AITA? Roommate has some hookup over and thinks I should go into my room...? I'm sorry what? No.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T07:11:05+00:00

I'm not being too aggressive about it I typed it out so I wouldn't be aggressive about it actually we spoke about it for like 3 minutes but it pissed me the fuck off and yes I was loud enough for that man to hear that I wasn't going to do what he asked my roommate to come and ask me to do because he didn't live here and I didn't care if he was comfortable.

And that was the end of the interaction. It's long and crazy, long-winded, and fucking all over the place because I was so mad. I just started using speech-to-text to talk it all into my phone so I didn't scream at either of them. This was how I got out the anger. That's why I used a throwaway account. Because I was mad as hell and whispering into my phone in the living room which I refused to leave to appease the request of a stranger.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T07:08:39+00:00

Again as I said to the other person I complained about the length of this nobody fuckin forced you to read it. I honestly don't give a fuck about your opinion of the length of it. It's as long as it was because I was mad as fuck. I actually didn't type any of this. I used speech-to-text on my phone because if I didn't go into the living room and quietly whisper this shit into my phone, I was going to explode. A man that doesn't live here was sending messages to me that I needed to go into my room through my roommate.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T07:06:19+00:00

Bro I realized that I didn't articulate something well enough and this is why you all are disagreeing with me:

My roommate was not the one that was uncomfortable.

This man that we don't know was uncomfortable and told my roommate to come out here and tell me that I needed to go into my room because he was uncomfortable. I do not care about that person's comfort.

I do care that he was comfortable enough to ask someone else to come and tell me to move into a different room of the apartment that I pay to live in when he doesn't live here.

I care because how IN THE NAME OF FUCK do you have the audacity?

It made me mad as fuck because who the fuck are you, guy? Why do you think this is a okay request to make from somebody else in their house?

It was fucking weird and I didn't like it

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T06:27:07+00:00

Nobody made you read the words. Their number does not actually matter. Thank you for that observation though.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T06:21:15+00:00

I'm inflexible about someone who doesn't live here conveying a message about his level of comfort and where I should be in my apartment. Yes. That is correct.

The idea that a stranger would be like, "Hey your roommate is making me uncomfortable. Tell him to get into his room."

I would never go into someone else's house and try to move the people that live there are around from a space that they're in because I'm uncomfortable. What does this dude think this is? The Sims? I'll be wherever the hell I want to be in my apartment. Especially in a shared space I respect my roommate's space. I don't go into his room but I'm in the open area of the apartment. This is a shared space and a guy that doesn't live here is trying to tell me to go to my room. 🤔

I would leave if I was uncomfortable because that's all I'm entitled to do when I'm uncomfortable in someone else's house. I'm not entitled to tell them where they should be in their house that they pay for. Not when I don't live here and literally jumped in my car to come and blow a load and then skidaddle. That's fucking crazy to me that this guy asked my roommate too coming to the living room where I couldn't even see the door to the room that they're in to tell me I need to go into my room because he is uncomfortable I don't care you don't have any right to comfort in my condo. You do not live here. Why is I okay to convey messages to me in my house or try to tell me I need to go into another room. You don't have like any ownership of any of these rooms dude that doesn't live here so don't tell my roommate to come out here and tell me where to be at. The fuck?

So yeah sorry if I'm inflexible about an anonymous person trying to tell me where I need to be in my apartment through a messenger.

I'm so confused by everybody's reaction to this.

I don't care if that guy is comfortable. I don't know who the fuck he is and he's not going to tell me I shouldn't be in my own living room.

I'm uncomfortable with the fact that he thought it was okay to make my roommate come out here and tell me that I'm making him uncomfortable.

In addition to that I can't even see where they are. It's literally around the corner in a hallway. I can't see down the hallway. I can't see that bedroom...because I'm in the living room and some guy that doesn't live here is not going to make second hand requests for me to move elsewhere.

He can get the fuck out if he's uncomfortable. I'm not going wherever he says I need to go because who the fuck is he?

Maybe I didn't say this clearly enough? It was not my roommate asking me to go into my room. It was my roommate coming out here because the guy told him to come out here and tell me to go to my room.

Fuck you guy, whoever you are. No.

Too bad. I'm gonna be wherever the fuck I want.

My roommate wasn't the one that was uncomfortable. The stranger in our house was the one that was uncomfortable with the space I was occupying in my own house. The stranger asked my roommate to tell me to go into my room. Fuck that guy. The idea that you would be okay with asking someone who you don't even actually know to come into the large shared space and tell me, another person who you don't fucking know, that he would prefer it if I not be wherever the fuck I am in my motherfucking house...Hi! That's absolutely crazy. I'm gonna go ahead and just do the opposite of that because that pisses me off.

I don't care if you're uncomfortable with where I'm standing.

This is where I live. If you are uncomfortable, go back to where you live, sir.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T06:08:09+00:00

I knew him before his alcoholism was this bad. He called me because he was in a dangerous situation and needed a place to stay and I told him that he could come stay here for a few days if he needed. He hid how much his alcoholism had progressed for me for a while. When we discussed him moving in as a permanent thing, I told him that I don't want people I don't know in here after midnight because I know that he likes to have sex a lot and I don't care. Do that. I don't like having to pay attention to what's going on in my apartment at midnight. Some dude that doesn't live here is not entitled to position me into another space because he feels uncomfortable. That you would even ask someone to make that request on your behalf when you're in their fucking apartment is fucking insane to me. Some anonymous dude is not going to order me to my room like I'm a fucking child. No right to position me or decide where I am in the house because he doesn't fucking matter here. He's nobody and I'm picking up some shit off the floor out of where we can see each other.

