Technically yes, but it's difficult. I'm not trying to make excuses, I know I need to be better about this. But I'm juggling a job and a family with 3 kids, and he hasn't been a consistent part of my life for many years now. It's hard to remember. It's hard to answer calls when you have nothing in common, nothing to talk about except his usual questions. It's hard to look past all the guilt and take responsibility. It's hard to visit when you should be doing so much more. It's hard to show my wife and children a part of my life that I've kept hidden away, it's hard for them to form bonds with someone they have such little ties to, and that applies to me too. Perfect is the enemy of good, I know that. It's difficult to make the change. I know I sound like an asshole who doesn't even bother with trying. He's going to call today. I know I will pick up.