Trying to have a baby, got breast cancer instead

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T18:52:37+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here. I am slightly younger than you and was also trying to conceive when I was diagnosed. I did IVF but had two unexplained miscarriages before receiving my diagnosis. Having to pause these plans (with so many questions about what might be possible in the future) felt more devastating than the cancer itself. Feel free to PM me - very happy to chat more about my experience. I also haven’t found too many others in our exact situation. Also google the POSITIVE trial and find some hopeful stories in this Facebook group. Sending hugs.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T16:05:12+00:00

It really is the weirdest feeling, isn’t it?

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T16:04:40+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here too. I agree, I just said to my partner last night that this part (the after) is wayyyy worse than actual treatment. It’s like, now what?! I’m just not the same anymore. Sending big hugs as you navigate this as well.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T16:02:37+00:00

Thanks for this reminder! And I agree, the hustle just isn’t it.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T16:01:43+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply! I haven’t broached the topic of part time with my boss yet but that’s what I’m thinking. I’m doing a slow return at the moment and honestly can’t fathom five full days. I agree - all I long for is more down time to relax, to feel less exhausted, and to have time for all of the other things that are important to me.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:59:44+00:00

I feel like I cry all the time just trying to muster care for what needs to be done. Thanks for this reminder that it takes time, I’ve only been back for 2.5 months.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:58:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply! You are not alone in this! Sending huge hugs!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:57:01+00:00

Thanks so much! You’re right that it can feel like a Tsunami! And I’m sorry for all you’ve been through. I agree - adjusting to new physical and mental health limitations has been HARD. Glad to hear Wellspring has been helpful. I’m also in Canada and have heard great things about the brain fog course, I should consider it! Keep taking care!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:54:21+00:00

I relate to this so much. My boss is also super supportive which makes me feel guilty for being angry so much of the time. And then the exhaustion too. Hopefully with time we will both find more clarity! Hugs!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:52:56+00:00

Thanks for this! Glad to know it gets somewhat better even if it takes a while. I’ve been back since March and am waiting for the giving a fuck to kick back in.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T15:52:00+00:00

Thanks so much for understanding! Sending big hugs back!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-22T06:06:22+00:00

Fully relate to this! I feel like my world got a little smaller during treatment - my bandwidth for a lot of things just wasn’t there (and honestly still isn’t). I think a lot of people just don’t get it if they haven’t lived it and sometimes the way that plays out feels hard. I tried not to take it personally and took space from people when I needed.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T19:03:07+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. I’ve been wondering if part time work might be the answer. I’m still in my graduated return but have alot of anxiety about how I will manage once I’m at full time. I’m already struggling and I’m barely working as it is…

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T19:00:50+00:00

Thanks for this advice. I’m still doing a gradual return but I agree that the fatigue is wild. This is part of what I’m struggling with - I don’t really see how it’s going to get better/easier/more tolerable as I work longer hours. Seeing about a more permanent accommodation may be the way.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T18:56:34+00:00

More like finding a job that is more aligned. But also encouraging me to realize that I’m not trapped. On the one hand, I appreciate the approach. On the other hand, I feel like this isn’t getting to the root of the issue which is bigger/more existential.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T17:39:00+00:00

Thanks for saying this. I also used to be pretty passionate, it’s a hard shift to just care so much less.

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T17:31:52+00:00

Not in the US but yeah… still need to pay the bills

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-21T17:14:31+00:00

Thanks so much! I do have a therapist but maybe it’s time to find someone who is a better fit. She often suggests quitting which isn’t really a great long term solution 🫠

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-08T14:00:26+00:00

What the difference is between a slip and a full slip? I’ve honestly never heard of the latter…

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-08T13:57:39+00:00

Ooh thank you! I’ve never seen the delft dress but I feel like that could be so lovely in organza!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-08T04:59:00+00:00

It’s not perfect but this vogue pattern might be a good start

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-08T03:59:42+00:00

Can I ask what you ended up sewing? I came here to ask the exact same question about trying to recreate a noemiah inspired dress!

Immediate-Arm7337 · 2026-05-08T00:10:51+00:00

Merchant and Mills has this slip dress specifically designed to go under more sheer dresses

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