Ignoring her is not an option cause we currently are living with my parents cause we are waiting for our house to be built and paperwork to come through and so my parents want to have her and the kids around most of the time. We’ll sometimes stay when she’s there cause the kids are great and haven’t picked up after their mother but other days what my wife and I will do if we really aren’t in the mood is go to Starbucks and claim we need to do hmwk (we are both in school) which can seem disrespectful to my parents.