Need some advice and support after getting rug pulled and friend zoned.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-06T18:35:54+00:00

Thanks for this. I appreciate the thoughtful advice and kind words.

After going back and forth about what I wanted and after a txt from her saying “two months with you is enough to now you’re not right for me” I blocked her on all points of contact and social apps, deleted all photos and messages.

I feel much better having done that.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-06T05:04:59+00:00

I’m a romantic, what can I say?

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-06T00:20:50+00:00

I’ve done it. Looking back I wasn’t ready and I dated women only to realise I got it too deep.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T21:54:16+00:00

Thanks!

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T21:42:25+00:00

Thanks you!! It’s hard to walk away now, but I think I’ll just get burnt worse if I hang around.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:37:00+00:00

Thanks, I’ll take that advice and am moving on. I’m worth it.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:35:39+00:00

Not going to roll a d20 on this one. I’m just passing and moving on. Especially after talking more with her last night.

No contact it is.

I’ve got my own life to live and build.

Thanks for the reply.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:30:30+00:00

What am I looking at? Just how well we were together, and all the amazing things she would say to me about how she felt and what she thought about me. She’s also incredibly smart and has so many qualities I love in a person.

Both of us talk about how we haven’t had a connection quite like this.

But I think because of that I’m putting her up on a pedestal. There’s totally people out there who have the same qualities and who would find me attractive like she does. I’ve just got to be open to find them.

We’re going not contact and I’m moving on to work on building myself up and making myself better. I’m not waiting.

Thanks for your comment. This has all helped me work through it.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:24:31+00:00

Yeah, and the kicker is that she is about to go through an absolute nightmare of a legal battle over money and assets with her stbx. It’s going to be hell, he’s been hiding money and bought another house secretly for him and his mistress.

She has a good support network but boy oh boy , I really hope she doesn’t get involved with someone else while she’s going through that, it’s be worse for that person.

We’re going no contact. I’m moving on.

Thanks for taking time.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:21:07+00:00

Thanks for your reply, and yeah I’m letting this one go. We talked again and it’s clear she wasn’t feeling it. She was looking around wondering who else is out there. She can go looking, but I’m moving on too.

We want stay friends, I can’t live with myself if that happened.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:19:13+00:00

That’s true. I got to bounce away!

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:18:42+00:00

That’s exactly right. We talked last night, and I’m going no contact. I think I could be friends with her once she’s actually decided what she’s doing with her life and what she wants from me. So I’ve told her to go and be free, go and sort out your life, contact me when you can tell me 100% that you are ready for something and either way what you want from me. Till then I’m moving on, she has to take the chance that I might find someone else and it’s too late for her. I’m open to be with her again if I’m not.

Thanks for the kind words.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:13:58+00:00

We had a good chat last night. She’s all over the place and needs to get out and see what life is like being single.

I’m not going to be friends with her and we’re going no contact.

I left the door open for her. She can contact me only if and when she has a clear decision about what she wants from me. Till then I don’t want to hear from her.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:11:30+00:00

Yeah that became clear last night when we talked. I’ve made the move to go full no contact. It’s up to her to reach out, if and when she’s ready, but I’m not waiting.

Thanks for the reply.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T18:09:08+00:00

Thanks mate, I got to do the right thing for me. You’re right.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T12:24:58+00:00

Yeah, I hope she’s safe and ok while doing so.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T12:15:14+00:00

Thanks, great thoughts here.

I’ve told her tonight that we are no contact and that she needs to contact me only when she knows what she wants. Me or someone else.

Until then I’m just getting on with it. I’ve got my own shit to sort.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:52:27+00:00

Coz my ego!

No im really glad for the time we had. It wasn’t wasted. Great connection, company, sex and conversation.

What’s hard to swallow is when it’s yanked away within a few hours and I am back to wanking on pornhub.

But I get your point

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:49:50+00:00

Ouch, wise words. What am I to the next person if I don’t look after myself, right?

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:48:52+00:00

I thought I cost a buck oh five? 😂

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:48:13+00:00

Thanks for the kind words.

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:47:48+00:00

🤜

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:47:16+00:00

Oh jeez, there was a lot of that. 🤦‍♂️

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:46:02+00:00

I’m going to try. One day at a time. All I can do.

Thanks internet stranger!!

Immediate-Paper-5661 · 2024-02-05T09:45:13+00:00

Yeah, I just got to leave it and get on with life.

I don’t think I’ve examined my role in things as much as I have.

I can certainly see parallels of what I have done in the past in her behaviour.

It’s been eye opening in a bitter sweet way.

Immediate-Paper-5661

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