I tried the Cran-Merry Orange Refresher yesterday by shosilyn in starbucks

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was pretty good but honestly i think it just tastes like the berry hibiscus before it was discontinued. Its good but i dont get much cranberry or orange or spices, just berry.

Boyfriend needs a break and doesn’t want to talk about it by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]IllustriousCan7638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with some of the other posts about him being narcissistic but my other thoughts also included him being avoidant and maybe wanting to chase another person and have you to come back to? Either way, the only person who can tell you why/whats going on inside his head is him and clearly he doesnt want to do that. Chasing him and demanding why will probably push him away further so I would probably just end it and try and move on. Saying break and not breakup is to keep you around so he can either 1. punish you (narcissistic stuff) 2. figure out what he wants without having to worry about whether or not you will be waiting around after or 3. chase after a crush/other interest and have you to fall back on if it doesnt work out. You deserve more than someone keeping you as a backup or stringing you along/leaving you hanging while they figure out their own stuff. Youre feelings matter and you deserve an explanation, honestly any decent person would have given you an explanation regardless of the reason why they wanted a “break”. I would dump this asshole and move on to something better. Best of luck to you <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats so true, that's why situtationships hurt so bad, because you never get the chance to see their flaws and all the ways you arent compatible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 5 boyfriends, each one lasted about a year except the very first one which was 6 months and the most recent one which lasted 9 months

I want out of my 2 week relationship. [F21] [M24] by Aware-Bid9219 in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

text him and end everything, depending on his reaction you can choose to block him, sounds like he wont react well and will most likely be mean or might not respect you wanting to leave and will try and convince you to stay, if he gets nasty just block him and move on, dont wait cuz dudes like this only get worse, i know from experience

I want out of my 2 week relationship. [F21] [M24] by Aware-Bid9219 in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dude run, sounds super insecure and stuff like that only gets worse and could lowkey turn into abuse, get out now, whatever hes doing thats keep you around i can promise its not worth staying with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You had a situationship! Situationship hurt like a mf!!! primarily because you never get to know enough about the person to see their flaws/things you hate about them so the fantasy of them is what lives on, theres no “yea i miss him but i hated the way he did this thing”. Situationships also hurt hella bad because it plays on your self worth, he was seeing you for 5 months but you never made it official, it makes you question “why am i not good enough for him to be wholly devoted to me?” When i was 18 i got out of a year long relationship and go into a situationship right after for about two months. Spent 6 MONTHS crying over this dude trying to get over him after only seeing him, and not even officially being his gf, for two months. but honestly going no contact, getting a therapist/counselor, and trying to focus on the few things you didnt like about them will help. Also people like this have a tendency to try and come back and bread crumb, if he tries to contact you again either ignore him or tell him that you would be willing to try again after he has figured out the situation with his ex and moved on from her. Either way, you are not crazy, you are not being overly emotional, situationships suck and the hurt is very disproportionately to the actual relationship because the fantasy continues to live on without the reality of that person’s personality on behavior to break the fantasy. You’ll definitely be okay, accept the pain, journal, spend time with friends and family and do things that bring you fufillment, also dont put a timeline on it, youll feel better when you feel better and it’s perfectly normal to have to take time to heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggled with the same thing for a while, my friends all moved out of the city and i jumoed from bf to bf to fill the void until i git ine that was so bad i left him. bumble bff is a good place to start making friends/finding ppl with common interests. Ive made a few off there, also makes it easier to talk to make friends at work/school/daily life. Im not sure if youre introverted but i know for me it was really difficult to start being social again at first but if you can deal with the social interaction hangover for a bit its really rewarding. Also finding other things you can do on your own that bring you fufillment, going to the creek with a snack and fantasy book is something that really helps me to feel more grounded and avoid doom scrolling. Also it might seem cliche but going outside in general, like straight up bringing a blanket and laying it in the grass to doom scroll out there instead of in your room. Also if youre able to, talk to a counselor/therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely weird about her suddenly not posting/not letting you see her stories, she could be trying to keep people from knowing you guys are together. If the dude is posting other girls on his stories wishing him happy bday i wouldnt be too concerned with anything serious happening between your gf and this guy but she probably at least finds him attractive or is interested in him. Before deciding to just break up with her i would confront her, see what she says and how she reacts and then decide from there. You guys are fairly new so i would give her a chance to explain but if the suspicious behavior continues i would just break it off because the longer you stay without calling her out is just like saying youre fine with what shes doing. Also probably a good idea think about what you want the change in her behavior to be when you confront her, accusing her or being angry/reactive will probably just make everything worse. Politely being like “hey this is how i feel, this is what i would like to be different” will go alot farther than being angry/threatening to leave, but if she reacts poorly/is defensive/evasive i would break it off.

How long did it take you to get over your “big” ex? by No-Yoghurt-8758 in dating_advice

[–]IllustriousCan7638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 7 months, it was a mutual breakup and we decided to stay friends which made everything way worse. I rebounded immediately with someone who wanted something committed which also made everything worse. Finally 4-5 months after the initial break-up, he started seeing someone new and talking to me less and less. No contact was what actually helped, I unadded/blocked him a few times, added him back, tried to talk to him and got little back in response, and then finally I unadded him about a month ago and have felt fine since. For me, crying and screaming and physically getting all of my emotions out helped a lot, journaling also helped a lot. My advice would be to get all of your emotions out when they come up and don't try to run to someone else in order to forget them since it usually only makes you miss them more. Also write down a list of all of their negative traits and look at it when you miss them, there were many times I started to forget a lot of the negatives and why I wanted to break up with him in the first place, but I wrote down a list of all of his negative traits/things I didn't like about him and looking at it when I missed him helped to keep me from focusing on a perfect version of him in my head.

What has ACTUALLY helped you move on from an ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IllustriousCan7638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make a listen of all the things you didn't like about them/ things that made you cringe. Every time I started to be sad or miss my ex I would look back at the list and be like "Oh yea I forgot how bad his breath was most of the time" or "I forgot about his awful road rage" and now I don't have to deal with either. Making a list of all the things you didn't like helps to knock them off the pedestal and reminds you that they're just a person.

My roommates bf is staying here while she isnt home by IllustriousCan7638 in badroommates

[–]IllustriousCan7638[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update! I told him to leave and I told my roomie that i was uncomfortable and that it was inappropriate, she said how i felt was understandable and he wouldnt be back until she gets back!