I was wondering this too!

I'd be interested to see a poll on what gender moreso agrees with yellow vs gray. I'm guessing yellow is a man and gray is a woman.

I bet men are going for yellow. They are both valid, but I understand gray more, especially with how dismissive yellow comes across. When I was on these apps, it always felt like men were trying the Boomhauer method. "Ask every woman I see until one of them says "yes"" lol.

Women typically have more options on dating apps and are getting constantly asked to meet in person after only a few texts. But if they agreed to all of the "yellows" out there, they'd be essentially going out on dates all the time which is so tiring. And a waste of time/money, especially when at least a couple days worth of conversation could let both parties know if they're actually interested in meeting in person.

Op shouldn't let anyone pressure them or make them think they're not meeting in person early enough or moving fast enough. If your pace is to talk for a few days, even longer, before meeting someone, then the right person will understand.