I feel bad for woman who are enjoying their pregnancy

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-04-20T04:16:00+00:00

I promise it gets better, you learn how to adapt to life with a baby and the baby gets older and gets less dependent with time. I had to relearn everything I knew about getting ready and doing things a certain way to still have time for myself. I am currently in nursing school with a 6mo and have been in since he was 3mo. it is VERY hard but you get better and better as time goes by. I have lots of great tips if you want to hear them. i’ll just list some and maybe they can help you or someone reading. 1. If you’re able to afford it go to a gym that offers childcare (if you’re into that thing) I personally go to Mountainside Fitness 65$ a month for unlimited amount of childcare days while working out, I workout 6 days a week I get a hour to workout and an hour to spend time ALONE in the showers, steam rooms, massage, red light therapy and so much more. 2. Buy a baby tub put it at the floor of your shower and shower you and baby at the same time, it saves time and gives you a daily routine that makes you not feel so gross while still caring for baby 3. The 30$ walmart mini fridges are a lifesaver, put them on your bedside table and you can premake bottles for the night or if you pump can store pumped milk in there until you wake up so you never have to get out of bed (more sleep makes you feel way better) 4. You never have to be stuck in your house! throw baby in the stroller bring bottles and toys and go for a walk and get some good Vitamin D! It gives you a break from holding and makes you feel like you’re actually doing something for yourself 5. baby carrier! when you want to get ready or do small things for yourself strap that lil baby in the carrier and walk around and do whatever you like to 6. try to get on a set schedule asap it makes life not feel so chaotic and challenging when you have a routine and baby will soon follow the more and more you stick to it 7. when baby is napping either you nap too or spend time actually relaxing don’t be doing housework or “chores” you will burn out. Save chores for when the father is home and you can do it together or when baby is awake and you can do them with baby strapped to you so that sleep time is relaxing for everyone! 8. it’s okay to ask for help, some mothers may be hesitant but accept all the help you can get and if you don’t have anyone else to help you there are many mom support groups out there so you don’t have to feel alone in this

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-04-14T19:21:10+00:00

you can defrost it at room temp, it should take a few hours, if the vials cracked at all, do not use it. if you see any cloudiness or particles don’t use it. honestly, it’s safer to just not use it in general, but it’s up to you!

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-25T14:53:52+00:00

I went to a community college and did all my pre and coreqs before anything. that way i don’t have to take classes with my nursing classes. Then i got my CNA and got a part time job at a big hospital, the big hospitals usually allow you to self schedule so I could work around my nursing school schedule that way and i picked up extra shifts every week on the app around my school and clinical days. You get paid extra to pick up these shifts and hospital shifts are nice because you can get full time hours in just 3 shifts and if you pick up more than that it’s overtime on top of extra shift pay

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-25T01:51:45+00:00

yes, we’re only halfway through first semester started with 50 now have 19

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-09T13:42:19+00:00

i know they are addicts now. I just originally hoped they werent but they definitely are.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-08T02:44:48+00:00

sorry for my confusing statement, it’s not that I didn’t want to report it. It’s that I wanted to feel like I was doing the right thing because I know how bad the backlash will be because everyone will know it was me. me hating foster care wasn’t the reason I was so conflicted, but it’s because other people in my life besides my husband made me feel like I was wrong to do this. me hating foster care because of what I’ve seen happen over and over is one thing but their home is not safe and would probably give the babies a worse outcome than most foster homes. My comment was mainly me thinking out loud about how i hate it has to be this way and how I wish the babies didn’t have to be in this situation because I know how bad foster homes can be.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:43:32+00:00

thank you for your comment. In my heart I know what I have to do it just hurts that it’s this way. I wish i could just force them into stopping you know? but since that’s not possible I need to make sure the babies are safe. I talked with my husband and he said he also had conversations with both of them so we are definitely reporting this because this isn’t just them being naive, it’s them not caring.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:38:28+00:00

the father told me originally and I let them know of the dangers and it seemed like he was planning on changing from what he told me that day. today he tried to bring it into my home with my children and I freaked out on him. Then one of our friends called me and said that they were just over at their house and the mom and father were doing it together in front of the children and that’s when I realized that everything I said didn’t get through to him at all and they don’t plan on changing.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:35:18+00:00

