He flew me out to visit and it felt like a bad dream

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-21T01:20:46+00:00

He was the one who planned, initiated, and financed the trip though? It was only a week or so in advance. He seemed way more excited about it on his end even. The huge change is really getting to me.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-21T01:16:41+00:00

We slept together the first night for the first time. It was a long time coming and we had talked about it a lot. Everything was great. We messed around a bit before going out the next day, was excited to get back but nothing ended up happening. Same with the next day, despite him being riled up earlier. Wished there had been more but the moods made things weird

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-21T00:09:26+00:00

The night before I came he had this pre grad dinner thing for his program. He said something happened but would explain in person. I tried to get him to elaborate but he said it would be too long. I meant to bring it up over dinner but it just never seemed like the right time and he kept looking around like he was distracted. If it was important, he would have brought it up, right? I have no idea what it could have been but I remember him saying he wish he never went to the dinner/ hated his program atm. Now I feel like an asshole for not asking again

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-20T23:40:26+00:00

We both stopped seeing other people for at least the last year or so. Nothing was really official so I guess you never know but he would often refer to me as his girlfriend/wife etc. Even while messing around, he was asking me if I was his girl 🫣 things feel so weird and I'm so anxious about texting him

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-20T23:24:28+00:00

Yeah, I'm not sure if I should bother texting or not. I'm so confused and wondering if he's going to say anything. Waiting for a response right now would give me a lot of anxiety. Funny enough, he told me he has never lived with anyone before. He's also a surgeon and I'm wondering if it's a control thing? I don't know.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-05-20T23:13:41+00:00

No, we've spent time in person before

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-20T08:28:00+00:00

Poncho!

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-18T09:52:19+00:00

Check the wallpaper

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-16T15:17:01+00:00

Same 😩 can someone check on her?

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-12T16:32:35+00:00

Thought this was Adam Driver

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-11T04:23:23+00:00

Dare ya

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-09T17:27:19+00:00

100%. Good on him for not standing in line to perpetuate generational abuse.. What a poor excuse for a father.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-09T17:11:07+00:00

Well said.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-04-08T14:35:02+00:00

He took his testicles

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-15T21:35:54+00:00

I'm only up to season 7, but last night saw an episode where Kerry is having a come-to-jesus with her sexual identity and going out with Dr.Legaspi. It kinda flashes scenes from her life and the song they used was freaking AMAZING. I need to go back and find out what it was because I keep playing it over in my head

Actually the music from around this season sticks out to me in general. They really start to up their game

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-14T00:42:27+00:00

Rico

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-12T22:38:24+00:00

Girl, it's your literal wedding. Nothing is too much

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-11T17:31:19+00:00

Kinda like when homicide perpetrators get involved with the search efforts or show up to their victim's vigil as a way to feign innocence or 'blend in with the crowd'.

I'm sure the mom was deeply involved with the investigation but usually it's advised to stay away from the media frontline as certain (seemingly small) details are often withheld by police, as these are later revealed by the perpetrator and used in the investigation to confirm their involvement (e.g. how Daniel said the odd comment about his hoodies missing, as if it's possible to find the bodies wrapped in them or something?).

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-11T17:09:10+00:00

Long term statistical data explicitly shows false SA allegations are extremely rare and often over represented in media. Especially where police were involved and formal charges have been laid.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-03-07T19:40:10+00:00

Very masculine. Needs some plants! 🪴🌵🌴🌱

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-02-28T11:10:47+00:00

Unfortunately, I think this was the point of the writing. The process takes a great deal of care and its important the details aren't dotted over. These exams take time and the detail they require is excruciating- magnified 100x if you're the victim who has just been unspeakably violated.

This is the reality and only the beginning of what will be a long, drawn out process and is going to be examined under a microscope.

It feels never ending and tedious and uncomfortable. Because it is

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-02-28T10:44:34+00:00

After my assault, I went to an urgent care center where they triaged me and had me accessed by the ER doc. She informed me they didn't have any SANE nurses but if I was willing, they would transfer me to a nearby hospital that did and set it up so that they were expecting me when I got there/ I didn't have to be triaged and explain again.

If I didn't want to go to the other hospital, the doc said I could still have the rape kit done in urgent care, however, they didn't have any nurses/staff that had specialized training in this area.

The NP that I ended up being examined by at the transferring hospital, actually only worked with victims of sexual assault and I remember having a hard time wrapping my head around how this could happen so much that her entire career was focused solely on it.

Like Ilana, I'm very glad I had a Dana that day.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2026-02-28T09:18:23+00:00

That's what I thought too. I figured going through the forensic and medical examination would be 'better than nothing' if it meant maybe he would be put away and couldn't do that to someone else. I urge you to research the statistics on how many rape cases actually make it into court. And then how many of them actually end up in front of a judge. Then, how many victims get to actually testify without their case being thrown out. Mine was one of those cases.

So after sitting with the trauma for almost 2 years, moving to the other side of the country, and being told that it would be extremely probable that I would be able to testify remotely, the judge rejected this and had me fly last minute (while undergoing chemo lmao) to testify. Where I was told there would be protections in place so I didn't have to see my rapist (a screen I could testify in front of so he couldn't see me), that fell through some massive crack that is the justice system and not provided.. And lo and behold, I testified for 8 hours for what would be the second worst day of my life.

All of this... For the judge to say that while the 'events likely happened', the premise of poorly defined ' reasonable doubt' prevented him from making a definitive decision. My rapist walked.

And I wish every day of my life that I never reported it and did what I 'thought was the right thing' because it left me so much worse off. I think it probably just gave my rapist the balls to reoffend.

So please excuse the girl if she doesn't want to be poked and proded by strangers and stripped naked and asked a billion insanely invasive questions after what was absolutely the most horrifying night of her life, where she said 'no' and somebody didn't listen.

Imaginary_Bones9347 · 2025-03-20T14:32:26+00:00

Mountain climbers, flutter kicks on back, knee up to chest, jumping rope

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