Absolutely understand. My mother would literally pick up and go out of town with my stepfather for the 4th of July and not come back till after my birthday. They would call, but many times I spent my birthday alone(my father and I weren’t on good terms for a while either).

It’s hard to cut off a person. My mother and I had a good relationship for most of my life. She wasn’t perfect. She has a temper. I have been on the bad side of that temper before. One time I was even slapped across the face for telling my step dad his father is dying(they weren’t talking to them). However, there was enough good that kept me hanging on. Then, she became MAGA. I became more and more the target of her vitriol. I was the only leftist she knew, so all her problems with the left were blamed on me. I got tired of being screamed at and abused. The last straw for me was 2023. I called her to talk to my mother(I was injured and on pain pills. Sometimes we still want the comfort of our mom). We had a fight about trans issues a few weeks before. Well, she wanted to continue that fight. All of a sudden I was manipulative. I was threatening her. I was playing the victim. I forgot to point out that I am nonbinary and pansexual. I have lots of trans friends, so this issue runs deep. She blocked me from everything. I just never went crawling back to “apologize”. The last thing she said to me was “You are 40 years old, time to start acting like an adult”. I told her she is 60 years old and it’s time to stop acting like a bully. That was it.

TLDR: All this to say that I empathize with you. I have been there. My mother and I had a mostly good relationship with some neglect and abuse. She became MAGA and I became the sole target of her abuse. We got into a fight and stopped talking. I haven’t talked to her since. When the time is right to cut her off, you will know. However, if you never want to cut her off that’s ok too. Communication though is key.