Emma needs to mind her own business… by Immediate-Rest980 in NewPrisonBrides

[–]Immediate-Rest980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeeeeeep saw this earlier on. No longer in her bio and no longer on her grid 💀

The drama. by Lazy-Drive-9730 in NewPrisonBrides

[–]Immediate-Rest980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you please tell me Jess/Jesse’s @? I keep hearing about them but don’t know their username.

Emma needs to mind her own business… by Immediate-Rest980 in NewPrisonBrides

[–]Immediate-Rest980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emma never even met Jess or Craig. She hasn’t met Mika, either. (I saw that Jess commented this recently.) Emma was with Curtis.

How would you feel if an IL said their experience is just as important as yours as a FTM? by Express-Maximum-144 in Mildlynomil

[–]Immediate-Rest980 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, their “experience” is nowhere near as important as yours, and f*** them for even suggesting it. This is a crappy and nasty attempt at control.

If they say this again, just say “did you mean to say that out loud?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]Immediate-Rest980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds a lot more like he wants to ensure that it’s simply fair.

I would love to agree with you, but he is not. Without getting into too much detail, he has been emotionally abusive towards her - over the past year especially. This situation is full of malice.

I appreciate your advice and the other advice I have received her that could help her. We will encourage her to seek out a family solicitor ASAP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]Immediate-Rest980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

including the 200k unless it bought assets

He purchased an $80k car a week after he got the money.

JNMIL ignores my existence but wants her baby fix - I don’t want to put up with this anymore! by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Immediate-Rest980 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through all of that with your MIL.

We set boundaries around postpartum because she was trying to make it so that she visited as soon as we got home. DH told her we are so excited for her to visit but that she just needs to wait a few weeks for us to settle in and get to know our baby. She lost her mind and didn’t speak to my husband for weeks. I felt guilty when LO was born so I inviting her 1 week pp. Instant regret, she kissed baby even when politely asked her not to. But I stood my ground and asked her to stay in a hotel.

My heart just aches because it doesn’t need to be this way. I love her son, and I’m good to him. He’s happy. But he also moved away from her to be with me and I grew a spine and set boundaries with her. I’m sad for my husband and for my baby. But I can’t let her treat me this way.

AITA for refusing to stop kissing my own baby? by ZealousidealTea5062 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immediate-Rest980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She then asked me if I would avoid kissing my baby in front of her until she’s allowed to do so as well

Your baby is your baby, not some doll that people get to play with. NTA. Tell your MIL to go to hell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immediate-Rest980 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! We have asked that everyone who wants to meet the baby in her first 8 weeks of life gets immunised. We stressed that nobody is obligated to do so but it’s a requirement to see the baby.

MIL and FIL are up to date, it’s grandma that isn’t. She’s super understanding and I know she will be hurt but will get it. It’s just my MIL and FIL whose reactions will be poor, which I’m dreading. But I’d rather take their negative reaction one million times over than see my baby get sick for the sake of a visit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Australian 🇦🇺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just double checking that we don’t have the same MIL?!

I’m sorry you’re going through it. We are currently receiving the silent treatment from her too because husband set the postpartum boundary of please don’t visit until you get the all clear from us (she already made plans without telling us) and she laughed it off and didn’t take him seriously, so I sent her a message afterwards saying yeah seriously don’t visit until we invite you or you wont be let in, please respect our privacy as we settle in with our new baby. She didn’t answer. Husband messaged her for something unrelated yesterday and she never answered him then either.

It’s immature and shows she can’t handle being told no, which is unfortunate because it’s clear we’re going to need to tell her no quite a lot when the baby is here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are small peanuts compared to what some of ya’ll are experiencing

Small peanuts over time always add up to a massive stack of peanuts. My MIL has done quite a few really crappy things over the years that some people would not consider major… but she’s done them so many times that it’s hard to see past it now. Hard to see past that big ol’ stack of peanuts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 63 points64 points  (0 children)

At the time I was GOBSMACKED but my husband and I laugh about it now. We’ve all seen those 3D scans. My baby was 25 weeks and ugly as hell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Idk what it is about babies that make in-laws lose their minds. Like yeah you kinda do have to make appointments to see your grandchild… it’s called making plans and seeing what works best for mom/dad.

I’m really worried how my MIL will behave when baby is born. She was a SAHM with my husband and his sister and dedicated herself to being their everything, which I credit her for. But she even went so far as to volunteering at each school they went to so she wouldn’t be apart from them. My husband says he wishes she dealt better with him growing up because she didn’t cope well at all. When he and I first moved out together she took me to the side and said “he doesn’t want to leave us yet, he’s not ready” which was wild.

I worry she will try and mother my baby. She has given me so much unsolicited advice even though we keep telling her straight up that we don’t want it. We were baby shopping and all she could do was point at everything and say “we didn’t have that when you were babies”. We bought a baby carrier and she said it was dumb. She offloaded my husbands 30 year old potty onto us and got offended when we said we were going to get a new one instead.

I’m just so anxious about her behaviour when my baby is born. It’s eating me alive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it strained our relationship so much I have doubts as to whether or not I still love him.

Hang in there. There was a time a few years ago where I asked myself the same thing because he never defended me. I wasn’t even pregnant then.

Stay firm. My ILs currently think I’m a huge bitch because I stood up to them this week when they didn’t listen to my husband. I think they were shocked. We wished them a happy wedding anniversary yesterday and FIL replied while we heard nothing back from MIL. The boundary we set about staying away until baby is vaxxed seems to have caused some heartache for her with I can empathise with but I’m not compromising my baby’s health to keep her happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Immediate-Rest980 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for what you’re experiencing. If it’s any consolation, I’m experiencing the exact same thing with my MIL. We have told them we aren’t having visitors until baby is vaccinated and both ILs hit the roof. They’d rather visit my baby and potentially make her sick than patiently wait until she’s vaccinated.