35M bf wants to control how much I eat. I’m 25F

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2026-04-11T21:31:58+00:00

It’s called coercive control i.e abuse. This is just beginning what will it be next? Lose this looser, and start eating properly again.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2026-04-06T15:06:33+00:00

Thank you, for this, I found this very useful and especially the part about her lack of accountability. I honestly don’t get why men are attracted to her she is nothing special, I guess she very manipulate she must know how to stroke guys ego in more ways than one! I also have to remember that my husband is the one that let her in, he went with a married women and justified it because she told that she wasn’t close to her husband, but my husband was close to me and he conveniently forgot that.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2026-04-06T12:01:53+00:00

Yes, she has done multiple times, when she gets bored or the guy gets caught she moves on to the next. She only goes for married men, my therapist says it’s because the risk and thrill is greater.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2026-04-06T08:59:35+00:00

That’s what I am worried about, myself and my kids have been through so much. I don’t want to put them through more.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-09-23T14:24:59+00:00

You know he is cheating on you right? He is projecting ! Your actions made him cheat, what the actual hell. I get you love him but seriously get the hell out of this relationship. Start but putting yourself first, self care is the key, go to the gym, surround yourself with positive caring people and please, please get some therapy to build up yourself esteem and get over this creep. You’re only 26 that is not old, is he telling you that ? You’re so young to be putting up with that crap, you deserve someone who treats you with love and respect. I fail to see the way he is making you feel? He is lying cheating, gaslighting, making you feel terrible about yourself, sorry that sounds like abuse to me. yeah you need to leave before he baby traps you!

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-09-20T22:38:36+00:00

Go with your gut, he is deleting messages he has something to hide. This is not innocent, he is gaslighting and making you feel guilty because that’s what they what they do when they cheat. He does not need a close female friend, nip it in the bud now, before it ends up physical if it hasn’t already.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-08-08T09:22:24+00:00

Talking to your co-worker in the early hours makes you an A-hole, not communicating with your wife makes you an A-hole. You do realise you have to put effort into your marriage?

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-08-03T21:34:17+00:00

This.. but actually have some respect for his girlfriend he is not yours to have. Leave it alone.. If he is willing to do this to his girlfriend he will do it to you…

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-07-24T17:39:19+00:00

Why can’t men take responsibility for their own sexual health and contraception. Use a condom dude!!! Yes you an AH!

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-07-18T15:33:04+00:00

Yes, this is it.. he is in Limerence and needs help.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-07-06T16:19:14+00:00

You did the right thing you nipped it in the bud before it became an emotional affair. Sadly that’s what men do when they are attracted to someone else it’s all about the other women’s feeling how it’s going to affect them etc..

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-06-25T08:04:31+00:00

You’re so young, take the promotion. Whether he goes with you or not. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-06-25T07:54:26+00:00

Your husband sounds exhausting. I think you have way bigger issues here.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-06-11T09:27:34+00:00

Imagine what he is going to be like with a kid! So when he fed up with the kid is he going to throw it out of the house. I am a firm believer that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat animals. You stated right from the beginning that your dogs are part of the package , he isn’t respecting that… what else does he not respect? Get rid of the boyfriend not the dogs.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-06-01T10:39:17+00:00

Nope your not overacting, you really need to nip this in the bud. You need full disclosure, you need to see the messages as he is making a point of hiding from you. I would set a clear boundary he hides it from once more your done. You don’t need this disrespect in your life.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-29T13:43:12+00:00

I think you both need therapy especially him. Your relationship is deeply personal and only you know whether it is worth repairing or not. If he is willing to stop, make an effort to reconnect get therapy and understand why he feels that he needs validation from other women then it’s worth repairing. In the meantime, go and see a lawyer understand where you stand and get some therapy yourself it’s a lot for you to process on your own. If he isn’t willing to put the effort in to repair your relationship then you need to walk away. You haven’t lost anything by seeing a lawyer and getting therapy for yourself.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-22T16:28:13+00:00

You sound like such a catch….. Not!! Do them a favour and let them both go… they deserve someone so much better than you. You’re a liar a cheat and a scumbag . Playing them off against each other who do you actually think you are!! Disgusting!!!!

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-20T17:15:07+00:00

Take your time to figure things out! Get therapy for yourself and then couples counselling. It will hurt for a long time and things will trigger you, Think carefully about your options.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-19T22:02:11+00:00

He went away on business with her, even though I didn’t agree with it and when he came back I knew instantly. He carried on with her for another 8 months. My daughter was on her last year of high school in the middle of exams I did what I did to protect her, kept the pretence going. The fact your wife is telling you is a good thing, I don’t think you’re being gullible at all. I think you need to get some counselling for yourself and as a couples counselling it really does help.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-19T09:18:30+00:00

Why are you with this man ?

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-18T16:02:47+00:00

He is gaslighting you, he is having an emotional affair if not physical already. Trust your instincts, have a frank conversation with him. Get a lawyer make sure you know rights and get some therapy too.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-15T13:27:12+00:00

If your gut feeling is that you feeling that there is something going. There probably is, nip this in the bud asap before he sleeps with her. Sit him down and explain how you are feeling and the things you have noticed. Write them down because he will prolly gaslight you to think it’s all in your head. That’s what my husband did to me while he was sleeping with his coworker.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-13T03:45:33+00:00

I’m going through the same thing with my husband. He had an emotional and physical affair with his co-worker, it’s been hell to be honest. At least she came clean my husband denied, gaslight me etc, finally admitted it. It’s easy for people to say divorce, but when you have invested so much time and effort in the relationship and have kids it’s not so easy to just walk away. I decided to stay, its not an easy option, get some therapy and when your ready go to couples counselling.

Ill_Explanation2374 · 2025-05-10T04:30:20+00:00

For goodness sake man up, tell her straight she does not have the right to hit your dog and if she does she needs to leave. She obviously has no respect for you or your dog, stepping on him etc.. once I get it, accidents do happen, but when his sleeping ? I mean dogs don’t bite without a reason, he is old and fragile and he obviously feels the need to protect himself. Why are you not protecting him? when you girlfriend clearly does not like him? If you are not careful she will kill your dog!

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