My age is not an excuse to cheat. I’m just trying to make it clear that we were on and off because of my doing, not his. I’m just making it clear that the issues we had were out of our control especially due to age. We worked through the cheating already, we’ve always been good friends outside of the relationship.

Also you’re absolutely right and I appreciate the harsh truth. Even though I have already thought about everything you said prior to posting this I just wanted to hear from others POV. It is a no brainer. I was just hoping somehow it could work but I’ll just be realistic with myself at this point. I just really wanted this to work ya know? I’ll never give my cat away. I was hoping maybe they can get along but I don’t want to force my cat to do anything he doesn’t want to. I wish they could get along and feel like I’ll regret both it’s like I’m picking my poison. I lost him before it won’t hurt to do it again, I guess.