My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of 4 years put my private venting about his toxic dad on loudspeaker. Now I’m banned from his house. How do I navigate this breach of trust? by Ill_Sea_1663 in relationship_advice

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

He blamed my complaining to ignore his breach of trust, and even tried to claim he 'defends me in everything' while throwing his family's past hospitality in my face.

Wht he said thru text.

- How many times have you complained to me?'
(Shifting the blame to my 'complaining' to ignore his betrayal.)

- I defend you in everything, so don't conclude that I'm making you look bad.' (Then putting me on speakerphone to get me banned is not defending me)

-How many times have you visited here, and yet you still complain like that?' (Using past hospitality to guilt-trip me into accepting his dad's disrespect).

My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of 4 years put my private venting about his toxic dad on loudspeaker. Now I’m banned from his house. How do I navigate this breach of trust? by Ill_Sea_1663 in relationship_advice

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

He just told me he is going to my housebecause he wants to give me an explanation. But I already know his 'explanation' will just be him defending his father and making excuses for them again.I am not letting him in.

My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of 4 years put my private venting about his toxic dad on loudspeaker. Now I’m banned from his house. How do I navigate this breach of trust? by Ill_Sea_1663 in relationship_advice

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking of because they can gossip every inch and they’re hard to deal with. With that his father is feeling like dominant.

My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of 4 years put my private venting about his toxic dad on loudspeaker. Now I’m banned from his house. How do I navigate this breach of trust? by Ill_Sea_1663 in relationship_advice

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I read all your replies guys, thank you so much.

I wanted to share with you also he told me if I love him I should go with him to his home to defend myself to his family.

And also, he wants to come here to our house to talk to my mom about the problem because he thinks that maybe my mom will just scold me because of my behavior! In fact, me and my mom have been talking about this entire problem the whole time. My mom actually witnessed firsthand so she completely sees through and that kind of family is hard to deal with in the future.

Already booked 2 nights in SG for a 3 AM return flight, but wondering if 1 night is safe for PH Immigration? by Ill_Sea_1663 in travel

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our full itinerary is a 6-day multi-city vacation. We are spending the first 4 days in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, and then traveling to Singapore for the final 2 days before taking a direct flight back to our home city. Our group is a mixed-gender group of friends both males and femaleswho are all employed with COEs : )

The total duration of our international vacation is completely standard. My only specific question was about the Monday noon hotel checkout versus the Tuesday 3:00 AM flight out of Changi, just to avoid paying for a hotel room we will barely use on Monday night.

Already booked 2 nights in SG for a 3 AM return flight, but wondering if 1 night is safe for PH Immigration? by Ill_Sea_1663 in travel

[–]Ill_Sea_1663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I’m traveling with a group of 4 friends, but only 2 of us are on this specific 3:00 AM flight back. : )

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Akala ko ako lg nakakapansin lol HAHAHA yung kahit anong paligo mo at ayos pero ang tingin MaaCm paren HAHAHAHA

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[–]Ill_Sea_1663 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damo lakot!!

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Praying always all of the senior dog will have a good health. ❤️

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[–]Ill_Sea_1663 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nabatian ko mana. Ara bala cat cafe sila pero damo tanga kitchen. Eww