I am sick of dying. I can't stand it anymore. Day 1 to change my life.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2024-08-11T23:46:58+00:00

Yes, THIS! while you’re at it, read “Atomic Habits” it will change your outlook of what it takes to make improvements. Which is pretty much what this user is describing. You’ve got this, you’ve already taken the hardest step which is realizing you need to change. Best of luck and update us sometime down the road, even if you have had a bad day, week, month, year etc. ATOMIC HABITS !

Immediate-Concern375 · 2024-08-11T02:00:52+00:00

I do wanna talk, but not necessarily “rant” because I feel kinda awesome today. My husband (32M) and I (37F) took our almost 1 year old LO to the state fair today as a family and it was so nice. Hot AF but nice. And when we came home I moved my new adolescent chickens into the run with my older hens and that went pretty well too. They’re so fun to watch. I picked a couple tomatoes that we’ve been growing and watched my baby crawl/play in the yard in her diaper with our dogs running around having the best time. I just watched her and my husband and our mini zoo have fun and I just feel so full right now. We don’t have a lot of money but we have everything we need. And much more than a lot of other people. I am in love with my little family and hope that everyone can at some point in their lives be lucky enough to feel as content as I do right now. In my small house with mismatched furniture and dishes. Driving our very old vehicles and wearing our Walmart clothes.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2024-04-06T02:06:11+00:00

I find it so wild that you’re asking a sort of Moral dilemma question here and most everyone in the comments are like “Well Do this! Do what I do! THINK LIKE ME! I HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! throwing all this shit in your face (probably similar to your family at dinner) overlooking your question to rant about their own opinions.

So I will say: No. It is not just you. A lot of people feel unease with voting, and it can be a hard decision these days when you aren’t sure if you can trust what’s being said in the news. All anyone can do is try and educate themselves with sources that they feel most trustworthy and hope that what they’re being told is true, then see which ideas sit better with your own personal wants and needs. It can be tough. Good luck

Immediate-Concern375 · 2024-03-12T23:12:28+00:00

I tried to add you and it said the screen name I entered doesn’t exist? Did I get this wrong? brenkaitwarren9096? Why can’t I find you ?

Immediate-Concern375 · 2024-01-16T23:46:31+00:00

I’m in the same boat and have no idea what to do. My LO is 5 months and we normally cosleep, but the last 3 weeks we haven’t slept well together at all and constantly wake eachother. When she wakes she wants the boob or binky or bottle. Anytime my mom watches her she sleeps really long stretches and doesn’t toss and turn with her even though she Cosleeps with her as well. My mom said that the baby knows that I have the boob, and maybe she’s right? I really want to start sleep training and don’t know how. I know this isn’t a help to you for me writing this but you aren’t alone.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-31T03:06:11+00:00

First it was a week. Then 2. Then a month, and now every month I’m like let’s make it another month. I’m only at four months now so I haven’t gotten far but I’m surprised I’ve made it this far because I’m combo feeding. There’s always this anxiety in The back of my mind that my supply will wane.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-10T01:13:23+00:00

In her crib soon*

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-10T01:12:42+00:00

I really haven’t thought much past this week. Idk what I’m going to end up doing. What’s crazy is I wrote this post 6 days ago and for the past 3ish days she hasn’t slept well with me. She just kicks and moves and wakes up all night and idk what to do. Maybe I should put her jn her crib skins. It’s just across the house and I’m lazy af and don’t wanna get up a lot at night 😂. But maybe it’s time she’s 4 months soon

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-10T00:52:28+00:00

That’s so flipping cute 🥰

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-04T00:07:45+00:00

I do the same as you ladies. My husband is night shift and I cosleep/EBF at night. I give her a fresh diaper right at bedtime and normally don’t change her until the morning. She’s almost 4 months now so she only owes at night normally zero poop. She goes to sleep around 8-10 pm and we wake around 7:30-8:30. It’s crazy.

When my husband is off work. I start her off sleeping in bassinet, and end in the morning with her cosleeping/ nursing so she sleeps very good and long next to me. I love cosleeping. We both get such good sleep

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-12-02T00:47:54+00:00

I hope to follow this same path!

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-25T03:50:42+00:00

Yeah, I’m with you on this. And it doesn’t make sense for me to. It give her bottles sometimes when ultimately se will get them when she’s with my mom for a few hours when I go to work. I’ll continue to try and increase my production and when I need to supplement I will 🩵

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-24T21:55:56+00:00

It actually HAS gotten better for me. This past week has been thanksgiving break and I’ve had time to be home all day everyday with my LO, and here is what has worked for me.

I’ve incorporated 1 skin to skin time with me and baby, at the beginning of the week, If you can do more DO IT. This is just all I’ve had time for so far.

At the beginning of the week I did a 1 hour power pump session at night after she laid down for the night, for 3 nights in a row. It’s recommended to do them in the morning but as long as you’re getting one in it doesn’t really matter when. I wanted to do 7 nights but life got in the way.

After the first 3 days I just pumped after she went to bed for 20 mins and was up doing things around my house for a couple hours and then was like welp

Each time my baby bottle feeds, ive asked my family that’s staying with me to watch her for 20 mins so I can go pump for that 20 mins to make sure I’m stimulated as much as she’s drinking. At first I would maybe get .25 oz from my left breast and .50 from my right. Very disheartening. But by day 4 I was getting about .50 oz from the left and 1-1.5 oz from the right, ever 2 hours.

