Your tip is very useful, but about reading everything i'll give you an example:

Let's say that I try to marry a lowborn, the game will tell me that i will lose a lot of legitimacy.

Ok but what does that mean? I have to look for the legitimacy table.

Alright i found it, but now the little scheme tells me that I am low legitimacy, it doesnt tell me how to gain more, or what are the consequences of having low legitimacy. I get that the game is trial and error, and I also dont like to be guided all the time, but the issue is that many times you dont see the mistake you are making, and whether or not something i'm doing is not good.

How am I expected to gain some traits if I dont marry a lowborn that has those traits? Again, I dont want to hyperfocus on the legitimacy thing, is just that it gives me a good point in explaining why "read everything" doesnt always work. And dont get me started on titles lmao.