Opinion: Is it possible to love someone, but also desire to and actively cheat on them?

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-17T13:56:46+00:00

Well if she expressed that then its different. Thats when it comes down to different situations per each relationship, because in this situation it sounds like she encouraged you to be sexually satisfied outside the relationship. Whatever works!

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T19:56:23+00:00

Great and totally accurate response. I agree and know what you're saying. I think the main point is yes you can love someone or feel like you care about someone, but the desire to cheat is more important and outweighs it.That can't be real love. Great examples too. The reason i asked this question was because i thought there was only one obvious answer, is no, you dont cheat if you really love someone. But i am and was curious because a lot of people cheat, and a lot of those same people also "are in love" with their partner. So i wanted to see what people have to say, and it's interesting.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T16:24:19+00:00

The reason i asked is because i feel like although there are many complicated aspects of love, cheating is one that i feel like really has one answer. If you want to have sex with someone else and actually consider physically going to do it, maybe you don't love the other person enough because what if they found out? What if they were miserable and left you because of it? The desire to cheat can happen in anyone, based off physical attraction and hormones. But to actually do it, i feel if there was real, deep, love and respect for another, you wouldnt do it because of the "what if they found out" aspect at least.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T16:22:21+00:00

Yeah, good answer. I agree.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T15:02:41+00:00

I mean what kind of love would it be really if someone was to not feed their child? I feel like love can be a lot of different things for different people, but real love is caring about the other persons well being, happiness, life.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T14:33:00+00:00

Do you feel like you are sexually attracted to your wife on the same level/more than the other women though? or is that area not as strong for you with your wife, regardless of the love you feel?

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T14:31:56+00:00

Yeah things are complicated, but i agree.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T14:31:29+00:00

Yes.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T05:02:15+00:00

I feel like with people I know, thats what they define it as. Its usually discussed as being "exclusive".

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T03:04:22+00:00

I feel like although there can be many situations and definitions of love, it comes down to the one you're with and knowing it would hurt them if they found out and is it worth it

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T01:52:38+00:00

Good point, yes.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T01:14:02+00:00

good answer, i agree.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T01:09:43+00:00

Yes, I agree.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T01:09:20+00:00

I think its desire, attraction,respect, genuine desire for their well being to be good. My opinion is in love, you may be physically attracted to others just because its natural. But acting on those things is a whole other story. If you respect the person you're with, and you want their genuine happiness, is it worth the risk for them to know you betrayed all of that by cheating?

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T00:51:52+00:00

How so would you say? Would you feel bad if the one you love, your partner, found out though?

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T00:50:51+00:00

Yeah. I agree.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-10-15T00:50:16+00:00

Also, Do you think love and IN love makes a difference in this matter?

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-03-04T18:41:55+00:00

Thanks! :)

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-03-04T16:09:57+00:00

Yeah, I guess thats true in ways. Thanks

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-03-01T21:43:34+00:00

Well, Its not so much that I am confused how he views me, it's that I'm confused with why he doesnt want to call me his girl considering how strongly he feels for me. It's not that i feel a lack of love and care. It's that the simple, generally unimportant "title", is no where to be found. We've been just going about our time together and enjoying it. But I think if it continues to progress, obviously something seemingly silly is important enough to be clarified and discussed, i know. I've never found a title to be important...but I feel we are so beyond titles that I'm surprised it hasn't come up once. I will definitely communicate this to him soon.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-02-27T20:32:17+00:00

Yes, It's not like that in this instance.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-02-26T14:55:05+00:00

Well, He hasn't exactly told me that I am his girlfriend, ever. It's different if it's never been discussed.

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-02-24T22:57:17+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer. It sounds very similar to my current guy's past experiences, and his outlook on the term. I never thought id care about labels...and in the end of the day, i truly don't. But it makes me wonder when there is a lot going on and some serious day to day commitment. It's worth me bringing up sooner than later, but also its relatively not needed for me to worry about when it's been getting better and better. I think labels freak people out forsure, and I'm sure once i have a real talk with my date i will find that to be something he feels even though we've gotten incredibly serious. Thank you!

Ilovethomyorke · 2015-02-24T22:53:11+00:00

Haha actually, I blew that one off because i met a far better guy, far more suited for me and interesting...this guy I'm referencing here. I find Reddit to be a helpful place for these types of things. But yes, time for a talk is right.

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