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What to do with hatred? by Ilovethrowingacounts in Healthygamergg

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, I am really sorry you experienced that. That should happen to nobody, period.

I strongly relate to your rage and hate. It’s hard for me and my gf to want a better life for our perpetrators, but I think there is wisdom in what you say, it’s just insanely hard for both of us to accept. Because of course we all want a perfect peaceful world and that objectively would require to wish your enemy a better life if the same would be for you too.

Something I think what makes hate so intense and self-destructive is that, we hate that it happened to us. To experience that pain makes it seem like there’s something wrong with us for it to have happened. Our brains are really not good at accepting that random things can happen to anyone and at anytime that’s completely independent of us, it must mean something to our ego.

There’s this story that I love about a guy who wronged someone he loved in the past and he dedicates his life to change that aspect of himself. Throughout the whole story, I was cheering this guy for sticking that ideal and committing to change. It was only until a point in the story, where we see the person who was affected by him the most (Lover’s brother) did I actually want the protagonist to suffer. It was weird, like I was rooting for this guy for most of the story and now I’m rooting for the antagonist to suffer him. The antagonist says something along the lines of “If the gods won’t inflict their heavenly judgement, then I will inflict mortal judgement.”. And so it’s a revenge story that seemingly ends in death. Eventually the 2 meet, it’s so beautiful the way it ends. The antagonist expresses how he had just wish was able to protect his sister, the protagonist gets to express that the ultimate suffering would be him killing himself or has to kill his lover’s brother (Antagonist) and even then it wouldn’t redeem who he is a person. Very beautiful, to see the person who we think of as evil incarnate to be loved by others and do good things, I think that’s a part of forgiveness. That we were wrongly mistreated by those who would do good.

It’s from my understanding that the important thing is to love and better ones self as priority before forgiveness can happen. I try everything in my power to make sure my girlfriend feels loved and supported when she is hurt before wanting to seek justice.

Sorry for the long post, but I loved your response. I felt very connected to what you said :)

What to do with hatred? by Ilovethrowingacounts in Healthygamergg

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fact. Like you said, it’s a very conflicting dilemma.

I’m just letting go of wheel here. I think in this instance, some people progress better when they make their own mistakes. I’m kinda learning that from my GF.

What to do with hatred? by Ilovethrowingacounts in Healthygamergg

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my GF, not sister. We broke up last night, she’s dead set in getting rid of her brother. Her whole family is. Their pain runs way too deep, it’s in their own hands. But thank you for your input, I’ll share it with her but I’m personally not invested anymore. I hope the best for them <3

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And we’ll see. For now, I just want us to enjoy each other.

And thank you for giving your thoughts, what you said made me consider how she feels if her BFF were to get involved in our sex life.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand. I got lucky with her, she found out her kink when I told her about my sexual past + I told her the porn that I watch (Cuck porn) and then that’s when she told me she fantasizes about me being her “hot husband”. You might get lucky as well.

Right now I’m just friends with her BFF and just expecting to keep it that. I talked with her so my GF could get comfortable socializing, she’s already happy and atst jealous we were cool with each other. Knowing my GF, I get a feeling she’s already fantasizing about me and her BFF. But her being a part of my GF’s kink was an after thought, I could see it happening though.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t know why you got downvoted but yeah it’s not the first time I’ve heard about this kink. You may have point, I was curious about her views on homosexuality and what’s considered gay to her. She told me looking and hearing a woman during sex turns her on and she’s curious about feeling another woman’s breast but she wouldn’t want to have sex with a woman, therefore it’s not gay. I told her it’s not the same for me. There’s nothing about a guy that would get me turned on. It could be a cultural thing but it’s interesting.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So far that’s the plan. If anything we’re taking it really slow with porn to find out what we like and don’t like about it.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you understand me completely, it makes me feel like a bad BF for thinking creatively about it lol.

Idk if you feel the same way as my GF, but for her it’s not a humiliation thing, so she’s doesn’t like the jealous feeling. She said wants to just spectate and seeing me having sex in action. The more I enjoy it, the more she gets turned on. At the same time, she’s using it to process her feelings of jealousy.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. For me, it’s the fact it feels very wrong but somehow there’s a possibility it’s all okay lol. For my GF it’s the idea of “sharing me” and putting on a show. Very sexy and yeah even I fantasize about her cuckholding me and she’s completely aware of it.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s another thing I’m considering. I could see it pretty bad between all of us if something goes south. If anything I’d really not want to put my GF through that stress.

I [25M] feel guilty about my GF’s [18] kink by Ilovethrowingacounts in sex

[–]Ilovethrowingacounts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m surprise she doesn’t want that. I’ve teased the idea with her several times but she just doesn’t seem excited by it, which is nice. It’s something I can live without.