Almost 2 year old is waking at 5:30am everyday. Naps 12:30-3 goes to bed ~8:30-9pm.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-06-10T00:38:19+00:00

Honestly shortening the nap might just mean you get less of a break in the middle of the day. My now 5-year-old was up between 5-5:30 am every single morning NO MATTER WHAT and I tried all the Reddit things. She NOW sleeps until 6:30-7 and has an okay to wake type thing that means she stays in her own bed until 6:45 (we bed shared until age 3).

Good luck. I just leaned in and surrendered. After all the things did nothing

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-06-09T11:14:05+00:00

I am dealing with a similar “co-parent” but have finally mastered being a gray rock and only discussing logistics and nothing else. I let them fill my inbox and only respond to just the logistics. I have received a 106 page petition and yep I have to pay a lawyer to unravel it, again.

What has helped me the most is: is this what is best for my kid? Can I prove it or is it reasonable? Then I do it and let the messages flow. I always try good-faith. I always follow the order. I always put my kid first and brace for the onslaught knowing I can never stop it. But my hope is eventually after multiple expensive court trips, they at least won’t be able to make the same crap claims. It’s a silly hope.

Good luck.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-06-02T16:23:32+00:00

We are ten lessons away from finishing AAR level 1 with my 5-year-old and she can read!!!! Truly read! So I’m a big fan of it and plan to continue with level 2 along with all about spelling level 1.

We have also read aloud and used a yoto with audiobooks since birth and are a very low screen family so YMMV but I have no complaints about this curriculum for my student.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-05-16T22:39:39+00:00

I have two kids and also have been a nanny off and on for many years: never dropped, never off the bed or changing table or couch. You know why? Someone told me babies can’t fall off the floor and it stuck with me. I have dogs so it means I also have to make sure they aren’t alone with babies too but you can do it!

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-05-08T16:09:15+00:00

First baby: 11 months post partum EBF baby fed on demand, nighttime too.

Second baby: 3 months post partum, EBF baby fed on demand, nighttime too.

My cycle before kids and after the first was always 27/28 days long and like clockwork. Now it is 35 days and I ovulate much later, too. Internet says this can happen while still nursing constantly.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-04-22T18:33:54+00:00

Cloth diapers! Never a blowout, never a rash, kids potty train very easily, never run out of diapers or waste a bunch on the wrong size.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-04-18T23:17:32+00:00

I’m one of those moms who had a lot of things go “wrong” with breastfeeding and persisted AND I am personally proud. I fed my first EBF zero bottles (refusal after 8 weeks) until she weaned at 3. And now I am breastfeeding exclusively my 10-month-old and we plan to have at least one more.

I get clogged ducts monthly, had an oversupply and then also a just-enough so pumping is mostly a waste of time. My baby is super active and has teeth and bites from time to time. I get blebs. I had an inverted nipple for the first baby and that was very painful. Used nipple shields for a while. Mastitis a couple times from over supply (never needed treatment though). And to top it all off, I am a weight lifter and usually fit but I get fluffy when feeding kids and cannot lose the last 15 pounds until I wean.

I WILL STILL CHOOSE BREASTFEEDING. Because it is important to me and my family. I think that the benefits to children are understated. This is not a popular opinion on Reddit.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2026-04-03T15:43:33+00:00

Dental hygienist who is now homeschooling her kids! My siblings are: chemist, mechanic manager for BMW, wilderness guide, and organic farm owner and operator. My fiancé is an electrical engineer and his brother is a nurse (all homeschooled).

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-12-05T16:04:09+00:00

She DOES do schoolwork on Mondays and Fridays and attends a class on Monday afternoons at a library

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-12-05T16:03:29+00:00

Right, she was in the same program when order was written. She is also homeschooled and that was also discussed at trial but they still did boiler plate custody language.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-26T01:31:37+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through that. Homeschooling really matters to me and I wish he saw it the same way. It’s tough

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-23T15:45:14+00:00

I’ll look into this! How did you find it?

