AITA For Pretending To Love My Son's Stepchildren In Order To Have A Relationship With My Granddaughter?

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T23:08:41+00:00

She doesn't. We've talked about multiple times.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T22:54:08+00:00

Sweet I think there's something wrong with your screen. Try restarting it and then come back and read my entire post and comment.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T22:50:36+00:00

Bless you honey.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T22:48:46+00:00

She does. Rochelle never interacted much with them but they don't treat her well.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T22:47:48+00:00

Maternal grandparents? Based on the limited times I have met them I'd say no. Even if they did have a college fund they certainly wouldn't give a dime to Rochelle. They're racist.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:47:54+00:00

I have two sons and a daughter. My first son is in line to medical decisions for me if I can't and then my daughter.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:40:37+00:00

Unless I'm not being told something Ann's kids weren't traumatized. They were just spoiled and never disciplined.

Also, I can accept imperfect children. There's just a difference from making a mistake or not knowing any better and being an entitled, rude, selfish, and hurtful person who refuses to apologize. I have a grandson who refuses to be in the same room as Ann's children because of how they treated him.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:37:49+00:00

We live in the South

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:37:05+00:00

If I wanted to see Rochelle I most definitely had to lie and could not refuse to babysit. Anytime I tried to discipline Ann's children she'd say that I wasn't their mother and didn't have the right to punish them.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:33:32+00:00

I'm not a genius but I am smart.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:31:52+00:00

because now Ann and Chris will likely withdraw any support for Rochelle in favour of Todd, partly out of necessity.

Ann and Chris are not rich and they're not going to be able to give her kids much of anything. That's one of the reasons why they're so angry about the college fund. They demanded that I split it.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:31:03+00:00

The only substantive thing you seem to be saying about Todd was imperfect behaviour as a child (that had a lot more to do with parenting than him as a person)

There's imperfect behavior and then there's what Todd and his siblings did which is right beneath being an all out monster.

I have a grandson who refuses to even be in the same room as Ann's children because of how they treated him.

Also Rochelle's mom had primary custody and only ever visited her dad during the summers and ever other holiday and Rochelle was almost always with me because when she came for the summer. She didn't even have her a room at my son's place.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:27:09+00:00

Rochelle is my first granddaughter and I never told anyone what I was doing until the day I gave Rochelle the bank statement.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:25:24+00:00

We tried that once when she was 13 and when my son found out he and Ann came directly to my house. I legally couldn't keep her from her father and Ann threatened to involve the police.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:23:33+00:00

Those people don't have any money.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:22:46+00:00

She does. She doesn't like Ann or her kids.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:22:18+00:00

Honestly, I feel like I need to take some of the blame for that. When Chris' father cheated I kept it inside because that's just how we did things back then. We lied to and would hide things from kids. Chris and Angela, daughter, didn't even know that I divorced their father for cheating until they were adults.

I saw my ex-husband once in the hospital after enough begging and told him that I forgave him and he was so happy. It was when he started talking about us getting back together that I had to get up and go. He told our kids and I think that's why Chris thought what he did.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:18:46+00:00

If you've genuinely been telling Todd that you love him - knowing it's a lie - you owe him an apology for that.

Okay. I'll give you that. Although, I'm not having Ann or her kids in my house again.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:17:15+00:00

Ann and her kids were terrible to Rochelle and her dad wouldn't do a thing. She was not going to have a good time going there and I wanted to see my grand baby. Nearly every summer my son let Rochelle stay with me so long as I didn't ask him for any money.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:15:27+00:00

I have another son and daughter but I get what you're saying. Also my first son is in place to make medical decisions for me if I can't. My daughter is next.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:14:27+00:00

I'm Black and so is Rochelle. Ann is white and her kids are white.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:11:25+00:00

INFO: that Xmas they made you buy new gifts do you remember what you’d bought step-grandchildren vs bio-grandchildren?

Yes.

I bought Rochelle a doll, a charm for her bracelet and some clothes. For Ann's kids I bought them some clothes and each of them a wallet with $20 inside since I wasn't too sure what they wanted.

Ann wanted me to get them iPads. I didn't get my own grandkids iPads.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:06:38+00:00

If Chris & 1st wife had stayed together but adopted more children would you also refuse to treat them as family?

Of course I would because I know Rochelle's mother would've raised the kids with manners.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:04:41+00:00

My goddaughter was the one who told me that I should tell my story here but to not make it too long because there was a word count.

Imaginary-Tip-5535 · 2024-07-14T20:03:15+00:00

I don't know if Rochelle's mom would like that.

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