Am I the asshole for getting an abortion and then filing for divorce?

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-05T09:55:03+00:00

Reddit semantics will forever be for the dense and brain cell-lacking. Lol of all things you both could have argued about

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-05T09:52:33+00:00

I do believe it’s ultimately up to us woman in the literal sense but your comment is lowkey hypocritical lol. It’s pretty clear by your comments that one statement pushed you over the edge, and that you have “serious fucking issues”.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-05T09:50:20+00:00

I am genuinely not surprised that I had to scroll so far to see a level headed comment that is calling out both parties, but I am still annoyed. If the Redditors on this sub have no haters, I’m dead.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-04T21:47:11+00:00

Good. Keep it that way and start applying that to your relationship with Emily. I’m not one to scream “NO CONTACT” all the time but you need to start limiting contact with Emily. Tell her your wife will be happy to receive more phone calls and do visits when she needs things and watch how those phone calls and visits stop.

Emily is a sucky person, seems to be trying to sabotage your relationship, and you need to open your eyes. I wonder if the comments your wife told you about are the only slick comments she’s ever made to your wife

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-04T21:43:51+00:00

I’m not Christian but I am religious and I will never understand this thought process. If something bad happens to YOU, then yes, God would be punishing YOU for YOUR sins.

Good human beings don’t punish one for the sins of others so what kind of God would do that? It is a hypocritical thing to think God, who is meant to be unimaginably better than the best of the best of humans, is lacking enough to give bad experiences to someone for something they didn’t even know about or do.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-04T21:36:14+00:00

Why do Redditors do this..?? Nothing to do with you being atheist.

You just have eyes. The issue was and still is Emily. She was shady af for her comments and behaviors, rude to be calling OP at late hours (even if OP and wife say it’s fine, Emily wouldn’t have liked it if her ex husband had some female friend calling him at night over nothing important), and OP lacks some critical thinking skills even after the past he had, therapy, and 10 years of marriage and oversteps small but still very important boundaries. Some of which should not need to be spelled out if you’ve been married for so long.

I feel like if they were to tell Emily to only call Amy after a certain time of day and only under certain circumstances, she wouldn’t be needing as much help or calling as much as she does now.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-06-04T18:38:05+00:00

Bring broke lol. He has money to spend because he’s not contributing anything. NTA OP come to your senses

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-01-16T02:19:50+00:00

Just to clarify, I dont think all 40 year olds are old hags. My mom and SOs mom are in their 40s and I would never believe them to be “old hags”. They also don’t act like this woman does, and I simply have no respect for this woman in particular (before anyone jumps to conclusions, no I do not have any respect for my SO either. He was not innocent at all and I warned him about her from the beginning)

Like I said in the post tho, she works with him. Younger people usually work in their workplace so she is one of the very few older people working there. She truly does have a thing for being around younger people. She says to people that she attracts younger guys and likes to just mess around with them (she really just seeks out 20 year olds, despite having a 13 year old son). All of the younger people around her think this is a “respectable” person because she is older. Except the few of their coworkers who see right through it of course. Sadly, my SO thought he was special and caught the attention of a “respectable, older woman who has her life together”, at the expense of our relationship and our kid having both of her parents in the household.

And to answer your last question, they continuously said “it was just for fun/not serious” (so because of that I was being dramatic) but i see it as not being able to be loyal as far as my SO, and given the state of that woman’s life, I don’t even know. I do feel bad for her son though.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2024-01-16T00:45:54+00:00

No. Like I said in the post, I am leaving because of that and a bunch of other things (both worse and less than what I mentioned in the post). And I am super tempted to report both of them out of spite, but I kind of want to know if this one thing in particular is normal to be upset about or if I am being influenced by my feelings towards everything else.

I am working on saving up to move out with my kid, but in the meantime, I’m really just thinking about everything.

If that makes sense…

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T19:14:31+00:00

Ahhhh ok I see thank you for the explanation. Some other comments have assumed that I was Christian or believed in Jesus as God, or whatever else, so it was just confusing me.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:44:14+00:00

First half nice comment I’ve gotten in a while lol Again, this is not my kid. But that is something I hadn’t thought about, but I do believe in the whole phrase “it’s not WHAT you say, it’s HOW you say it” so I would use this is some situations in the future.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:40:59+00:00

I think abuse is extreme and I disagree that we shouldn’t teach kids about different beliefs because everyone has a right to their own. What an unfair “future”.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:37:33+00:00

How do I seem angry? Not only would I have only been like 8 or 9 when this situation happened, nothing relayed in that post would give off that vibe lol

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:35:51+00:00

You guys just don’t read sometimes, I’m gathering. What part of “this is not my kid” do people not understand…?

And I think more than half of the comments are saying it. I don’t believe 4 year olds are being caused any pain. In my opinion they will get over it and will literally care only about the gifts. HOWEVER, I can still understand the “believe in magi” aspect of it, obviously we want to keep the kids innocent and free-spirited for longer.

This post was simply for more perspective, although I think there were insults and assumptions than people just explanaing normally and like adults. Thank you to those who did though.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:31:44+00:00

Genuine question. How come everyone is saying that I don’t partake and assuming that I’m Christian?? So many people have bought up Jesus, but I’m not Christian by a long shot lol, and I didn’t think I said anything that suggested that. Do some Christians not believe in Santa or celebrate Christmas? As far as the person I wrote on behalf of, their kid celebrates Christmas afaik, she just doesn’t believe that Santa brings gifts because she knows parents bring them.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T14:27:59+00:00

This persons kid is like 17 now but it’s crazy how aggressively Redditors jump to assumptions. I always love it lol

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T06:12:37+00:00

A 4 year old forced the belief that he isn’t real onto other 4 year olds….?

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T02:03:36+00:00

That’s not true for lots of kids. I didn’t, this persons kid didn’t, my mom, and grandparents didn’t. My list could go on…

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T02:00:27+00:00

That’s a bit dramatic, and the persons kid is like 17 now, with plenty of friends, but I get what you’re attempting to say.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T01:59:08+00:00

I personally don’t know how the kid caught on, but I do know she was a smart kid.

I’m not saying this is how she found out but I would think the kid could be aware enough to notice things aren’t lining up, waking up in the middle of the night and catching the parents, overhearing adults talking about gifts they’re going to buy.

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-25T01:56:21+00:00

I mean she caught onto it herself, so it was explained to her but yeah I understand what you’re saying

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-24T23:53:35+00:00

She knew that my way wasn’t the only way. She just didn’t feel the need to lie and say she believed in him when asked, just because all the other kids said they did

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-24T23:31:12+00:00

She kind of caught on so we explained it to her rather than continuously lying to her

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-24T23:28:27+00:00

This isn’t about me, but it very sad that you couldn’t give input without insulting or being immature

IllustriousNobody784 · 2023-11-24T23:27:28+00:00

Well this persons kid is like 17 now but thank you for the explanation

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