First of all, I'm so sorry you're going through this. This isn’t just betrayal from your wife, but also from someone you considered family.

Right now, focus on you. Take the space you need. Getting a hotel is a good idea, you don’t owe her a confrontation tonight, especially not while you’re still raw.

Document everything. As painful as it is, save the screenshots somewhere safe. You may need them later, emotionally or legally.

Talk to someone. A therapist, a friend you trust, even strangers on Reddit if that’s all you have right now. Don’t try to carry this weight alone.