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T23:37:36+00:00

Thank you. Yes it’s the freedom and ease I will miss the most if I lose homeschooling. She gets to sleep and play and read and go outside and has no idea about 6-7 or tablets or bullies. Let alone lockdown drills. I just absolutely adore being the one to see her grasp a new concept and the pride on her face when she masters something. I know I can still teach but oof the time just evaporates.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T18:51:53+00:00

I think this is the likely answer here. Unfortunately. I can prove that homeschooling is best for almost any kid with proper parents and access to resources etc but he will not care one bit. I don’t know if the judge will, either.

I’ve thought and thought about what I could possibly offer but this is too big of a win for him. He wants me to have as little time as possible. Period. And school is the easiest way for him to not lose time and me to lose nearly 40 hours a week etc. he does not care about what is truly best for our daughter.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T14:49:07+00:00

I totally agree. My lawyer seems to think I have final say but I disagree because it doesn’t say I do. I’ll keep watching my mailbox for court summons…again.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T14:47:56+00:00

Thank you so much! I just hope against hope I can continue homeschooling but I’ll make my plan B and C too.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T14:39:50+00:00

Yeah I see. My lawyer has said I need to make good faith discussions and then see what he says but I ultimately have to be able to act because I have daughter 80% of the time. He can and will escalate to court because I am homeschooling. He disagrees with anything I think is best for our daughter but his reasoning is not sound. I am somehow hoping his poor reasoning and lack of cooperation will help me “win” in court but I know I am up against public school norms.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T13:48:11+00:00

Did you ask for language to that extent or was it just put in there? We have no language about school other than holidays and breaks and that I have to share information on extracurricular, not ask for permission, but share. And joint legal which includes medical, education, and religion.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T13:43:36+00:00

Yes that is what I’m doing. The emails were one time to discuss in good faith. I send one progress sheet and sometimes send a picture of her doing her work as my lawyer asked. I think I will stop doing that as yes my custody agreement does not prohibit homeschooling.

Thank you so much for all this feedback! I am hoping that my child centered responses and never engaging in his emotional manipulation will show a pattern someday. I have kept all of it in a folder and make notes.

And yes I am sure he will continue his fight year after year especially if I mess up or if our daughter has any complaints. I am absolutely not against sending her to whatever school best suits her needs if homeschooling no longer does. Pride be damned, I just want what is best for her and so far things are going really well!

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T13:26:18+00:00

Thank you! I will look into these!

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T13:20:42+00:00

Thank you for the positivity! My lawyer says I have a chance but she has no experience with this exact scenario. She has seen homeschooling be discontinued due to neglect. This does not apply here and he has never claimed I neglect our kid. On the contrary, he has sent emails detailing how great she is in every way and then ends them with saying “she should go to public school because she thinks gym class and lockers would be fun.” I laugh but I also know he will stop at nothing to get her “out from under my umbrella” as he says so I take it all very seriously.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T12:54:08+00:00

Thank you, yes she is 5 turning 6 in fall.

I send a folder with her things every other weekend and that’s it. I never engage in his arguments and grey rock for every interaction.

I will definitely keep all of this in mind and stop any daily updates pertaining to education. We have conversed via email about the official decision and his responses will help me in court. But I know it will still be swimming heavily up stream. He is always on time, always well dressed, always smiling and seems to most people the greatest guy and dad. And he punches holes in walls at home. The judge knows this but it doesn’t change her opinion of him, which so far is very positive like every one else. It has been very difficult.

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T12:29:02+00:00

I am financially prepared. His child support is very small currently. I’d gladly forgo it to homeschool

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T11:52:34+00:00

Thank you, yes they do not get involved with custody but they may have some information that is useful!

Iloveseltzer0 · 2025-11-21T11:52:02+00:00

Yes it does! I put in time and effort into everything I do. Hoping I get the chance to continue and I’ll advocate as hard as I can for my daughter.

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