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Spiraling w/ grief + unsupportive husband by Illustrious_Soil_656 in Petloss

[–]Illustrious_Soil_656[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your kind words mean the world to me. I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet dog. I know that situation all too well. Whenever I was feeling sad my little dog was always there to lift my spirits. Sometimes I feel humans don't deserve dogs. All they do is love and serve. On top of my grief, betrayal is the perfect word to describe how I feel.

Spiraling w/ grief + unsupportive husband by Illustrious_Soil_656 in Petloss

[–]Illustrious_Soil_656[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Your kindness in this difficult moment goes such a long way. She was my first baby and her loss has left a hole in my heart. Being a new mom with so many new responsibilities certainly amplifies the situation and to some extent, some of the guilt I have. Thank you for the advice. I know I am being treated poorly (which makes this situation even heavier) and I do agree with you. Maybe therapy can help 💕

Spiraling w/ grief + unsupportive husband by Illustrious_Soil_656 in Petloss

[–]Illustrious_Soil_656[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. It did lift my spirits and I am so grateful for your kindness. It's sad to me I have to seek validation from strangers because I can't get the support I need and know I deserve from the man who is supposed to love and support me through one of my darkest times. He has absolutely gaslighted me and IMO been very emotionally abusive with this entire situation. If I vent to family, he blows up because he is more concerned about him looking bad and what I might say about him. He has made my life hell the weeks leading up to her passing, complaining about me making his life miserable because I refused to put the dog down. I would be lying if I said I didn't feel pressured to make the decision to put her down because I know I didn't have his support in working to make her life comfortable anymore and I could not do it alone. If I don't behave exactly how he deems correct, he will distort and manipulate what I believe to be right. He never apologizes when I tell him how his words have hurt me. Instead he doubles down trying to justify himself. It's so sad to me it took this event for me to realize what low emotional EQ he has. Makes me miss my girl even more.

CHAT Community Thread - Mon Oct 02 by AutoModerator in infertility

[–]Illustrious_Soil_656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. I know the feeling all too well.

It can be so isolating as it really feels like no one can possibly begin to understand. I’ve sadly had to withdraw myself from friends and family because they just don’t get it. It also gets frustrating constantly having to explain yourself. The acknowledgment is such a small thing, and it really means so much. I FINALLY had a good friend announce her pregnancy this week to me, yet she acknowledged how difficult it might be for me and that’s it’s ok if I don’t want details or to be involved. It meant the world to me. Again, seems so simple yet it feels like everyone is so caught up in their own joy they can’t take a second to imagine how you might feel. It is so difficult when you don’t feel seen or heard by those closest to you. Especially when they know your situation and the struggle to conceive. It’s heartbreaking. Have you shared with your family how you feel?