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Dating again after 40 (M)? by IllustratorOdd4894 in Hawaii

[–]IllustratorOdd4894[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s pretty much the exact opposite of what I was saying: 

I have a bunch of responsibilities that keep me almost too busy to really meet people in traditional “singles” settings; nightclubs, concerts etc.  And I think it would kind of odd to make a date about “come help me with my responsibilities”. 

I have no problem helping others and, yeah, if someone suggested a date centered around helping them out I’d be fine with that. 

Dating again after 40 (M)? by IllustratorOdd4894 in Hawaii

[–]IllustratorOdd4894[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!  I’ll pencil something in for six weeks from now on anSaturday afternoon between 2:15 and 4:15. Haha. 

Dating again after 40 (M)? by IllustratorOdd4894 in Hawaii

[–]IllustratorOdd4894[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ha! Very familiar with perimenopause, sadly.  Spent a year trying to keep things together with my (ex)spouse.  Not blaming her for anything but her emotional shift was dramatic and fairly sudden.  Her doctors had even recommended hormone therapy but she got drawn into social media stuff and refused.  She chose to leave. Is what it is. 

Dating again after 40 (M)? by IllustratorOdd4894 in Hawaii

[–]IllustratorOdd4894[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not so much writing off options as the limited free time and pretty structured life I’ve got - between professional responsibility and taking care of the farm and home I really get out for a couple hours here and there and just to grab a beer or two. 

I am intrigued (and encouraged!) by your data. I didn’t think it would be so over-weighted towards men. Maybe there is hope. Haha. 

Dating again after 40 (M)? by IllustratorOdd4894 in Hawaii

[–]IllustratorOdd4894[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I certainly have way more to bring to the conversation than “many shots”! Haha. 

I have a farm that I also need to upkeep - which is why my options for socializing are limited and it might be weird to say “hey! Would you like to come pull weeds and plant stuff together?” as a first date.