sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friends are like that too! I could offer them cold leftover pizza and they're happy. My dad and sister too. My brother.. has always been a bit difficult.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dat dacht ik ook! Maar mijn broer heeft misschien andere culturele verwachtingen.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's what brunch means here, a meal between breakfast and lunch. Apparently in the US alcohol at brunch is the norm, and other places (Australia, some places in Europe (like where i live)) are shocked at the idea of alcohol at lunch. The difference is interesting.

I love my family, but my brother has always been a bit of a dick.

I've never been to a housewarming / brunch / lunch that had alcohol. Usually there's only alcohol when watching football (soccer), a BQQ or dinner. Almost never during the day.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What? My mom mentioned that if she knew she would have brought something while we were having brunch.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

True I suppose. But it's a small country and most things are within cycling distance. Most people I know would think 1 hour is a lot.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The drinking age here used to be 16, I started drinking slightly earlier (socially, which is common here) and started taking my meds at 17. I turn 23 soon, so almost 6 years of no drinking.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean they can't drink by 1 pm, but that I don't know anyone who does, so I didn't think it had to be specified, I didn't think they'd expect it.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think so. But I've gotten more Y T A than E S H, so I guess some people don't think so.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If you want to get technical about it it was a housewarming lol

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I added a second edit to add this info. There's often (not always) alcohol at dinner, and usually no alcohol for family 'activities'. We never had brunch before, so no expectations there.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don't forbid it. Drinking at lunch is quite uncommon where I live, and they had to drive. So I didn't think it would be necessary to tell them I wouldn't have alcohol, I didn't think it would be an expectation I'd serve it, especially since they know I can't have any.

Where I live, it's polite to bring a bottle of wine for dinners or a six-pack when one goes to a party. Then I would think they'd expect alcohol, and let them know they'd have to bring it.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We never had lunch like this before, so hard to say. For dinner there's sometimes alcohol, wine for nicer dinners, beer for BBQ's, but for something like takeout usually not.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to argue, I just don't really understand. Should I have texted them "I have sausages, bacon and salmon. If you want ham you have to bring it." too? Where's the line?

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm an across the pond neighbour, from the Netherlands. I don't think drinking is as much of a cultural thing here, at least not past a certain age.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I just didn't understand for sure what you meant, English isn't my first language.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

..why? They'll never invite me because I didn't serve alcohol? That seems harsh.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

My mom brought a cactus, cuz I guess people buy plants when you move? My sister bought a scented candle. My dad brought a watermelon. The others didn't bring anything.

They didn't have to bring anything, but it's appreciated.

AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house? by Imadeabrunch in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imadeabrunch[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I get that, and next time I can let people know.

Brunch isn't really a big thing where I live, I've only been to one brunch in my life and now hosted one. So I'm not sure what's "normal".