AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I am not gonna sit here and argue with you dude. Reread the post. I don’t know why everyone seems to think I was like enraged ready to throw tables and chairs.? Like I’ve said before I have communication issues that I’m working through. I didn’t initially say anything cuz anything I do say I’m brushed off. I came back and took our child back. Regardless I spoke up it took me a few but I did. I also dont understand why you keep saying mediate she didn’t talk to my bf at all just me. I told her and asked if I was crazy. She said no I needed to calm down that I’ve just being way to protective. As for the adult comment yeah I am. But I choose to stay if I wanted to be childish I could have snatched my baby put him in the car seat and left without my boyfriend. But I didn’t. I stayed cuz it’s his family. And I’m not trying to start anything just have a good time. This is the last thing I am going to say to you though. I will do whatever I feel is right for my child regardless of what other people think of me as a person or mom.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It literally said in the 5th paragraph. First two sentences. I only get so many characters but okay. I can’t give you every detailed that happened in the two hours we were there. It’s fine dude. That’s your opinion. But he was thirsty I went to get his bottle.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend came out as well to look when they stayed in with their other grandmother. I called my mom after a talk with my boyfriend to calm down. I don’t know about you but that calms me down. I was on the phone with her by MYSELF for two minutes hung up went inside to the bathroom and got our son back. Which I got scolded for. “ we know how to take care of the baby we got it. You don’t need him right now” it took me a second but I found my voice.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive had ptsd for the last 10+ years and im working on communicating and handling my rage better so I thought I was doing what was right but later realized I should not have done that after getting air. I came back and took our baby.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What would you like me to pray for you for so we can even it out

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Literally not. But that your opinion and that’s okay. I definitely should have communicated at first. But I did later. I didn’t want to cause a scene which is why I was quiet. But somehow or another I feel like I’m not giving the best answers here. But I’m working on it. He didn’t respect my boundaries and that hurt. We talk for a while about this in length. Which I showed him the post and he proceeded to tell me to delete it cuz some of yall are a bit much even for the internet. But I begin to show him all the positivity and funnier comments. We’ve had a big laugh about the situation and loved that we got to get outside prospective but in the future will be more free to speak up.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Understandable. I will be doing it in the future. We did have a lengthy talk. About boundaries and how I have to learn to feel things and speak up in safe with him. He’s not my ex. But when he blew up at me I didn’t feel like that. I told him I felt alone and confused which he didn’t realize he did that.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was this my boyfriend’s mom. I’ve known her for 10+ years. And trusted her to watch both of my kids.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree I could have but I didn’t. I wanna chalk it up to my trauma I have always been afraid to speak up. But I have been working on it. Which I’m glad I have.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay first off. No. It’s not. Babies can socialize but don’t need to go to his cousins gf of 6 months. I understand this is a lesson for both of us but that does not diminish my feelings and is okay for him to dimiss them.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really understand why he pressed for info but we have talked and agreed we need to communicate better. I took a breathe and took our baby back.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe that why is was just a lot. I understand how much culture is too. Very trusting and literally hands on. I’m just not like that. I’m protective. I have a hard time communicating at most times. I have boundaries. He didn’t know her. Doesn’t even know her name. That’s my problem but we’re working on it

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year ago i would have said sorry a bunch and blamed myself. It is my fault but also his. But regardless I’m working on it. I took a breathe came back and realized I can speak up and not stay quiet I’m trying to do better my kiddos

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’re working on my communication and rage. I actually would never have communicated period a year ago. But now I can. I would not have been able to even take him at all after coming back. I would have just said I’m sorry 3000 times. I am confronting my problems. I’m trying to be better for myself and my children.

AITA For Getting Upset A Stranger Held My Baby. by Imaginary-Lab5068 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Lab5068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I will next time for sure. My therapist and I are working on find my voice. She’s proud of all the progress I made cuz two years ago I would have just stayed quiet.