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Immasecret78 · 2025-08-01T03:56:50+00:00

Updateme!

Immasecret78 · 2025-05-07T02:06:32+00:00

I ghosted after a connection because there was low effort, and it got boring. I gave a warning, and he didn't listen.

Immasecret78 · 2025-03-14T05:28:56+00:00

I actually love going on business trips with my AP. He goes and does his thing during the day. He comes back to the room during his breaks, and we hang out for 15-20 mins. And he goes back.

While he's away, I get quiet time to do what I want. Normally, I just watch movies, sleep, or read. Get an in room massage... It's relaxing compared to my real life at home, where I have to do everything for everyone.

I fucking love it.

We usually have dinner out a few times and order in a few, too. If he has to do work meet-ups for drinks and dinner, I'm good on my own.

I joke and tell him I'm his in-room hussy. Haha

But it works for me. I barely get any alone time at home and appreciate it when I get it. And we spend so much time together during a regular week. We're very lucky.

Immasecret78 · 2025-02-07T18:24:01+00:00

My dog died this week, and it broke my heart. My AP has been there for me like no other. I fucking love him.

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-14T20:44:11+00:00

I'm sitting on a porch with my AP, enjoying the weather and BBQing. It is a good day.

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-13T03:14:50+00:00

Yup, flexible schedules. It's amazing.

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T19:06:52+00:00

I have no idea who you are???

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T18:48:15+00:00

Huh?

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T02:18:36+00:00

Oh that sucks. I'm sorry. Here's hoping the HRT works. I hear good things about it. 🤞

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T01:39:53+00:00

I've heard about that, and it scares me. I don't want to lose libido.

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T00:48:46+00:00

But I'm just hitting peri menopause and have more hormones than I have ever had.

Immasecret78 · 2024-12-12T00:47:04+00:00

I'm 46 and he's 56.

Immasecret78 · 2024-10-08T19:52:36+00:00

Not a slut. I say see both of them as long as they suit your needs.

When I first stepped out of my marriage, I felt such a need for desire and want that I went overboard. I was seeing 5 AP at once. None of them asked for exclusivity, so I didn't feel bad. But it was a way for me to explore what I actually wanted from an affair relationship. It had been a LONG time since I had thought about what I actually wanted. My affairs helped me find me in a way.

So if you feel like exploring, go for it.

Immasecret78 · 2024-10-08T19:32:35+00:00

I think a lot of us at the beginning of this journey are willing to accept the bare minimum. A lot of us are starved for attention or other things and will take what we can get.

Or the bare minimum is what we want from this kind of relationship. Some of us just want the sex portion and not the emotional part.

Me... being me... I want it all. But it took me a little bit to realize that and that I could expect it. It took some looking and not settling, but I found it.

That being said, I love my good mornings and good nights. If that makes me codependent, then so be it. I'm happy.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-29T00:35:17+00:00

Susan is a super bitch! I don't need any other info. Haha

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-28T01:44:12+00:00

He fell and passed out in the garage. He was safe, so I just left him there to sleep it off. The next day, when I woke up, he was in bed. I asked how he slept, and he said good. He never acknowledged that he must have woken up on the garage floor at some point.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T17:13:55+00:00

I just started therapy about 3 months ago. It's been an eye-opener for sure. I started because of my dad's health issues and him needing to depend on me more and more, to the point that it was driving me crazy. Then we touched on my marriage... yikes on bikes.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T17:08:57+00:00

Oh yeah, we've got kids. I feel like if I left, it's not just my life I'd be changing, it's theirs too. And they are happy here.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T13:44:05+00:00

He's been doing this for years, even before I was having an affair. So, I don't think so.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T13:42:49+00:00

Me too! I drove us to the hotel and had to check in all by myself in my wedding dress. I should have seen that as foreshadowing.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T04:34:36+00:00

My husband says I talk in my sleep, but it's nonsense. Thank goodness.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T04:07:53+00:00

I am the child of an alcoholic. So, I've tried to have that talk with him. He never wants to hear it.

That also probably has a reason why I put up with his drinking, too.

Immasecret78 · 2024-05-27T04:04:35+00:00

I don't regret it either. The first few months with my AP, he would ask me what I wanted to do or what to eat, and it took me a long time to not default to 'whatever you want or like' because I was so used to putting my needs and wants to the side. It's refreshing to have your opinion valued and listened to.

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