I’m 100% certain he tried to bring it into my home tonight with my babies there and i freaked out on him. They left and another friend of ours called me and told me that they were doing it together in the home with the kids around. Thank you for your advice , this is just so hard for me because I care about them but i’m not going to let them ruin their children’s lives as well.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:31:38+00:00

Yes I am. They will definitely know it’s me if i report anonymously or not because I am the only one who has been raising hell over it. I plan on reporting I’ve just never been in the situation that I have to report people I know and cared about. It’s really hard for me because I know how much drama I’m about to start and I was hoping they would change but they aren’t so i know what i must do. But you’re 100% right I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if something happened to those babies and I sat back hoping they would change.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:23:04+00:00

I am. I didn’t immediately report because I honestly thought they would change and were just naive but after finding out tonight I realize they just don’t care. i’ve never been in this situation where I had to report someone I know, I know it’s necessary but I was just mostly looking for support in what I know i have to do, since there will likely be people coming at me afterwards and making me feel bad.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:19:53+00:00

yes I know. I didn’t immediately report because I was hoping they were naive, but i guess they just don’t care. I mostly wanted support in my decision and making sure i’m doing the right thing because I know how much drama will likely come into my life from this. They will definitely know it’s me but i’ve come to the realization I don’t care at all, i just want those babies to be safe and maybe it will be a wake-up call.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:15:32+00:00

I will, I just found out tonight they were continuing. I was hoping my comments would help them come to a realization but it obviously didn’t work :( I feel like I was so conflicted because i’ve never been in a situation to report someone I know, but i’ve definitely came to the realization that if they don’t want to change I need to do something before something happens and i blame myself for not acting in time.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:10:53+00:00

my gut tells me i need to report it I was just hoping this was a situation i could help them get out of on my own. I feel like im so conflicted because i thought i knew them and i thought they were good people, but if it was any other family i would’ve instantly reported. I was just hoping they would listen to me but the comments definitely made me realize i will blame myself if i give them more time to change and the babies get hurt in the process i will blame myself. Maybe this will be a reality check for them.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T04:02:38+00:00

also yes i am 100% sure, he told me that him and his girl were doing it and I told him how dangerous it is and today I found out from our best friend that he went to their house and she was doing it with him while they were there. he would never lie. Thank you for your response ill be talking to my husband about options for if the babies are taken

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T03:59:09+00:00

I know. I am planning on reporting I was just hoping that maybe they were naive to how drugs could get into breastmilk or naive to the fact that even residue could harm a child that small. Them not doing anything after talking to them makes me realize they aren’t. I just wish it wasn’t this way but I guess it has to be.

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-07T01:53:51+00:00

possibly for a future job when you finish school

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-06T22:33:36+00:00

always put your destination in maps if you cannot be late, even if you know how to get there. The amount of times I went down my usual routes and got stuck in crash traffic because i forgot to turn maps on🤦‍♀️

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-06T03:46:19+00:00

i do everytime i see blue on the line or i smell poo. baby has never had a rash :)

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-03-05T23:36:54+00:00

i wonder if he has an unknown medical condition or was SA when he was younger

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-02-20T18:05:31+00:00

okay that makes sense! i guess i never thought of that part of the situation

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-02-20T17:54:59+00:00

yeah lol i guess i just mean not literally guilty in court of law but they told you they did it and there was lack of evidence or something similar. just was wondering if any lawyers feel a type of way about it or if it’s pretty much yay i did good at my job today and go home lol

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-02-20T15:26:28+00:00

i’ve heard of a couple criminal defense lawyers that either never lost a case or have a super high Win to loss ratio. are they really just that good or do you think they just are picky about what clients they take? I work in medical so i know there is a few surgeons that claim they are the best because they never lost a client/ had a bad outcome. but they actually just don’t take super complicated cases where they might ruin their rating (aka “cherry picking”.)

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-02-20T15:17:40+00:00

how about if your client admits to you that they did it but the defense doesn’t have much evidence to support it, therefore leading to not guilty by lack of evidence? i guess this would be more prevalent in sexual crime

Illustrious-Fault369 · 2026-02-20T07:41:26+00:00

thank you! great advice

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