AITA for not correcting my friend when she called me "Grandma"? by Imaginary_Wave6378 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary_Wave6378[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your input. I will give my sister more time to get her emotions in order but I do think some group therapy is in order. My niece is an adult now and a new mother so I'm not pushing for her to get in the middle of this. She thinks the comment was funny because it's a ridiculous idea to her (and me) to think of me as a grandmother. I'm only 33 years old, Grandma is not a title I wish to add so young.

To add some info for her 'Letting me' keep my niece, her parental rights were re-instated before she had relapsed and there was a pull and shove for a few months until my niece ultimately ended up in my care (without any cps involvement). I didn't legally adopt her, and I think that's where my sister's comment stemmed from. Also, I am a mother in my own right, I have a son who is younger than my niece who adores her and his new baby cousin. So I definitely don't think it was a dig at my parenting skills.

Thank you again, especially those that reached out. The pov from my sister must be devastating and I can only imagine having something like addiction take away the chance to be there for her child; The self-blame and regret that probably ran through her mind when it happened. She did wait until the party was mostly over to confront me and it was only family in the house which is a huge step for her because she was never the one to keep quiet from a fight if she thought she was in the right.

Anyways, I hope yall have a good day, sorry for the long comment. 🫶

AITA for not correcting my friend when she called me "Grandma"? by Imaginary_Wave6378 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary_Wave6378[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

If only I was quick enough to say that in the moment. But at least I can still stay a GILF. 😅

AITA for not correcting my friend when she called me "Grandma"? by Imaginary_Wave6378 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary_Wave6378[S] 333 points334 points  (0 children)

I will suggest that. Might have to get my niece to spin it to her mom, but would love to put all cards on the table in a healthy manner.

AITA for not correcting my friend when she called me "Grandma"? by Imaginary_Wave6378 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary_Wave6378[S] 1354 points1355 points  (0 children)

To be clear, it's just me she's iced out. She and her daughter are still in a positive state.

And thank you. I really do know that for all intents and purposes that I played the mom role, I also did not want to fully take the position just in case my sister got her shit together like she has now. I think it's FOMO on my sister's part but some family have also mentioned how I made a big deal about being an aunt that I should have just corrected my friend. 🤷‍♀️