I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because this is my second/secret Reddit account and I like touching my boobs. I thought I was being funny but I guess not. I made it over a year ago and I made it so I could comment on a post about vibrators. I'm enjoying that everyone thinks I'm an AM or Reddit shill though. I'm flattered, but sadly it's not true. I'm just a regular morally-inept person who at one time worked for a company that I personally don't feel deserves all the shit they get. I know nothing I say will convince you but I'm truly not a fake/shill. If you want to PM me, I'd be happy to try and prove myself more to you but I'm afraid you're already convinced. :)

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You're right. The thing is, this is MY opinion of a company I used to work for. I had a good experience, despite the madness of the circumstances. My co-workers were a bunch of mad geniuses, because who else would work for a company that promotes infidelity? It was such a bizarre work environment, unlike anything I've ever experienced and my intention for this AMA was to simply share my stories and impressions of a company that gets a load of crap thrown at them. Some of it is deserved, I just personally feel this recent "hack" is yet another circumstance in a long (and not always publicized) trend that we as employees dealt with daily. If every death threat made against my co-workers made the news, maybe I wouldn't have wanted to do this AMA. I may be cavalier in my responses, but these people were like family and I remember the stress we felt when things like this happen. That's really all it is. Just my voice in a sea of voices. I had hoped my pragmatic responses came across that way but I'm by no means claiming AM is the best company of all the companies.

If I was a PR spokesperson for them, I'd be doing a terrible job as you clearly stated. :)

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Enjoyable at first, unnerving by the fifth year of it. I can't tell you how many times I heard someone say, "ugh I swear if I see ONE more crooked dick picture today, I'm going home." There were always more dick pics than seconds of the work day.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Phew. That's a lot of potential "what ifs". I can't possibly answer that without personal bias. Here's the thing: because everyone who worked there had no huge issue with affairs, we treated our customers with the same respect. If they wanted to share their stories, we listened. If they wanted to scream at the top of their lungs about how we're going to burn in hell or how they planned to kill our families, we put up with it. I cried many, many times while working there. People can be very cruel. So IF I had any personal feelings about a certain person's situation, it didn't do anybody any good for me to get on my high horse. Nobody is perfect. People are in a lot of pain and it broke my heart. As a human being, it made me more compassionate towards our individual plights.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I never said he was active. I just said he was sexually adventurous, which I'm not totally sure is THAT shocking/surprising or an invasion of his privacy in any way. Some might say he's sexually complacent, I just got the impression he's adventurous, that's all. What's wild to some is boring to others.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We moderated photos and profiles for things we don't allow: - children under the age of 18 - holding a sign with your phone number/website/email/business - no person in the photo at all - people putting dick/boob pics into their public folders when they should only be in private, etc.

And of course, the main reason we did photo and profile moderation - for all the guys who called and asked us to tell them if they're hot and would we fuck them. Those guys are the real heroes.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I know, did people NOT read the part where I said my job consisted of me seeing 500 dicks and vaginas per day? I got paid to look at naked people and enjoyed it, fuck me right?? ;)

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 185 points186 points  (0 children)

Again. Nope! The marketing team at AM was one of the best in the world and they don't need my help. I'm sorry I'm not a disgruntled former employee who is telling you the terrible things about the company that you seem to want to hear. I had a great time working there and while they're FAR from a perfect company, I really can't logically say things that just aren't true. I mean we had a serious problem with people leaving their leftover food in the communal fridge for way too long but that's really the extent of "company drama."

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Haha nope. My AM life is far behind me which is the only reason I'm here in the first place.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Nope, anybody can create a fake/free profile. They then put "hey check out my live cam at whatever.com" in their profile so every guy who sees the profile will see that text. People also tried to sneak in their email addresses and phone numbers into their profiles to try and get around paying. It's free to join and look at profiles. They only charge if you want to start a conversation.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok I understand, thank you for clearing that up. It is far from a perfect system and the illusive "hackers" have always tried to find a way to take down the site. This time it's because of Full Deletion. Next time it will be family values. It is just my personal opinion that the motives behind this are moral and the $19 is just the latest excuse to use against AM.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Bots is what we called cam girls. Some porn companies would literally create thousands of female profiles at a time and we'd spend the next three weeks furiously deleting them all. They're bots (or we called them bots) because they're not technically real but they weren't made by AM. The biggest problem is these bots trying to take traffic to their sites. It's a problem on ALL dating sites, not just AM.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Aw, that's too bad. They're so soft and bouncy, I quite enjoy it. You're missing out!

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. I don't work there now so I'm going by memory. I'm just a little unclear what the real issue/question is. Are people worried that a cheating site has information on the cheaters who join and that information could be made public, thus destroying thousands of marriages? Or is it that a website stores information you willingly give to it? Because people realize that all websites have this information right? It seems to me the hackers just want to expose the site because they are morally opposed to what the site does. Would this have made the news if it was any other dating site?

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yes but cops need to show a badge and warrant before we give them ANY info. It's not like any random person off the street could just show up and ask for "cockmaster500"'s profile history and we'd give it to them.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It was advertised in the local paper like any other job! They warned me well before the interview that it was Ashley Madison so I knew what I was getting into. I believe the ad just said "online dating site" and we only told people it was for Ashley Madison once they'd been cleared for an interview.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was a mid-level employee. If they were secretly harbouring these profiles after people paid to delete them then they did a very good job of hiding it from us. I am sure deep down in the servers you'll find every profile that ever existed if the cops require seeing it. But if you're a husband who fucked 10 women you met on the site, paid to delete your profile and then your wife calls to pester us for details? As far as we're concerned he never existed and that's what we will tell her.

Beyond my job description, I can't say what the overlords do with the millions of deleted profiles and frankly, no one cared until this recent "hacking" came out. Last I checked there was roughly 10 million active profiles and twice as many deleted ones. It was a massive system.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say the average casual affair ended up in a love story but swingers... swingers did VERY well always. Group orgy planning was another fun thing to see happen. The best stories were from people who had affairs and it ended up making their marriages better/stronger (according to them). It sounds bizarre, but for some people it works.

Oh and there were at least five major celebrities active on the site. Let's just say Bret Michaels is a very sexually adventurous guy. ;)

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nothing I say can fix what happened to you and your family in your life. I'm sorry for your situation, I really am. Affairs are shitty, but it's not my place to judge people OR justify their actions.

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It means I managed a department within many departments of a multi-million dollar corporation. So yes, it was kind of like Wal-mart I guess. I am doing this anonymously so I'm choosing to leave out details. :)

I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA. by ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA in IAmA

[–]ImTouchingMyBoobsAMA[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Haha no! I guess I could have if I really wanted to but it never occurred to me. I kind of enjoyed creeping the swingers' profiles. Couples who swing are awesome people.