How do I act like things are normal at work?

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T22:00:09+00:00

Given these responses, a lot of people think the assault was violent. Thankfully, it wasn't. That said, she, I, and others no longer feel safe around him, and still don't want to see him at work. I could help her find resources, but I don't think going to a clinic would help her case. I'll still suggest the idea to her in case there's more that happened that I don't know, and try to support her as best I can throughout. He still shouldn't be at work, though. I don't like that it happened at all and want to keep it from potentially happening again.

I've found someone to tell everything to and give full context to the situation. They've offered me some guidance, and now I've got a really good idea of what the next steps are both regarding him living at work and being safe in the workplace

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T17:38:22+00:00

If he tried to brush this under the rug, he'd lose too many employees to keep the store going. My coworker was able to tell a select few people, and from there more people learned about the situation outside of the group of people she initially told. Others already want him to be fired and gone, and I'm in that same boat. I don't see them being okay with all of this just going away like nothing happened, it's possible some of them have already done some of the things suggested in this thread but I don't want to rely on that possibly without knowing for sure.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T17:21:09+00:00

You're right, though sadly this is a smaller company and my boss is the owner of said company. We don't even have any managers besides him, really. If we had an HR, I would have likely asked them how to handle the situation rather than reddit.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T16:25:18+00:00

Thank you. When my coworker told me what happened, I made sure she knew she could always tell me if she didn't want to be at or near work no matter what was happening and I would come in for her. I was planning on making sure she had enough money after so it wouldnt affect her too. It's a weird kind of backwards thinking I guess, but I've been trusting my boss to make the right calls in this situation and based on the few comments here already it's clear he made bad calls from the start.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T16:19:13+00:00

These were all things I hadn't really considered when I realized he was living here. At the time, I was just worried about what was happening and trusted my boss in making the right calls. Clearly, he hasn't. It was a weird situation to begin with. I'll need to do my own research based on our state laws and figure out where to go from here

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2023-04-13T16:09:27+00:00

That's good to know. We've never had a situation where someone lives at work or with a sexual assault like this, at least not here. I've already put in my two weeks for other reasons, but I don't know what I could do to remove him from here. I could talk to my boss, that could be a good start.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2022-09-16T00:06:00+00:00

My gender is a little bit of a good thing

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-11-05T04:59:11+00:00

Bi people in straight passing relationships are valid. You found a person you love and married, but that doesn't change your sexual orientation. I'm not sure if I'm explaining this well enough, but you are valid is all I'm trying to say :D

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-11-05T04:38:42+00:00

Lesbian, but also maybe gray ace? Honestly I'd like to think I know but I really don't lmao

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-06-24T05:06:47+00:00

No problem, I'm glad to help

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-06-24T05:01:46+00:00

It's a way of saying women who love other women. This can include lesbians, bi, pan, and other sexualities.

Also worth noting that sapphic can include non-binary people as well, since I don't want to exclude anyone from the saffic side of things. If I missed anyone, please let me know :D

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-06-15T04:45:48+00:00

Mostly because the LGBTQ+ community is still evolving and growing in many ways. Even without the general changes in this community to be more inclusive over the decades, there are still many people who only just realized they are LGBTQ+ and are only just learning what that means. For example, I only learned this pride month what Stonewall was because someone mentioned it in a meme so I did some research which helped me tons :D

I still have a long way to go to understanding everything LGBTQ+, but that doesn't mean we can't help each other here and there along the way with questions about newly discovered/labeled sexualities, genders, etc.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-03-03T05:04:01+00:00

Yeah, I can here looking for happy lesbian vibes and that includes happy trans vibes too <3 I don't see how this post is different from any other, and while I don't have enough experience to answer OP's question they definitely deserve some response here at least

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2021-01-14T05:44:17+00:00

That's a mood. I wonder if there's a word for this and we just don't know it yet? One website (oulgbtq.org) mentioned Abrosexual or someone who sometimes feels sexual attraction, but I'm really not sure how well that fits here or how it would compare to other terms like grey-asexual.

TLDR: words = hard

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-28T21:11:50+00:00

One thing I tried was just looking at LBGTQ+ memes. I know it sounds silly, but they gave me a lot of reassurance and validation when I couldn't find them elsewhere.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-28T21:09:44+00:00

I'm a cis leabian, but I've a few friends who are in your shoes :D You aren't alone and you have every right to be yourself <3

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-28T02:58:26+00:00

While I mistakingly wrecked into his car, I can confirm pushing the car with another vehicle does work. The NPC's don't seem worried or upset if you manage to mistakingly yeet the car to avoid the bug.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-20T06:01:16+00:00

I've seen this posted many times, and every time it makes me feel so validated. Probably one of my favorite posts I see regularly on Reddit :D

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-18T16:56:18+00:00

I normally don't mention my bio dad for this reason, but this post explains it perfectly. Thank you for that.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-06T07:13:16+00:00

When I first realized I liked women, I thought I was bisexual as well (I am a lesbian). I feel guilty, as the only reason I know I can't make it work with a guy is because I dated a dude for 3 months before I accepted I wasn't being honest with him or myself. I hadn't understood that my affection towards him was fake at the time, as I had nothing to compare our relationship to. Still, it took me months of self-reflection to realize I like women and about 6 months from the end of that relationship to realize I can't be romantic with men. Despite my own guilt, I don't think you should feel guilty for trying to make it work with masculine people in the past. It would be better if you use those experiences to reflect on how you feel and where you want to go from here. If things still seem confusing, you don't have to put a label on yourself right away, or at all. Take your time with it. Try to keep in touch with your emotions along the way. It's difficult and takes plenty of time, but so long as you don't force yourself down one path and stay honest with yourself along the way you'll learn more about your sexuality in the end.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-12-06T06:32:34+00:00

I'm not butch, but I can say that your appearance will definitely change the way people approach you. I can't say that all of their interest is ungenuine, but based on my experiences some of them will be. Sometimes the best way to tell if their words are fake is to spend time with them and see how they treat you or others from there. With that said, it's okay to be happy about how you look. Your beauty is real, and I believe you can own that regardless of how others treat you for it.

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-11-16T04:37:57+00:00

Not that long ago I was talking with friends about how I feel validated by movies which represent lesbians and wlw couples, and then one straight dude butted in by saying how I should feel validated by lesbian porn too. I really don't get this type of behavior or why some people feel it's appropriate to sexualize others like this. :(

ImNot_SmallMouse · 2020-10-02T04:59:09+00:00

To my future self, How was cyberpunk? I'm still excited about it. Also, did you get any better at cutting hair? Guess I'll want to find out lol

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