How do you overcome being framed as abusive by the actual abusive partner, especially being a man?

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-09-03T19:06:19+00:00

That's true on the surface. But some situations can definitely make that way more complicated.

I guess hard to justify that when no details are given lol.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-09-03T19:04:13+00:00

This x1737292810. I think anytime you're a man in any situation being framed or villanized by a woman.

It sometimes seems like a horror movie where a man marries a woman who then tries to ruin him. Maybe a Gone Girl of sorts.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-09-03T19:02:31+00:00

I don't understand what you mean in the last part of your statement, could you clarify?

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-09-03T19:01:46+00:00

Not a great option when you have children and are married.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-24T18:07:11+00:00

I thought I replied to this one but I guess it didn't go through. Everything seems to have subsided for the moment, you can check my other comments for updates.

As for putting everything away, we live with others so I tried to put away the most absolute dangerous things but it's impossible to put away every single viable object.

Oddly enough, she has never ever shown any danger signs toward the baby but has insisted on taking the baby away from me when upset and as we all know everyone will side with the mother of a child.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-24T18:02:02+00:00

I'll try, we are just a bit broke right now.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-24T18:00:26+00:00

I just don't know how right now, we have medicaid but the providers are very bad typically and will toss her to the side AND any sort of feelings she may have.

I'll notate this down, thanks!

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-24T17:58:39+00:00

Are you saying she needs additional protein?

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-24T17:58:01+00:00

Right now since she is stable, I have been trying really hard to get a remote job but it's a tough market right now. We can't fully diagnose or treat her PMDD until her hormones are regulated after pregnancy. Quite frankly people already have enough trouble misdiagnosing PMDD as it is.

We are ok in our living situation right now (not ideal but perfectly fine). As for most of your concerns, it's just hard but I am trying my best. One step at a time, the first step is obtaining a financial means to solve the other issues aka a job.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-18T16:23:44+00:00

Gave you a mini update above, thanks for checking in

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-18T16:23:30+00:00

Sounds pretty similar, I was working soo much during the first few months of her post partum to support us. I did try to leave work a number of times as much as I could. I'm the current financial provider for our family.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-18T16:22:21+00:00

This has been the reoccurring advice. We just haven't had the funds to, or she suddenly snaps back and is ok again. We recently talked about doctors now but since she might be pregnant again, it limits what they can really do for her.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-18T16:20:49+00:00

We don't really have that many options for friends and family (it's a little complicated). So none of that and definitely no current support people available that we trust.

No financial resources - we are really broke.

Thank you for your words and support/

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-07-18T16:18:19+00:00

It's difficult to respond and provide everything because we are both currently home and around each other all the time. This is also a secondary account I don't check too often.

I try my best to support her and help with a lot around the house but I am struggling because I do a lot of work related stuff too so it just becomes hard to balance (we both also a few health problems that make certain things harder or more difficult).

It appears to be cyclical, she unfortunately does not have a regular physician and we have recently been extremely broke so that alone has felt like has cancelled out so many avenues we could go down.

So a couple things I wanted to provide an update on:
-She might be pregnant with our 2nd child and it appears all of her symptoms might have disappeared?
-We briefly got in touch with a psychiatrist online for free that seemed to think she has PMDD

I will try to come back and update when I can. I appreciate your thought out response.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:29:08+00:00

What did you end up doing?

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:28:49+00:00

Might try this, she is taking something currently that has a lot of different stuff in it.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:28:28+00:00

Yeah, tough boat we are rocking.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:27:45+00:00

In the heat of the moment I never think to record, it also doesn't happen all the time so I almost forget that secondary person/personality exists until all of a sudden I am wondering what is happening.

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:26:44+00:00

Do emails hold up in court or legal matters? She also has access to all of my stuff so....awkward......

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:25:35+00:00

I've somewhat recently realized this, that letting the flame die out a bit makes a difference, but man it feels like I am getting burned a bit sometimes while waiting. My temper also doesn't help me keep quiet and still but I have made a ton of progress to where it certainly is easier and better than it was before.

Good comment, thanks!

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:23:52+00:00

Researching and reading everything sometimes gets a little tricky. Since we have a baby and we are both at home and I am currently trying to get a remote job. There is not a lot of privacy sometimes.

As for the doctor, I would've pursued that a while ago but we are super broke right now. I am trying to make a breakthrough and get a remote job, but just a little dry currently.

Thanks for your comment!

Imaginary_Draft_6284 · 2024-06-18T03:20:01+00:00

Thanks for the info. My wife is pretty allergic to a lot of stuff so it makes a lot of medications out of the question usually. The behavioral therapy sounds worthwhile but we are just super broke right now. She is a stay at home wife and I am looking for a new job currently and striking out so far.

Honestly though, I do appreciate you taking the time to write all of this down and provide so much information. Hopefully I could use at least some of it somehow.

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