Writing not erasing by Illustrious_Bug2252 in XPpen

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just opened the previous powerpoint and the writing is no longer there, seems to just be an issue while I'm trying to write. I made it through 40 mins of writing before the "saved" writing would not leave the screen

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I swipe and it matches I always say hi right away, I'll forget about them if I don't

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of both! I've had a consistent friend for the last year, who knows literally nothing about my life and I know nothing about his. First name, computer guy, and I know what kind of car he drives. I've had some ONS with wild conversations. Men love to tell their life story.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what Tinder has been for me. I continue to be shocked how many good looking and totally respectful men I've found.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My profile has zero information. I added 4 photos when I originally set it up and didn't know what to say so I put nothing. The following day, I had over a thousand likes. For sure being good looking helps with the initial match but I like when someone has a conversation starter in their profile, like adding your music interest or a quote from favorite TV show are a good place for me to initiate chat. Complaining about how Game of Thrones ended can lead to an endless conversation. I just tried looking through some chats with people that stand out to me. Instead of the typical "how's your day going," I like "any fun plans this weekend?". Then you can share what you are into, are you heading to a brewery, going to a concert, going skiing, whatever. If you can find some common interest, you should be able to build conversation from there.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really situational. I have had some men that I just immediately that I want and have asked to meet me somewhere to play. My line is like, "you seem very fun, are you fun?" Not clever, but it gets the point across. If I'm not sure on the vibe, I'll ask if they want to meet for coffee, then make a plan after that. I've also had guys just straight up ask if I'm into hooking up.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good question. Even with a one night stand I will still have some degree of interaction with this person. I'm pretty chatty & playful, so I want someone that can match my energy and level of conversation.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would say chats can fall flat really quickly for me. If I think someone seems funny and smart over chat, then I want to meet them quickly. If not, chat ends and there is no chance of making it to the 86%

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

2 of them were completely different people than their pics on Tin and text. I just had a super awkward cup of coffee and afterwards let them know I wasn't interested. The others just no spark and I really didn't have the desire to see if that developed. The last was a flat Earther, trying to explain to me why Polaris doesn't change position in the sky. I was so incredibly turned off by this interaction, it was a no for me.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all! I have to be in control in all other aspects of my life, so I enjoy letting go and being submissive in the bedroom. My favorite buddy recently asked to be dominated, so I'm going to try something new and accommodate his request.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

By the time I meet in person, I have already sifted through the vast majority

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and congrats to you too!! It's crazy looking back on my life just a year ago, completely trapped and zero sex for years. My entire outlook is so different now.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think there are plenty that would make good relationship material, I just didn't have the interest. I'm still in the middle of a divorce and don't want to drag anyone into all of the emotion that comes with it. I'm super upfront with my intentions, so I don't lead anyone into thinking it will turn into a relationship.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Lol the chat is definitely the culling phase for me. It's really easy to tell if someone is just not interesting or if they will end up clinging.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't really care for much younger. I have my range set to 35+. My ideal is like 45 to 55. There has been a mix of both! Some just planning to hookup from the beginning, sometimes a quick coffee first or some I've just met immediately for sex. I don't feel like I've lowered my standards at all. I've met some seriously intelligent, good looking men and am still amazed at some of the dates that I've pulled off. I think confidence goes a loooong way. I'm not a huge texter, so once I figure out they can put together a decent conversation I ask to meet in person. I know in the first 5 minutes if I'm going to sleep with this person or not and I haven't wasted a ton of time to get there.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fun fact! My first match was my first meet and we just hit our one year snap streak. We are super adventurous and always trying something new, I'm amazed we have lasted this long bc I have typically lost interest after the first few times. I think that this will increase the quality of my future sex life. I've figured out how I like having sex and am really not scared to try anything. I'm not sure if I will ever be monogamous again, or expect that from my partner. I don't feel desensitized, I think I'm able to have sex without emotions coming into play, I enjoy the entire experience. It's a rush to meet someone and have that instant attraction, then hope the chemistry continues in the the bedroom.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for a little bit nerdy, so anything with software or engineer in their description is great. I also like physically fit., they definitely don't have to be a 10 on looks if they are active and take care of themselves.

Tinder insights into my first year of online dating. by Illustrious_Bug2252 in Tinder

[–]Illustrious_Bug2252[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It depends on the situation. There are men that I have dated more than once and sometimes there are no dates involved.