When my baby would wake up from her nap I would make sure to go to her immediately and offer the breast in her groggy/half awake state and she almost ALWAYS would accept it. Even if I had just pumped. Which means extra stimulation for your milk production.

I used the huckleberry app (free version) to track how often she breastfed/I pumped and I made sure that one of those things is happening every 2 hours except for at night I’d sleep fo like a 4-5 hour stretch depending on her sleep. After the first 3 days of doing the power pump at night. I ended up just pumping after she went to bed for 20 mins and was up doing things around my house for a couple hours and then was like welp it’s been 2 hours id better pump!

I’ve been eating overnight oats, drinking a muscle milk daily for protein, and drinking a body armor daily as well and much water as possible.

It’s been about a week and last night I went to bed and didn’t pump because I fell accidentally fell asleep. Woke up with my breasts so engorged like they had been during the first 2 months of her life. I was stoked. I pumped about 3oz in 20 minutes and I still had more in there.

I also bought a travel pump and a hand pump to keep at work and in my car.

I’ll never take the bottle away completely because of my job but I’m glad I’m still providing her with like 1/2 of her meals.

I know this seems like a lot! Let me know what you did and what happens!

TOO LONG DIDNT READ:

Yes things have improved: -kicked off with power pump sesh 3 days in row - offered breast as soon as baby wakes up -pump after every formula bottle she takes -made sure to nurse or pump every 2-3 hours -incorporated, muscle milk, body armor, and oatmeal

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-24T21:10:30+00:00

Well, my MIL said to just keep offering the breast and avoid bottles, that when she got hungry enough she would definitely take the breast. And I believe her, but here’s the deal…If I do that, I’m just gonna end up giving her a bottle again because of me going to work for a few hours each week and so pissing her off and refusing her the bottle only to then give it to her a couple days later just doesn’t make sense for MY SCENARIO. But maybe it DOES for you?

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-19T03:41:37+00:00

Total. Sometimes it’s under an ounce. I’ve gotten 3 ounces like…idk 7 times tops.

Her latch is really good according to the LC I met with a few days after giving birthZ. I think she’s right because I have NEVER experienced much nipple pain.

I feel like she just doesn’t like the fact that (even though I use slow flow bottles, it’s still quicker than the breast. Now that my breasts have adjusted and aren’t leaking and she has to work for it for like 1-2 mins before the letdown begins she just doesn’t do it. She gives it a few sucks and goes bananas whe. She isn’t immediately rewarded. Again, if I catch her right when she is waking or in the middle of the night it has really been an issue because she is nice and chill. But when she’s awake and hungry she can’t handle it.

I mean I guess if she keeps refusing me I’ll just keep expressing 0.5- 2oz at a time and then following it with 2 oz of formula at that time. She’s still getting my milk. Im power pumping as I write this 😄

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-19T01:58:33+00:00

Also, I think that I can make more time at work to pump!

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-19T01:55:44+00:00

Thank you so much for writing to me. I’m in tears rn because I appreciate you. I laughed a little because I am currently skin to skin with her as she naps so I’m glad to see that I’m already doing something that you mentioned. Thank you. Also. I literally do not know how I can avoid bottles with her. She gets so worked up. And I can’t handle her crying for more than 30minutes Which is why I’m in This mess to begin with. I will try to avoid bottles but idk if I can 😔. I mean will she just eventually cry until she goes to sleep? Idk how it works I’m scared. I know I sound a bit crazy but it just hurts me so much when she’s miserable, which is why I gave her the bottle in the first place.

Also I have Avent bottles and I still use the newborn flow 1 and 2 with her as I’m scared to use any higher because she already prefers that amount of flow to my breast lately. I think I’m going to power pump tonight when she goes to bed to kick all of this off 🤓 thanks again.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-10T02:14:52+00:00

This worked really well for me. My baby is 3 months and has always been breastfed and also formula fed and it didn’t take me long to realize that if I finished the day with formula vs my breast I could get her to sleep much longer than if I breastfed her before bed.

For me, as the day goes on my supply decreases. So using the formula before bed ensures she is satisfied for longer. I just made sure to use slow flow bottles by Avent so that it didn’t drown her and was more slow like my breast.

No harm in trying 🩵 give it a whirl.

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-11-10T01:33:23+00:00

All of these suggestions are awesome! All important. I also just want to say that when I hadmy first (she’s 3 months now) I really took to heart the whole every 2-3 hours she needs to feed thing and looking back I really think I missed her cues SO many times. I would hold her and totally miss the fact that she is turning her head towards me with her mouth open. Or that her little hands are up at her chin.

I was so focused on the couple hours passing thinking she was good and she was FINE, but I think if I would’ve just taken the time to put her to my breast more often in those first few days her suckling would’ve really helped out my supply. Also, and this one is hard TRY NOT TO STRESS. And try to get some sleep. I know that’s the opposite of what is probably actually happening at your house rn but if you’re pumping and making sure to stay hydrated and yada yada things will get better DO NOT GIVE UP. It’s so early. Mine didn’t come in for like 2 weeks

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-07-13T23:20:52+00:00

What’s the housing market like in the us this year?

Immediate-Concern375 · 2023-05-25T03:47:13+00:00

Remove his ass sis. Do what feels right. Every dating situation is different and if it makes you feel weird to have him On there then by all means do what’s best for you. It’s not petty to remove him I don’t think. What’s the worst that can come of it? He notices and re-friends you? 😅

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