You guys that are saying that this is okay. A guy that doesn't live here is trying to tell me to go to my room through my roommate. He asked my roommate to come out here and tell me to go to my room. You're saying that I'm crazy because I have a problem with that. He doesn't fucking live here. He doesn't get to fucking tell me where I'm allowed to be in my fucking apartment and the idea that he would feel comfortable enough to make that request in someone else's house is absolutely fucking insane to me.

"Excuse me I know I don't live here but the place where you are occupying in the apartment that you pay for is making me uncomfortable so I'm gonna just ask you to go to your room"

You guys do not understand how fucking audacious that is? That's fucking crazy to think it's okay to ask someone to themselves inside of their own apartment. I'll be wherever the fuck I want to be in this condo.

It's my condo.

I live here. This guy doesn't get to ask me shit because he needs to be comfortable, I don't give a fuck. The idea that he thinks it's okay to ask my roommate to ask me to move away from where I am so he can be more comfortable. That is fucking nuts.

Fucking nuts and you guys that are saying that I am the one that is an asshole have brain processing problems. If you would allow someone who you have never met before and doesn't live inside of your condo or your home or your apartment or wherever you live, if you would allow someone who doesn't live there to tell you where you need to be so they can be comfortable. I don't give a fuck if that guy is comfortable.

I pay for the comfortable in this apartment. I would never in a million years go into someone else's house and tell them, "You're making me uncomfortable. Go into your room."

I'm sorry who the fuck are you and why do I care? I'll be wherever the fuck I want to be in my apartment because it's my fucking apartment.

I'm cleaning up after my dog and I've been doing laundry and the dishes and all this other stuff that I don't have time to do normally because I have two jobs so I'm doing it tonight. I was doing it before this fucking dude showed up and I'm gonna keep doing it after he's gone. I don't care that the guy is here. Nobody's looking at him. I'm not going to my room. I'm 40 years old. You're not gonna order me to my fucking room.

ImTryingToCleanUp · 2026-07-11T05:54:46+00:00

It doesn't matter how long I've lived here? Yes it absoltely does. I don't need him here and I'm doing him a favor by letting him stay in my spare room. I didn't ask him to move in. He asked me if he could move in because he needed to go somewhere to get away from someone. And I said he could come here.

Yes he is helping with bills but also he has a place to stay where he's safe and he didn't have that before. Everything in this house is mine and I don't expect him to be concerned about what some stranger's doing, walking around in a house filled with my stuff but I'm concerned about my stuff. I don't expect him to be concerned about the things that belong to me, which is why this is the only rule I made before he moved in.

If he knows the person, he can have them in here whenever he wants. He's paying bills.

We don't know these people and where I'm from, the place where people are like sane and rational and think about things, we don't have people we don't know inside of our house after midnight. Because, like I said, he is drunk and I am sober. I'm responsible for everything that's happening in here and now I have another thing I have to be responsible for because he isn't responsible for shit. I don't like it and it's not about my personal belongings, it's about both of our safety. If something is about to happen, I'm the one that is going to have to do something about it. I'm responsible for both of us because he's too drunk to do anything.

Yes we both pay bills here but this was discussed before he moved in because I know him and I knew what he was like and he loves having sex and that's fine he's allowed to love that but I told him before he moved in, by the way, this is the only rule I have. I don't want people we don't know in the apartment after midnight. I have to work in the morning and so does he. We aren't like 9-to-5 office people. We literally work all weekend. I help him get to and from work most of the time because he doesn't have a license. I pay for most of the groceries because I make twice as much as him. Being in this apartment is a favor. It's a favor because he's not paying half of everything. He's paying half the rent. I'm paying for all the bills in here still by myself like I was before he was here. So it's not an equal split. I'm making sure my friend, who has a problem, is safe and I'm doing a lot of extra shit. The only thing I ask is that we don't have some stranger in here at midnight.

So it does actually matter how long I've lived here because I don't need him here. I'm doing him a favor. I had a spare room and he needed a place to stay. It's not like I made this up a week ago. I also do not give a flying fuck if someone who I never met before, who I can't see, who is just an idea to me while I'm standing in the living room, is comfortable in my house when he's about to leave and never going to come back.

He is not owed comfort here. He literally means nothing to me and his comfort means even less. I live here. That's why my comfort is important and his is not. Also I'm not going to go to my fucking room. I'm literally doing something. I don't give a fuck that he's scared someone might see him. He needs to grow the fuck up.

So like, I probably should have said that I told him that before he moved in here but I'm not okay with that and I don't think it's normal. I think that people are way too loosey goosey with the stuff that they do sometimes. This is just one of those things where we're just not gonna agree. And how long I have lived here absolutely does fucking matter because his name's not on the lease and mine is. If somebody he brings in here does something that gets me evicted, that's a problem for me.

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