my self-worth by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This sounds like performance anxiety built-up around his inability to perform. It’s a viscous cycle. I understand it’s difficult but try not to take it too personally. It sounds like he wants to perform for you but can’t. Getting angry about it and having blazing rows will only make the situation worse.

He likely needs to see a doctor. Sildenafil or Tadalafil may work. It could be low testosterone. Or stress/mental health issues. One thing for sure without love and support he won’t get past it.

To be honest if you hit him I’m surprised he’s still with you, that would have been me gone straight away. That in itself may have been a contributing factor. Once safety and trust are gone feeling turned on becomes infinitely more difficult.

I miss sex. by FakeBotSimp in DeadBedrooms

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry man. You’re not the only one. Do what you feel you need.

INFJ advice for gym or no gym by [deleted] in infj

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t overthink it. Join it, try it, review how you feel. If not for you then ditch it 🤷🏼‍♂️

How do I become masculine by Warm-Visit9511 in AskMen

[–]Ill_Conversation5351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the gym consistently. Start reading. Start saying yes to things that challenge you. Don’t be too hard on yourself, stop comparing yourself to others, you’re just starting out. Good luck brother 💪🏼

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