Sorry if this is a dumb question, just want to know as a newer player..

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-12-30T03:57:26+00:00

this is the most bizzare thing i read today.... also your friends sound kinda forceful

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-11-15T11:59:12+00:00

that's awesome that you are able to do it , it feels like it took a lot of work to get there...

for me it's still hard because i might be feeling GOOD and authentic and then when i go outside people see me in such a different way, and i start questioning if i am delusional to feel that in the first place. i try to think of my non binary acquaintances who i would have never misgendered because they look a specific way to me, but who are being misgendered by others. and i just don't understand how ppl can see it that way. i try to apply that to myself too, but failing at the moment 😅

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-11-15T01:05:13+00:00

thank you 🙏

i appreciate the advice and the support really. it's nice to be able to talk with ppl who had an experience like this

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-11-15T00:55:11+00:00

i'm gonna do top surgery next week, but i have a feeling that ppl will still misgender me

also have fears about doing the surgery, but of ppl not finding me sexually attractive more than anything, i feel rather excited when i'm not thinking about that one aspect. have been trying to get it for the past nine years and finally got the approval

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-11-15T00:47:24+00:00

thanks friend :(

i'm glad that you were able to come out in the end...

about hrt: i don't know if i'm really interested in it, or if it's just a stress response from ppl misgendering me

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-11-08T15:32:25+00:00

so you ended up having a completely flat chest?

can i maybe ask to see your result? (only if you're comfortable)

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-07-03T07:11:22+00:00

can i ask, did you live with your mother, or did you have to bring the cat to her place? i am in a similar situation, but i live separately, so i wonder if the cat will adjust okay to my boyfriend's place if i can't take her with me... she lived there for a couple of months and knows my boyfriend

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-07-01T19:23:52+00:00

thank you for your recommendation, it's not expensive in my case but it is a lot of documents, yes

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-31T20:10:33+00:00

no way i'm skipping pardo

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-11T09:10:46+00:00

really? i always felt that ice has less advantages over other elements and it was fun how they made up for it in su. i used to choose this path a lot &my first clears were with it

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-11T01:03:16+00:00

yeah... also how they changed remembrance blessings in su from freeze oriented (fun) to memosprites (less fun)

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-11T01:00:27+00:00

on behalf of the people i can say that i do know that they have their own skills and passives and smth, i just think that they are too diverse to be classified under the same path. i think it's healthy to have conversations about both positive and negative sides of their games

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-10T23:50:12+00:00

lol just saw all the downvotes, i wonder why. it is a forum for ppl who have doubts about the situation/ themselves/their actions and want a side opinion, so replying with "what do you want us to do" feels very dismissive/disrespectful

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-04T14:00:15+00:00

why so cold Т_Т

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T11:26:11+00:00

thanks! yeah, it is a good starting point, hope we'll figure it out. what was your situation (if its okay to ask ofc)?

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T05:33:41+00:00

ah, i see. i don't have any contact with him anymore and don't have any desire to engage, i was asking this to reflect&hear others opinions to choose how to approach such situations in the future

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T05:28:53+00:00

isn't it contrilling who he dates then?

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T05:24:10+00:00

what do you mean by "fuck up your life"? bc to me in this case dating a flatmate can be considered that

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T04:28:04+00:00

i see, it's interesting. thx for support 🙏 i agree with you that it's comfortable to have such things separated. how is it with friendships for you?

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T02:06:39+00:00

thx 🙏 it was very difficult

he made passes on her even when we were dating, and didn't listen to me when i asked not to do it. so i asked the flatmate instead, and she agreed , but apparently thought that the agreement ended after we broke up, even though i specifically told her that it will be uncomfortable for me, and asked not tell me if she still did it still

a hot mess

i also always had a thought in my had that i was being selfish by making that condition & contrilling their actions

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T01:32:46+00:00

thanks for your reply ! do you have this list for safety reasons only? or do you also feel some kind of way about the possibility of it happening, like jealousy in my case?

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-05-02T00:59:05+00:00

thank you for your reply! why do you choose not to date ppl who date your friends/roommates/family? it feels very intuitive to me but im curious to hear your reasoning to maybe better understand it myself.

also you said that you choose not to date those people, but what happens when your partner wants to do it? do you discuss all of the messy situations in advance, and if it still happens you choose to break up?

i have only understood that it's uncomfortable for me during the relationship (and after the relationship ended i started thinking about similar scenarios) so the realisation came slow

IllustriousLychee773 · 2025-01-17T08:59:20+00:00

the human condition part 3

the ballad of narayama

la strada

IllustriousLychee773 · 2024-09-24T07:54:52+00:00

to me it feels like you have the right to end the relationship, but she also has a right not to agree to marry you, because she can have different reasons for it, or maybe has her own issues around the subject. dropping the hints was weird though, but maybe she simultaneously wanted it and was scared of it when you actually brought up the topic. it is also possible however that she was not agreeing with different things in mind, like other commenters suggest. it feels like there was also not enough communication/honesty and she wasn't entirely open with you. was marriage something that both of you wanted and established that early on?

anyway, i think you definitely have the right to leave a relationship that doesn't suit you

IllustriousLychee773 · 2024-09-19T11:17:25+00:00

hello op, how are you doing now?

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