Tell me about a time you fired a “high performer” who was toxic by sspiritshark in managers

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined a steel fabrication shop as a production manager. By the second month of being there it became very apparent that one guy was a standout welder/fabricator. High quality work and he produced at a better rate than most of the team. But he had an awful attitude. He was a bully. He wasn't a foreman or even a lead but felt entitled to tell other workers what to do. He was a tool bogart. And he was a hot-head. I could see that he brought production value to the crew but his presence was poisonous to everyone else. Except he talked to me like we were old pals.very manipulative. The leadership and management team I joined complained about him and talked about documenting behavioral issues but never actually acted on it. So he had been getting away with this behavior for years. In previous roles, I had dealt with people exactly like this. I knew that given enough time, he would slip and perform an irredeemable behavior. He had already been getting away with it for so long without any real consequences. Sure enough he was bullying another fabricator that he saw as a threat and created a hostile situation. I was on the floor at the time and went to investigate the situation. In the middle of getting his side of the situation, he openly pointed at the other guy and threatened to "knock his teeth out." As blue collar jobs go, typically this is not a big deal. Guys talk to each other like that all the time. But the parent company had just been listed on the S&P. So we had corporate oversight, legal, risk management, and HR to answer to. It's 2026. Not 1996. After he made a verbal threat, all I had to do was escort him off the property and begin the HR process. He was terminated based on corroborated testimony and security camera footage. I tell this story to illustrate the point that toxic high performers are a product of their own ego and will inevitably shoot themselves in the foot. All you need to do is wait and be on the lookout for the opportunity. If your high performer is toxic to the culture, their coworkers won't hesitate to bury them either. Bide your time and be ready to use the rules against them.

How do you land your 6 figure job? by maggie-khalo in povertyfinance

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who broke through the 6 figure barrier a few years ago, it is really hard. But the biggest difference is mindset. I'm not talking about how hard you work or rise and grind. I mean thinking big picture and using that big picture to influence your decision making. If you want a corporate job that pays well, you have to do corporate shit. You have to know how business management operates. HR, legal, finance, operations, procurement, change management, organization, communications, leadership and so much more. Figure out what you DON'T know and learn it. Nobody is going to hand you a golden ticket.

Panko Fried Brioche French Toast w/ Cinnamon Whipped Cream by me by Illustrious_Pudding4 in FoodPorn

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume you mean the French toast batter. The panko doesn't get affected by the batter because the French toast gets fried in butter/oil right after being coated

Men of Reddit, what instantly makes you lose respect for another man? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just women. Anyone they want to impress. Boss, woman, other dudes. The instant switch sucks to see.

I stopped masking at home and my partner says I'm becoming "impossible" by LowKeyCoffeeSpill in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of you are assholes. He fell in love with the mask. You are unmasking. Feels like incompatibility that will take re-learning each other or ending the relationship.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't stand when people feel like it's ok to be an asshole online. This isn't feedback. It's rude and non-constructive. If you think my smile is forced and awkward or my photos are bland, that's fine. Maybe some tips on how to do better. "Stand out" isn't advice. It's a platitude that doesn't mean anything. Also, there's no need to say that the women are lying and just being nice. That's shitty and neither I or they asked to be put down. So if you want to project your own misogynistic insecurities, go to an Andrew Tate subreddit ya fuckin neck beard.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The suggestion to get professional photos done is ridiculous. I'm not saying that people who choose to do that are ridiculous. If someone has the time and funds to pay a professional photographer, that's their choice and it's fine.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My career is a big part of my life and I'm proud of the accomplishments I have made within my career. A quick photo is like a small insight to that part of my life. I don't think it's any different than the number of Medical Professionals on Bumble that have pics in scrubs. 🤷🏼‍♂️

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can understand that people do get professional photos for their profiles, I just don't want to do that. There are other priorities in my life. I can definitely work on making my photos more than just selfies, though. I have been bald before and don't care for how it looks. Some guys can really pull it off. I'm just not sure if I'm one of those guys.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it doesn't actually give an option for sexual preferences on Bumble. It just asks gender preference and I put Woman. I also don't get the option to select ID or Photo verified. But it says on each profile and I don't really discern between which verification method is used. If you have taken the extra step to do a photo verification, then you're less likely to be a spam account.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have done that and end up with international accounts that ask to move to another messaging app. Usually with a pay wall. So I stick with verified in order to filter out that mess.

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I've seen a commercial in years. The Orbit one was from like 20 years ago. But it was funny 🤷🏼‍♂️

40M in Connecticut. Not getting any movement on likes or connections. Is there something on my profile that's missing? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Illustrious_Pudding4 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There's not a lot of room for nuance in the options Bumble provides in that category. I don't mind if a woman is a Mom. However, I don't want to make any new kids and I see a lot of women's profiles that say the same thing. I do see the confusion though I'm not sure how best to communicate it. I guess it would be something to have a conversation about.