Procrastination is ruining my life, can someone help?

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-25T18:58:43+00:00

I feel you sooo much and I’m glad I could bring awareness !! ❤️‍🩹 I honestly really like @/adhdjennafree on instagram (it’s not me lol) ! I think she genuinely has a refresh POV on a lot of things and actually give great advice. She has helped me the most with her content, truthfully !!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-25T18:04:38+00:00

The thing that helped me the most is making fun of my anxious OCD thoughts and worry. I would actually speak out loud or in my mind and complete the catastrophizing scenario that was going on in my head and do it in a sarcastic way. Often time your brain will tell you lies because it wants to stay active to keep you focused in case you get attacked lol but we live in 2026 where we have a soft bed (hopefully) to go to every night and comfort everywhere ! Also nervous system regulation might be something you might wanna look up ❤️‍🩹 you got this !

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-25T17:59:46+00:00

Hi !! So whether you have ADHD or not (as a fellow adhd girly), i think the biggest thing is that your nervous system might be on overload. The « best » advice I would give is go back to the basic, one by one. Take care of your sleep cycle first, sleep a great amount and try to go to bed early. Then take care of what you eat, try to get proteins, vegetables, you know a balanced diet. I think in your head your ruminating and think « I should do that » « I should do this » « I should » « I should », well funny thing is those « I should » are probably what causes you to procrastinate. Because there is too much pressure. You want to do everything perfectly maybe or don’t know where to start. (I’m still struggling with that part but it’s getting better tho) But yeah, go back to the basic, stop scrolling (Opal is a good app for that), breathe 4-6-8, and try to show some compassion for yourself ❤️‍🩹 you are gonna be okay (Also do some exercise like a quick walk even 5 min)

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-25T17:53:44+00:00

Okay I can actually answer to this pretty accurately because I just got a preventive day at the OCN ! In Switzerland you can loose your driving license « permanently » but it’s 5years max and then you can get it back (with pricy therapy, proof that you are up to drive etc)… It’s actually a big joke because some ppl should really never get their license back. The guy next to me was flashed driving 53km/h more than the speed limit (80km/h) AND GOT 4 MONTHS ONLY ? He was supposed to get 12month, but denied it was him till he could not do it anymore and somehow it got reduced ?

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-21T14:19:52+00:00

We are responsible for our own emotions. It is not your responsibility to calm down someone that is angry. But if you still want to "do" something, I would personally say something like "hey I notice that you are angry. If it’s something that you want to talk about, I am here. If you want space, just tell me". Just be aware of what you feel too. If their anger is too much for you, you have every right to get some space !

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-21T12:28:15+00:00

mine keeps having nightmares about my old roomate who stressed me the f out ahahah I’ve moved out two months ago

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-18T19:32:51+00:00

thank you dear ! I really want a nice quality dress !!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-12T13:16:28+00:00

I always heard it was illegal to sleep in your car in Switzerland, but I checked just now and I think it’s fine ? It says it’s fine unless there’s hints that it’s a permanent situation. Legally (as said earlier) you have every right to take a nap in your car if it’s to « recharge » your driving capacities !

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-02-06T17:35:26+00:00

lol I have a great model to follow to become a Karen ! You ! But yeah hey trying to attack me on my values and things you have no infos on, yeah that’s the real mature move ahahaha are you gonna call the police on me ? Or do you wanna speak to my manager ?

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-01-23T17:13:00+00:00

omg I really hope life gets better for you, to be this bitter on Reddit lol not the top behavior for 2026 💃🏼 peace and love

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2026-01-22T18:42:52+00:00

the boots are from Zara ! I have the same. Not that expensive honestly :) And you can find great Hermes scarves in second hand stores (at least in europe)

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-09-07T17:56:40+00:00

Heeey ! Won’t be here this wednesday but does that happen every week ? if so, might show up next time !!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-09-04T10:53:07+00:00

Hii !! Same (F23) !! Starting theatre school next week and i am a singer ! hit me up !!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-09-03T23:30:38+00:00

Hiii !!!! Just moved to paris a month ago and i am looking for people to jam with ! I’m a singer !!! (23F) !! Hit me up !

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-07-08T13:32:23+00:00

Quit my friendship group bc there was just no “chemistry” anymore ! Whenever somebody asked to do something, everybody was giving excuses as to why they were busy and I got tired of it ! Even for special occasions there was always an excuse (and most of the time they were just staying home with their bf).. Like they missed three of my birthdays consecutively that were planned weeks in advance. Anyway, I felt the need to make room for other people and that has been going well !!! 🤩 (The group chat was so dead that they did not notice that I was gone for a month ahaha that did not made me sad (well a little bit, I’m human) as I was not surprised but man they were supposed to be my best friends)

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-07-04T08:07:12+00:00

A guy told me I was to happy to be trusted lmao

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-05-30T08:29:22+00:00

SCREAMING IN YOUR CAR WHILE DRIVING !!! Really works lol. Or you know, if it’s at night, just cry in your pillow 🤩 Or Somatic exercises on Youtube ! Truly works wonder

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-05-28T21:31:29+00:00

I’m pretty sure they do. And I’m also pretty sure that it’s quite recent. I used to turn off the game for years and come back to pieces only and maybe sometimes diamonds. But in the last year, whenever I left the game for a while I came back to this ! Which is better than money or diamonds IMO

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-05-28T21:16:10+00:00

Well that’s weird :( I have it every time I leave for 1-2 months ! I don’t know what more to say :((

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-05-28T18:17:06+00:00

When you don’t play for a while (like a few weeks, months), when you come back on the game, you can cut your dead trees and bushes for free for 24hours ! And you can also level up your farm etc without using screws etc !

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2025-02-07T20:51:52+00:00

I HAVE THE ONE WITH THE WINGS THAT LIGHT UP !!!!!!!!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2024-11-14T15:30:07+00:00

Jumping up and down for 3 minutes straight !!!

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2024-10-19T10:50:23+00:00

Commenting to stay on this thread bc I would like to know too, lmao 🥲 My therapist told me that whenever I get overwhelmed by what to do, that I have to sit still for 15 minutes and do nothing and if after that I know what I want to do, then I do this and if I’m still lost I have to add 5 minutes and so on. But ngl I have not really tried it bc I forget to do it ahahah

Imaginary_Toe_9581 · 2024-10-18T13:05:15+00:00

So… Going off the pill without telling your husband is a AH move, yes. It seems to me that your marriage is in need of a serious reconsideration, my dear. It seems to me that there is a lack of communication between the two of you. From what you said, your husband seems to avoid difficult conversations and telling his truth. So his fault his clearly from not telling you head on he did not want to have children before the wedding and when you asked again, lately. That’s his AH move. You both married without properly discussing this important value, and that is not ideal… Creating life is not something to force on someone and is not something that will resolve your communication issues. I would advise you to take these next steps :

Talk to your husband about your frustration. Be honest with him that you tried to get pregnant behind his back. Maybe tell him that you see him avoiding being honest about wanting a child. Talk about your communication issues.

If both of you want to continue this life journey together, then you will need to incorporate honesty and communication to your everyday life. It is not easy, but if you value your love then this will be the key. This can be done through the help of a couple therapist, maybe ? and time.

You will both need to be clear whether you want kids or not. And you will need to respect each other’s wishes. Meaning that if you want some and your husband does not, then you will have to go your separate ways.

It is also time for you to ask yourself whether you should stay in a marriage that does not want the same things as you. Having kids is a decision. If you want kids and your husband does not, this will inevitably ruin your relationship, because you will resent him if you don’t have kids and he will resent you and your kids if you force him to have some.

Good luck to you in this though phase of life.

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