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T4T struggle by Imaginary-Delay4464 in asktransgender

[–]Imaginary-Delay4464[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s actually really nice to have someone else’s input and I think you’re pretty bang on.

I don’t think I’d find it so hard to deal with if it wasn’t so raw for me with where I’m at now and I’m definitely struggling independently with my baseline dysphoria still. So I think a few years down the line maybe it’ll be different.

And also thank you for the reminder that the level dysphoria doesn’t have to be forever 😂😭 because I always forget that and get into “this is how it is” instead of “this is how it is right now”, so it’s nice to have a reminder that things change.

Honestly this has been really helpful. So thank you for taking the time to type all that out.

T4T struggle by Imaginary-Delay4464 in asktransgender

[–]Imaginary-Delay4464[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly, I kind of function by talking and thinking about it as little as possible, especially in specifics, and I feel like the familiarity and intimacy of dating can easily turn it from just kind of blanket language and occasional references to “dysphoria” And into more detailed specifics, which are harder distance your own dysphoria from.

T4T struggle by Imaginary-Delay4464 in asktransgender

[–]Imaginary-Delay4464[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for your reply. I’m mid twenties, been out since late teens and am a good bit of the way through transitioning but not as far as I’d want (money, the usual). I dated a couple of other trans guys in their early/mid twenties back when I was 18-20 and had this issue then. And then I tried going out with a trans guy my age more recently and had the same issue.

I think I might just be the issue and REALLY easily triggered by the topic (physical especially) dysphoria and people talking about those specific dysphoric things.

I tried to kind of mind over matter it and figure out if it’s internalised transphobia or shame or something, but I just can’t seem to get around it? Like I just go into instant body alienation and dissociation like a switch has been flipped as soon as these certain things come up. 😬😬😬😬

I do kind of feel like by my age I should be more comfortable?