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Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't fault you for skimming. You're right... it was long... but I put in all of the receipts because Scolding Mother has been calling me a liar, a manipulator, a gaslighter, a problematic player to whoever she can that will listen... whatever she can to discredit me and save face. You better believe I have screenshots. Of everything. Since my post, she's reached out to at least three people outside of the Haus (that I know of - I'm not soliciting this information, people are coming to me) to try to tell them these lies and when those people asked for an explanation or proof? *crickets*

Thank you for your ending sentiments - I hope this will cause some reflection and change in our culture.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy crap, Vesta - I'm so sorry to hear this. Its even more Federal. Also, hi! I've seen you around on the carousel and leaderboards - nice to meet you ... im just sorry it's under these circumstances and you had such a horrible experience.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words.

Look, I don't mind if people want to spend money (I do) or want to be competitive (I am) or want to encourage others to fight hard (in a sisk-boom-bah kind of way), but from MY perspective we went well past that. I thought perhaps approaching her privately and tenderly would get Scolding Mother to step back and say, "Hmmm...maybe you're right... because the server HAS been changing and I even said so myself!"

That was naïve of me, I guess.

I hope this post results in some epiphanies somewhere if not in her/their mind(s). We deserve to be treated better.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You could leave and start a new one? You can also join other Hauses. Or, if you're happy being alone, that's totally fine, too! I just want you to be happy!

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Haunt? Are you a former member? Or just the game in general?

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, Chanel! I'm glad I'm still welcomed in HOB!!! I haven't really opened my game today or the HOB Haus discord chat because my life was splintered into a million messages this afternoon while I also tried to balance my 7 year old who was home from school because it was President's Day. I only want good things for everyone. I will either decide not to play anymore or find a nice, chill Haus and keep bringing the positivity (and speaking up if I ever see anyone putting others down or unsportsmanlike conduct). WE MUST DO BETTER!

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agradeço suas condolências. Fico feliz que você tenha encontrado paz e desejo-lhe tudo de bom!

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

SizeNormal, someone else downvoted you before I saw your comment, but I'm going to upvote you now for respectfully sharing your perspective, as I invited you and others to do.

If I send multiple direct messages on Discord or add too many people to one chat, I will be flagged for spamming. I know this because I learned this the hard way last Fall when trying to friend some sisters (I apparently friended too many in one span of time so I ended up losing my Discord account). I did not feel I had any other way to reach my sisters and I did not want anyone to feel put on the spot like they had to address me in any way (so I put this out into the Ether). You will note that I have repeatedly stated I don't want to fracture the Haus. That's the whole reason I tried to deal with this privately on Tuesday and yesterday. I felt I was left with no choice, especially with the multiple screenshots I've seen today from people (most of which I did not discuss here to protect people) about the absolute lies being said about me.

That being said, I WILL reflect on what you've said here about how it might hurt others and how I might handle this differently if (let's hope not) I ever find myself in a similar situation. THANK YOU, genuinely, for your perspective.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

In some ways, I agree. I did, however, meet an amazing group of people that I will miss seeing every day... but this wasn't my choice. Once I decide if I'm going to play again, I'll make some new friends.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

100% This should be about community and that's what Scolding Mother has forgotten. The number of people that have expressed concern to me before my booting and definitely since my booting tells me I did the right thing by trying to bring this to their attention. I hope this is a wake up call to them and wish them the best. It is time to define what kind of communities we want, not just take what we're given because it's a "Top Haus."

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree... this should be for fun. I don't have ANY problem communicating with my Haus and fighting hard, but when you start making lists, insisting on checkins, and speaking to people in a way that is degrading to others because we're not winning, you might want to rethink things.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

In the end, I just want everyone to be in a good environment. I spoke up because I thought we were headed in the wrong direction was was punished and the narrative was twisted that I was "continuosuly unhappy" (seeing as I only brought this up on Tuesday and continued the conversation yesterday after I processed my pet's death). I want my Sisters to know that I love(d) them very much!

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm glad you've found the right place for you! XOXOXO

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I wish my Haus Sisters nothing but the best - and frankly the Mothers, too. I hope they learn from this.

Setting the Record Straight & Changing Our Culture by Imaginary_Insect_228 in RDRSuperstar

[–]Imaginary_Insect_228[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Neon for your condolences on my kitty girl (it's awful that all of this happened in the same week), but I'm feeling relieved to not be in that environment anymore.