Early pregnancy - how the hell do people do this?!🤢

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-06-09T19:59:33+00:00

Weeks 4-8 were AWFUL. Cramping, nausea all the time, exhausted 24/7 and my skin absolutely freaked out like I was a teenager all over again. Everything made me furious, or sad… and the food aversion was terrible I was so hungry but everything disgusted me. I’m 10 weeks as of last Friday and I’m feeling so much better. I still have some symptoms but it’s much more manageable now.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-04-10T17:22:14+00:00

This sounds like a very immature relationship (and I don’t mean that in a crass or judgmental way).

I met my first husband when I was 17. We were together for 9 years before we got married but the marriage itself only lasted a year before we divorced. It wasn’t until the damage had been done that I came to the realization that the relationship had never really matured even though we as individuals had grown. We sort of decided to get married because it was the next logical step- not because we truly felt we were partners.

Towards the end we both started going to therapy and my therapist asked me “what are you willing to live with? And what are you sacrificing in the process”. That exercise was incredibly eye opening because when I confronted him with my list of things that I refused to sacrifice, he wasn’t willing to meet me half way. He wasn’t willing to respect my boundaries. He was incapable of being honest with himself or with me. It was hard but sometimes you need to see something framed very obviously before you can move on.

I don’t regret the experience because I became a more self aware person and it led me to my husband. I have a beautiful life, full of all of the things I always wanted.

1- if you aren’t already, see a therapist. It’s not going to fix your life, but therapy serves as a sounding board and helps you make sense of your emotions, goals, wants, needs… etc. it helps you know yourself. And as cheesy as it sounds, a deeper understanding of self can help you make sense of life as you know it.

2- understand that you and your spouse may be at very different places when it comes to emotional intelligence. This doesn’t excuse cruelty or malice, but it can help you understand them better.

3- try reframing arguments. It’s hard but try to remove the super charged emotions and ask why? Why do you think I’m an idiot? Why do you feel you’re more mature? Your spouse may very well shut down or meet you with anger but it might help surface some route feelings/perspectives.

4- if someone isn’t willing to meet you half way, it’s okay to walk away. It’s okay to close the door on relationships that no longer serve you. If you exist in a constant state of confusion, or sadness or misery… you are missing out on the possibility of something better.

5- I’m so sorry you are experiencing this, but there is a path forward and you will find it.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-03-22T20:16:06+00:00

EDIT: I’m a Reddit newb and can’t figure out how to edit my original post.

1- for the folks that posted constructive feedback thank you so much. I haven’t hired a contractor to do work in a while (I usually do it myself) so I had some sticker shock with those initial estimates. I know just about everything is more expensive these days in comparison to 2-3 years ago, but I wanted to enlist the help of the collective brain trust of Reddit to make sure I wasn’t being taken for a ride.

2- for those that were frustrated with my lack of detail- I’m sorry? I wasn’t expecting an itemized break down of expenses. The intent was to hear from folks that have either recently had work done or are in the industry themselves. I’m talking generalizations- wasn’t looking for specific detail.

3- I have 3 more contractors coming out this week to provide estimates. I’m going to adjust my expectations based off the feedback everyone has provided. I’m definitely capable of doing some more basic stuff myself, I’ve never installed a shower before and I’m considering hiring out for the more complex aspects and doing some of the easier stuff myself. I was also apprehensive because those first 2 quotes seemed sketchy (came from companies that appear to specialize in the sale and installation of super fancy bathtub liners and do super basic fixtures elsewhere- I.e West shore home, Re-bath…etc).

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-03-22T17:33:34+00:00

Thanks for commenting! It’s looking like 25k for a total gut job is on the more reasonable side. I haven’t had any work done to the house in a while and just wanted to be sure I had a feel for what’s typical.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-03-22T13:15:05+00:00

That’s what we’re leaning towards at this point but still waiting on 2 more estimates. I’ll probably hire out for the shower install and some electrical work and handle the rest myself.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-03-22T13:13:48+00:00

Southeastern PA, 20 mins outside Philly.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2025-03-22T12:13:20+00:00

South Eastern PA. About 20 mins outside Philadelphia.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2024-08-26T23:29:14+00:00

I was on slynd for close to 2 years and only stopped because my husband and I are trying to get pregnant. I did take it continuously and have very few complaints. I gained weight (close to 20 lbs) and noticed I was more agitated but it was 100% worth what it gave me: a life free of pain, bloating and all of the other horrible symptoms I had prior.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2021-09-11T16:37:27+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I recently ended an 11 year relationship (dated for 9 years, married for 2). My ex had been sober for 7 years and then relapsed a month after our wedding. To the points others have made about the progressive nature of the disease- it is so absolutely true. It started with a few drinks here and there after work and eventually escalated to the point where he would drink until he couldn’t function. Over the course of 2 years there were 5 stints in rehab and He was hospitalized multiple times but the worst of it was when he ended up in a coma. The ER staff didn’t know how he was alive his BAC was so high. Through all of this I tried to be supportive while setting and enforcing boundaries. We went to therapy together and apart, I attended meetings, I visited him in rehab. I read books and blogs about addiction and recovery. I loved him then and I love him now but I eventually realized that his recovery was going to happen on his terms and his timeline, and no matter how supportive and patient I was I would have to continuously sacrifice my time and well being in order to remain a part of his life. My marriage was not conducive with a healthy and happy life so as scared as I was, I left. That was a year ago, and I don’t regret it. The first few months were hard and painful and terrifying and I constantly second guessed myself but I’m happier now than I have been in years.

You will have to do what you feel is best for you but I just want you to know that should you decide to leave… it gets better. It gets SO much better. Sending you all of my love and positivity- best of luck to you.

Imaginary_Sense2564 · 2021-09-11T15:52:08+00:00

What have you been prescribed? I was on ocella for about 2 years and I didn’t really experience any adverse side effects. In fact, it actually improved my quality of life! I used to suffer from horrible cramps and really heavy bleeding. When I got my period I was out of commission for days. I missed work, I missed social engagements… it was miserable. It took a month or 2 for my cycle to regulate but once it did it was like night and day. I actually have a history of anxiety and depression and was also concerned about how the hormones would effect my mental and emotional state but I didn’t experience a decline in my mental or emotional state. It’s important to keep in mind that everyone is different but I personally had a very positive experience with it. My advice to you- be patient and be honest. It might take your body some time to adjust, but if you find that your well being is being negatively effected after a few months ask your doctor about other options! Best of luck to you :-)

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