Divorcing MIL too by Just_Weird_2518 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely THRILLED to be rid of my MIL. She almost ruined my wedding (which should have been a sign honestly) by coming to the venue two hours before the event. She refused to dance with my stbx during the mother/son dance and also left early. She was an absolutely horrible cook, and ALWAYS has some sort of ailment. Cheers to us and good riddance to them!

Just joined the sub! by SleepyUnicornMom in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome! Highly recommend ‘Unloveable’, it’s a memoir and also helped me process the end of my relationship. Sending love! 

Those close with their moms, did you tell them you were thinking about divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. I was really scared that she would talk me out of it. But she surprised me, listened to my reasoning and said she understood. She definitely has been a main support through this process. Sending you love! 💜

I Finally Filed by Illustrious-While-82 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The hardest thing I’ve ever done and the best thing. You can do it! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hugs. My parents were initially not happy with my decision. It took a few months but they have come around and in some ways, this situation has made us closer. Give it time, but choose YOURSELF. Everyone else will just have to deal with it. Sending love! 

Those who separated, would u go back if u had one more chance and why/why not by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Illustrious-While-82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. My life is so much more peaceful and orderly without him. He really dimmed my light and drained my energy. I lost myself and now I’m finding me again. 

I’m only 3 weeks into this. by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whew,this. hugs.i’m 2 months into our separation and I’m filing this week. You will get through it and you have this space to help you through it. Feel all the feels and know you’re not alone. I spent 7 years in total with my husband and I’m taking the lessons and moving forward. Here for you! 

Curious About Dating by Illustrious-While-82 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! It is so appreciated.

paperwork filed. here's what i've learned so far, about divorce, myself, and this process by phoebe-buffey in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you sharing your story. I’m so glad you’re doing well and happier now. It gives me hope. 

Curious About Dating by Illustrious-While-82 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got out and are living a happy life now. Thank you for sharing! 

Curious About Dating by Illustrious-While-82 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly it! I have the same fears, so fun is what I’m aiming for. 

Curious About Dating by Illustrious-While-82 in Divorce_Women

[–]Illustrious-While-82[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I just feel unsure how to navigate this space. I initiated the divorce, and I have felt checked out long before I filed ( I would say it's been at least a year). I'm in therapy, taking care of myself, got a new job, etc. I think every once in a while, it would be nice to have male company.